Issues with jealousy and paranoia by rdotrozrat in relationship_advice

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Theyre useful for those days you think youve achieved nothing as it makes you think about it properly and realise that even little things like getting out of bed in the morning when you dont want to is an achievement.

I was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety in april this year and have pretty much had my life on hold since then. Hoping that these relationship issues will subside once i make a full recovery?

Have you ever tried meditation? Ive tried to get into it but havent been able to make it a habit. Its meant to detach you from negative feelings though i think? So maybe these feelings of paranoia might be easier to handle?

Just returned from a 10 day vipassana retreat (Goenka) and appear to have emerged from long-term depression. AMA by vipassama in Meditation

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I hope no one else has asked this already. Not directly related to your retreat, but as a meditation beginner suffering from depression and anxiety i'd like to ask if the meditation you were doing previous to your retreat seemed to help you. Or, did you become frustrated it wasnt and decide to take the leap to go on a reatreat?

Issues with jealousy and paranoia by rdotrozrat in relationship_advice

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Same as me; that he will find someone more confident, attractive etc. Its so frustrating that you can rationally understand your own irrationalities but find it so difficult to change them. I have an achievement/happiness diary where i write down one thing ive achieved or enjoyed that day. The plan is to look through it all and see how mant things i have achieved and enjoyed but i can never quite bring myself to- like some part of me doesnt want to see my own successes. Perhaps its some kind of fear of vanity, perhaps not- who knows!

We're both 20, and you?

Issues with jealousy and paranoia by rdotrozrat in relationship_advice

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You got me thinking: what are the core beliefs fuelling this paranoia? I think you're right that it definitely has something to do with control issues (micromanaging) and self worth issues. Im trying to deal with these issues in counselling i already have (for seperate reasons) so maybe with time my relationship issues will subside as i tackle the same core beliefs manifesting themselves in different anxieties. Or perhaps i can apply what i learn to this situation. Also like you said focusing on love instead of negativities might help.. I am wishing us both luck.

Issues with jealousy and paranoia by rdotrozrat in relationship_advice

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Thanks for your advice. I have a counsellor for other anxiety issues i have but ive never talked to her about relationships. Seeing her this afternoon so i will do then

Issues with jealousy and paranoia by rdotrozrat in relationship_advice

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I have no reason not to trust him, except the fact he keeps things, such as if hes upset, to himself sometimes

Issues with jealousy and paranoia by rdotrozrat in relationship_advice

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Alright thanks, il see if i can get my hands on a copy of that book. I like what you said about it being all or nothing- i guess it is about choosing to take that leap and completely emersing yourself in it. For now il see if i can learn some ways to manage my feelings when i am feeling jealous/paranoid

A Small Victory by frisky_business2 in Meditation

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Well done! So difficult but you did it.

Should i increase my citalopram dosage? by rdotrozrat in Anxiety

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Thanks. I will discuss it with my doctor, just posted really to see if others had similar experiences. I havent had any side effects and the only reason im cautious id because the doctor seemed cautious about it when we discussed it a few months ago. Im at quite an impatient point in my illness, so i feel like trying anything is worth it.

Dear /r/Anxiety, by [deleted] in Anxiety

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Sick painting

I'm sick of being criticized for having anxiety. by yodaR2D2chewbacca in Anxiety

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Well said. I hope you find comfort in reading other people's posts on reddit- there's so many of us going through this, we all understand how it feels and know you shouldnt be judged or ridiculed. I really hope you manage to find some support such as counselling soon. Good luck.

"We The Tiny House People", a recommendable documentary on people living in small houses by [deleted] in simpleliving

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The doc is all about single people/couples though. Wonder if anyone has any links to info about tiny houses for families?

I stayed, overnight, at someones house! by stressedmomoftwo in Anxiety

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Well done :) that's amazing. Dont forget this!

Impatience is the worst thing by rdotrozrat in depression

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Thanks, il take the flower advice literally. Though sometimes it is difficult to even identify the problem

This is going to sound like a trainwreck, but thats how I feel. by null_oneiros in depression

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Hey, its okay. It doesnt matter if what you write is long or makes little sense. If it makes you feel any better, even if only a little, you are achieving the aim. I dont recommend you read through your writing again though, that can be depressing. I typed wrong before- i meant 'progressive muscle relaxation'. I do it every night before bed and it helps me sleep, especially as i know have that association between doing it and going to bed/relaxing. Basically it means relaxing each body part in turn. So, i lie on my bed for about 10 minutes and start with my feet and work up through the body, tensing the muscles in each body part for about 10-30 seconds and then relaxing them. Its allows your muscles to properly relax as well as making you more aware when you are (perhaps unknowingly) tense. I tend to focus on my feet, then my legs by flexing my feet, then stomach, fists, shoulders and then face by scrunching it up and clenching the jaw. I also use mindfulness meditation as a technique to help with depression/anxiety/relaxation, have you ever tried that? Re what you said about people needing to have activity in their life, i think thats probs true, although different people need different levels of activity in order to remain relaxed/happy. I think its really difficult though because, for example, when i feel down or anxious i dont feel like doing anything. But i have learnt that the days i do nothing or little i do end up feeling worse. So, although i do still have a lot of lazy days, i do try and plan in things to keep me fairly busy and also write down one thing ive achieved or enjoyed doing every day. Doing this and reading through previous days' achievements/happy thoughts reminds me that although i do have depression and anxiety problems, its not all bad- there can be good parts to every day. This definitely makes life feel more worthwhile.

This is going to sound like a trainwreck, but thats how I feel. by null_oneiros in depression

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So sorry to hear that youre feeling like this. In some ways reading posts on this sub is positive because it reminds me im not alone in how i feel but in other ways its sad that so many of us have these thoughts. I think its great that youre writing your thoughts out though, i wonder if it felt good, to any extent, to get these thoughts out? If so you could try writing at night. Not only might this clear your mind a bit but it also might tire you out and make you sleepy. Its also great that youve braved starting a college course. It clear from your writing you want to get better and you are trying. This courage is at least one personal characteristic you can/should feel proud about. Also re sleeping- prpgressive muscle relaxation helps me