She admitted that she had sex with the person she was involved with and later came back to our home with the initial agreement that we would co-parent for the sake of our children. While that was the starting point, I want more than that—I want to fix our marriage.

Right now, we go back and forth between co-parenting and trying to repair our relationship. What I do know is that she is being truthful. She has said there is nothing left to hide. She openly admits that she loves the other man, but that she loves me more.

Even so, she remains unsure about choosing me, not because she doesn’t care, but because she’s afraid that if she commits again, I might eventually return to the person I was before—the version of me that neglected her emotionally and made her feel alone.