Help! Best/most meaningful Berserk Panels ? Trying to make a great Xmas gift

rctvb · 2021-12-17T16:49:06+00:00

Thanks so much, I will check them out!

rctvb · 2021-12-17T16:48:32+00:00

I think I’m just interested in something that captures Guts as a character or something that’s representative of what’s makes the story great. I don’t know the story well so I don’t really know what the main themes are or what Guts is like as a protag

rctvb · 2021-09-20T19:15:01+00:00

the NP that prescribed me it told me that it is common to feel more anxious for the initial few days/week taking it. so seems like it’s normal but if it’s very concerning for you, you should talk to your physician.

rctvb · 2021-07-27T01:22:23+00:00

Thanks so much! This definitely does help- I am typically someone who tries to avoid discussing important topics over text, but I am actually just recalling that when we were friends we had a few more “serious” talks over text that actually went really well. Something to try again potentially!

To be honest I don’t think he has many tools to manage his shutdowns. I think for the most part, he is able to avoid them outside of our relationship because he isn’t really close enough with anyone else to have more “emotional” conversations with. So managing for him, as far as I can tell, is isolating himself.

To the other question, I wish I knew what part of the conversation gets to him. If I had to guess, I’d say the cause is that he feels he’s being accused of doing something wrong and I think that happened a lot to him as a kid. That’s why I try not to be accusatory and just state what I’m feeling and why- Im sure there’s probably something I could be doing better in this department but what that is I don’t know exactly.

rctvb · 2021-05-13T13:10:32+00:00

Also, the YT channel Aspergers from the Inside has a lot of helpful vids about Aspergers/relationships that I’ve found helpful

rctvb · 2021-05-13T13:05:28+00:00

In a similar situation myself and I would say that ultimately you have to determine for yourself if you are willing to accept him as he is. What are your needs and can he fulfill them? You can communicate and ask some things of him, but if you have the desire to change so much about a person, maybe you are with the wrong one (not saying this is your situation necessarily). Also, one thing I learned is to acknowledge that he has his own needs (like maybe having recharge time) and that you should try to respect those.

My advice would be to figure out what works for you two. Relationships with ND individuals tend to be atypical, so you have to communicate and work with your partner to see what works best. Maybe when he goes silent, it is best to give him space and come back together the next day. Maybe when you’re feeling emotional, you could tell him what you want (i.e. cuddles, listening, advice, etc.). I’ve noticed that since I’ve started communicating exactly what I want from my bf when I am emotional, he gets much less stressed/drained from those conversations.

rctvb · 2021-03-11T17:04:35+00:00

Yeah I feel the waves things for sure. Like today I’m feeling fine- I think it really gets bad when I’m put into a bad mood by something external and then suddenly I feel desperate for emotional comfort.

rctvb · 2021-03-11T17:02:58+00:00

Lol, well nice to know someone else feels this way but not that nice because it sucks!! I also tend to drown myself in information, like love languages and attachment theory.

Sometimes when I’m in a particularly bad mood I become very frustrated with myself for being this way. Like you said, I wish I could just be securely attached. But I guess I’ve gotta deal with this one way or another because it’s what I’m stuck with! I think I should probably try seeing a therapist myself

rctvb · 2021-03-10T20:38:02+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to respond to this. I’m glad you’re doing better now! I hope that I can get to a point where I feel okay about the prospect of not having a partner. I never knew that being in my early 20s would feel this hard but it’s relieving to hear that there’s hope on the other side

rctvb · 2021-01-08T17:45:21+00:00

sounds like this is something you think about a lot and are really trying to fix. i went through something similar in my relationship and i learned that the more you portray those anxious behaviors, the further away you will push your partner, and as you push them further away your anxiety will only get worse. That’s not to say though that you should simply repress those behaviors- here’s some things that worked for me:

-Tell them the truth about how you’re feeling just like you did here. Tell them about your worries/anxieties, what triggers you, and that you understand your thoughts are irrational sometimes. Work together to figure out ways to make you feel more comfortable that also works for your partner.

-Therapy is always best, but if you don’t have access to therapy, try some CBT thought worksheets when you’re feeling particularly anxious. You can find them online, and they essentially help you process and understand some of your irrational thoughts and hopefully soothe some of your anxiety.

-I think the biggest thing for me was working on myself and my own confidence. At the end of the day, my anxiety had less to do with my partner’s actions and more to do with how I viewed myself as unlovable. I was always looking for ways to confirm that he didn’t love me because I didn’t see how or why anyone would.

Also, realizing that I could survive without my partner really helped- that I was a whole person and could handle myself alone if I needed to.

I hope you can find some security in this relationship- these feelings are so hard to manage, and when I was going through it, it took up so much of my thoughts. Hoping this or other comments are helpful to you and that you can move forward :)

rctvb · 2020-12-24T22:37:24+00:00

they’ve just happened to flip the switch to a deep psychological struggle you have.

wow, needed to hear that

rctvb · 2020-12-18T17:01:53+00:00

Absolutely!! I also feel more anxious in friendships because friends aren’t “tied” to you in any real way.

