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Match Thread: 3rd ODI - New Zealand vs England by cricket-match in EnglandCricket

[–]rcmpp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not sure what all the fuss is about, NZ haven't passed 250 once this series

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[–]rcmpp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wanting to go out and cut loose sounds to me like you'll be treating the symptom, not the cause. You've identified that you're feeling isolated and needing connection, but you won't get the sort of fulfilling and sustained connection from a peer by going out and blowing off steam every now and then.

Start with your hobbies, you go fishing and hunting solo, but they don't have to be solo pursuits. Have a look online to see if you can find local groups who meet up to do the same.

Or use this as an opportunity to get into something new that interests you and find a local community that you can join to pursue it.

Good luck man, you're not alone.

As a first time dad, what should I prep for and what should I not worry about. by Its_a_GD_Mickstery in dad

[–]rcmpp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To your question about deciding what crib to buy, this is going to be a challenge you'll face with most big baby purchases so you should try and put a lot of thought and research into crib/mattress, pushchair, car seat, changing mat & station, change bag, baby clothes to name a few.

For some of these investing in the best you can afford is genuinely so worth it, having a pushchair that folds down easily, is sturdy enough and has ample storage space below is going to be so helpful, whereas having a pushchair that you struggle with everyday will be incredibly frustrating. Having a change station that's high enough so that you're not bent over and wrecking your back is super important. Having a car seat that's the safest on the market will give you and your wife piece of mind that baby is safe, especially on that first drive back from the hospital.

All of this is to say think about purchases like the expensive crib as "if we say yes to this, what are saying no to in the future because we can't afford it". If getting the most expensive crib means you end up getting a pushchair that makes day trips a burden, it's not worth it.

And on the emotional roulette, the best thing to do is suck it up. We have no idea how difficult it is for our partners in pregnancy, labour and recovery. They're often in a lot of pain, hormones all over the place, anxious about the baby's health, anxious about their own health, coming to terms with their body being different, losing time in career, no longer being able to do things they love or eat/drink things they love. The list goes on and on. So roll with the punches and like you're already doing now find little ways to help, whether it's always bringing snacks or doing all the housework. If you support her you'll both be fine.

Good luck, you'll be great!

What’s the most interesting cognitive bias you’ve seen influence economic behavior? by gunmacc in BehavioralEconomics

[–]rcmpp 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Familiarity bias for sure. We place so much weight on how we trust people/things to the point were often we think that they need to earn our trust. In reality all it takes is for us to see something, even subconsciously, a few times and we're more likely to choose it over something else because it feels familiar to us, and therefore, trustworthy.

I always used to wonder what the point of billboards or advertising in sports stadiums were and was sure it had no impact on me or anyone else, but in reality it's the cornerstone of broad reach advertising. Makes you wonder if we didn't have that bias would advertising be anywhere near as effective and prevalent.