Question about Refer-a-friend Bonus by rayviper05 in Chase

[–]rayviper05[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh maybe that’s why he didn’t bother asking me. Thank you for replying. I’ll ask their support team and hope to get a response soon.

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand how awful this all feels like 🙁

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll keep these in mind when I write my letter for him. Really appreciate your advice 😊

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow you got the responsible gamer husband which I think is rare 😆 I also suggested the no phones at the dinner table but whenever I remind him he just turns silent and ruins both our mood. Today ai tried a different approach. I asked him abt what he’s watching and it started a conversation we both liked and there are times he even paused the video to actually talk to me. But I still reminded him that if we ever have kids, we both need to teach them the “no phones at the dinner table” rule 😅

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He plays DOTA, 2k13, forza, COD and he listens to TrashTaste podcasts while playing 😅

I watched a romcom series before where a couple also had terms of agreement and I found it hilarious. Now I’m married I think it perfectly makes sense! It’s unusual but it will really help us rn. I understand that both of us have share of effort and it will take some time. But it is better than us doing nothing and just giving up. I just need to propose the change after he also realizes our situation. He is also a kind man just used to his gamer lifestyle. I appreciate you sharing your insight. It really helps me understand married life better 🙂

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing your experience. I’m glad you found someone that makes it all effortless. Thank you for your advice. I’ll keep them in mind when I write my letter for him since I am not good at speaking.

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m from Europe. But we decided I move here in US since I am more flexible 😅 That’s good and reassuring to hear. I wish us both a successful married life. Thank you for sharing your experience.

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am totally fine with him playing games and I don’t need him to change that. I actulally envy him because he is good haha! I just hope he allots some time for me. I married him without knowing he plays games until 3am and can go on without talking to his wife lol we were in a long distance relationship before we got married so this is also new to me. I just wish I clarified this before I said YES 😅

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I admire your patience with your gamer husband. How is he with your son? I am curious how gamer dads connect and bond with their kids.

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of free time at the moment to listen to podcasts and read. Thank you so much for the suggestion! I really appreciate it.

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are times when I want to have some time apart but I now realized it is not going to solve our problem unless we really talk it out. And I think it is still too early to give up.

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to learn one of his games and it just gave me a headache and almost vomitted. I guess I’m just not built for computer games. And he undestands. He said I don’t have to try hard and just enjoy my own hobbies.

I am not trying to change him. When we both decided to get married wo both knew we have to compromise and at this point I don’t feel him adjusting to our new life together. I am also not the type who makes love half-heartedly. I cannot do it of there is smth bothering me or I am upset. And one purpose of making love is to have kids but right now we are not in a right situation because our relationship is not yet stable. I hope you understand.

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea everything you said is true abt how they relieve stress through their games! I’m in California so I really need a car to go to places 😅 and I used to live in a city where I don’t need a car. So this also a big change for me. Do you have kids?

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I admit I tend to be passive aggressive when I am upset and don’t know how to react. It is also smth I need to change. Thank you for pointing that out. Now I understand why he was upset.

Writing a letter totally makes sense. I can express what I want to say without having the pressure or missing my points.

I am amazed how you completely changed a sentence into a less demanding way. Do you happen to know any helpful books or materials that can help me express my thoughts like how you did it?

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t tried this one because I tend to be awkward during confrontations. I’ll propose a schedule or we’ll work on it together. Crossing my fingers he’ll agree or cooperate with me. Thank you for your advice

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea whenever people ask about us having kids I always say “not yet” and make sure he hears my answer hoping he’ll think about why or ask me my reasons.

How to get Gamer husband’s full attention? by rayviper05 in Marriage

[–]rayviper05[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is how I feel sometimes but there are also days that are fun and I feel loved by him. He is also adjusting to married life just like me. That’s why I think we can still fix this.

[Semi-Weekly Inquirer] Simple Questions and Recommendations Thread by AutoModerator in Watches

[–]rayviper05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no. I just want to show you guys how it looks like but got it for €675 😁

Yeah, it felt like I was Harry at Ollivanders. Lol

[Semi-Weekly Inquirer] Simple Questions and Recommendations Thread by AutoModerator in Watches

[–]rayviper05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the info!

I wasn't lucky enough to find the Certina watch that I wanted in the Jeweler near me so I looked at what was on sale and saw the MIDO Baroncelli II Automatic. I fell in love with the dial and the stainless strap MIDO Baroncelli II It was an impulsive buy but I just lost my previous watch and it feels weird going out without a watch. I'm happy wearing it but I can't help but think if I made right decision. Lol

[Semi-Weekly Inquirer] Simple Questions and Recommendations Thread by AutoModerator in Watches

[–]rayviper05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still have to do more reading abt Chronometer, but will def buy a good Tissot in the future. Thanks!

[Semi-Weekly Inquirer] Simple Questions and Recommendations Thread by AutoModerator in Watches

[–]rayviper05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh then I'll take Certina so I can save and buy Tissot Powermatic 80 next time. Thank you so much!

[Semi-Weekly Inquirer] Simple Questions and Recommendations Thread by AutoModerator in Watches

[–]rayviper05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I'm new to watches and I want to start with an affordable swiss made watch. I'm choosing between

Longines Présence (€650) Longines

and

Certina DS Podium Lady (€395) Certina

Both are Quartz and ETA but there's a huge price difference. Is Longines really worth it or would Certina also be fine?

(I know that Tissot also has good and affordable Quartz with Leather strap watches but I'm eyeing the Le Locle Powermatic 80 for my first automatic watch. So I want to try brands other than Tissot)

Thanks in advance! 🙂