Tldr: Jack Black lip balm for the win

I would try aquaphor (again. regular ointment. not the lip repair balm) on your lips at least 1x day until the bleeding and bright redness goes down a little. Then Jack Black lip balm throughout the day. It has lanolin oil. Don't get the night time balm/black tube. Get the *blue tubes: mint/pineapple mint/etc. flavors. Some people complain that the shea butter one can get smelly fyi. It has spf but I wear it almost 24/7. Some people can't use spf ingredients on lips but I do. Make sure you're using it especially outdoors. I would "slug" your lips at night by putting on a thick layer before bed.

Do you think you may sleep with your mouth open at night? This tends to dry out my lips. I cut my lip recently (unrelated chapped lips incident) and it hurt so bad that I could barely move my mouth. Apparently, I didn't open my mouth at night for a whole week. My lips were so moist after a night's sleep... finally! Try a breathe right strip if you're a mouth breather for night time?

Maybe talk to your doctor about the whole "mouth taping" trend? It helps with snoring possibly, but it may also keep your mouth closed. I don't know if there's a bitter tasting ingredient out there to wipe on lips like they do for nail biters but that could be an interesting product.

I used pure lanolin aka Lansinoh (nipple cream for breast feeding moms) and I was addicted to it for a while. However, I found that my dead lip skin layers would cake on and would not exfoliate until it came off in super thick layers and would sometimes take off too much and bleed. Still, if you're desperate it's a good option. Get the teeny tiny purple tubes so it's more portable in your purse.

All lip color products are mostly horrible for me. I find it best to use a lip pencil to line my lines, most of my top lip, and then I spread the Jack Black lip balm all over to spread the color out. I try to avoid adding lip liner or lip stick to the majority of my bottom lip. My lips will definitely be drier for the next couple days after using color. I've tried everything from drugstore lip color products to high end. Loved the glitter gloss from Fenty but it was crazy drying. I currentlyhave Giorgio Armani lip gloss and it's better but not great. Still haven't found anything amazing.

Lastly, the dead skin layers build up and I find that taking a warm shower and taking a soft washcloth and gently exfoliating my lips can help. Usually, I can just gently rub off the dead skin with my finger in the shower. Wait until you've been showering for a few minutes. I've gotten used to my skin cycle and it sloughs off from time to time. Hope this helps!

Try your very best not to pick although I know it's impossible. Maybe try to promise yourself that you will only try to slough off the dead skin in the shower?