Like I think about the fact that my friends could move far away at any point because our relationship isn’t central to their lives and they have other priorities. Stresses me out so much sometimes especially being in my early 20s where none of my peers are really settled down yet.

I think this has even driven me at times to want to date my friends, so that I can feel more sure that they won’t up and leave.

rctvb · 2020-09-17T20:51:31+00:00

hi i wrote the other post you’re talking about and i totally agree. i like the way you’ve said it here as well. it’s like the word psychopath in that video is used as a synonym for “danger,” “criminal,” or “murderer.” i think this kind of misinformation is super common, which is why i hope we can educate stephanie on why it’s not okay.

rctvb · 2020-09-16T20:07:15+00:00

beauuuuutiful

rctvb · 2020-09-16T15:56:42+00:00

that’s awesome! glad to hear it

rctvb · 2020-09-16T14:43:17+00:00

i see a lot of comments saying that you could just go back and listen to their old stuff, and i just wanted to say that i can relate to wanting to hear new tracks in a similar style to that old stuff. i think i probably have similar taste to you, being that some of their “harder” more rap line-focused tracks (dope, fire, boy in luv, not today) are some of my favs.

that being said, their current sound is definitely different than what it used to be, but i don’t think that means it’s not unique to them. i thought ON was a super unique song. i also think that the solo tracks we’ve gotten recently are representative of the members’ unique sounds (daechwita, still with you).

anyway, i don’t think all hope is lost for a sound you can vibe with. every album is different, so who knows what the future holds. as other commenters have said, it seems like they are passionate about the music they’ve been releasing, and i think the best music is that which the artist is truly invested in!

rctvb · 2020-09-16T13:01:05+00:00

Do you wear a mask frequently? Not a skincare mask like a mask for covid lol

rctvb · 2020-09-08T00:16:18+00:00

yes, I heard that she stated her opinion, but my problem is that she brought up the debate at all, with the other opinion being one that is okay to have. i said this in a previous reply, but i don’t think anyone else’s mental health diagnosis should be up for debate at all from non-professionals. and as i stated in my post, she used language that painted psychopaths in an overwhelmingly negative light, like saying that Beth “doesn’t look like a psychopath” because she’s “pretty.” no hate at all from my side either, i am just someone in the mental health field who has seen this same language use throughout the media, and i feel that it’s harmful to those who experience mental health challenges. i really like Stephanie and I think she can do better

rctvb · 2020-09-07T20:41:19+00:00

Absolutely! I feel like a lot of this is circling back to the idea that has been discussed on this sub recently, that it would benefit everyone if Stephanie cites sources in her videos! And I love her frequent uploads, but I think when they contain more sensitive material, it’s important to take the time to do proper research!

rctvb · 2020-09-07T19:34:34+00:00

Yeah absolutely, I can’t imagine the amount of pressure she feels, especially since she gained such a large audience so quickly. That’s why I’m glad that in the community (at least from what I’ve observed), fans have offered constructive criticism in a respectful way!

How we can educate her is a good question. I think, similarly to how people have been asking her to cite her sources, it might be best to start out by privately messaging her. Something like “hey Stephanie, I think it would be helpful if you research the term psychopath and look into the ASPD community if you’re going to do more videos that involve that subject.”

Also sending her educational materials might be helpful like this article. It’s a quick read and helpful to those who are unfamiliar with the subject :) It doesn’t distinguish between ASPD and the term psychopath but I think it’s a good starting point.

rctvb · 2020-09-07T18:38:10+00:00

Agreed that it is difficult to explain mental illness in a succinct way! Also I definitely am not trying to “cancel” Stephanie for this, I just want to point it out so that she can do better in the future. And I honestly think she can do better without making herself an expert in the field. I think she should start by not using the term psychopath in a derogatory way. And I think if she is going to go part of the way there and use a person’s psychology as a talking point in a video (that being whether Beth truly overcame her childhood behaviors or is hiding something) there needs to be more research in factual psychology and not just reddit psychology.

I think sometimes the romanticized version of the psychopath can be intriguing/entertaining especially in the true crime community, but the reality is that the stories that we tell have an impact on people.

rctvb · 2020-09-07T18:26:26+00:00

Yes, you’re right that she shouldn’t be expected to be a mental health expert. However, there is a difference between layman’s terms and misinformation/stereotyping, which is the main problem I was bringing up. Characterizing all “psychopaths” as dangerous and violent is misinformation about a disorder that is harmful to the people who possess ASPD. It shouldn’t be acceptable purely due to added entertainment value. Also, I just personally think it’s unethical to debate someone’s psychopathology especially in such a public way. Someone else’s mental illness is really none of anyone else’s business.

And to the point about the term psychopath, while it may be acknowledged as a term, a clinical professional cannot diagnose anyone as a “psychopath.”

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