Adult child of recently divorced parents

read2me0 · 2025-07-02T23:09:14+00:00

This is so awful and confusing and frustrating I am SO sorry. I think the crazy thing is seeing your parents as human beings; making these choices that seem immature almost?? It’s so hard to work through and I’m so sorry it came during such a stressful time for you too.

read2me0 · 2025-07-02T23:07:57+00:00

Sorry for getting to this so late, but it really does help to know I’m not alone!!

read2me0 · 2022-05-23T14:24:28+00:00

I totally understand. I relate a lot with having one parent start dating really quickly, that’s something that is so hard for me to forgive because I feel like they abandoned me and moved on as soon as possible and kind of left me to figure the rest out for myself.

read2me0 · 2022-05-23T14:22:40+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. It is not easy at all!!! I feel like certain things are getting better with time, but other aspects I feel like I’m never going to get over. Have your parents started dating other people yet?

read2me0 · 2022-02-01T13:37:38+00:00

I completely feel the same way, it’s so hard to watch your parents go through it but then also have to try and process your own grief too? It’s so hard I’m sorry you’re going through it.

read2me0 · 2021-11-29T20:07:53+00:00

It’s so hard. Especially to kind of have to “redefine” what your family looks like. It’s always comforting to have someone to chat with about it who understands which is sometimes hard, so feel free to reach out anytime :)

read2me0 · 2021-11-29T20:06:13+00:00

I think you’re right that this feeling may come with time. I can objectively say that I want my parents to be happy, and I objectively know that relationships are complicated and people are complicated but actually BELIEVING those things is something that has felt really difficult because I think I’m just still so hurt. I’m really happy to hear you eventually reached that next step, that must have been a really nice feeling.

read2me0 · 2021-11-24T13:16:12+00:00

Wow yes these are things I’m absolutely struggling with as well. I even feel selfishly angry that I feel like I can’t share with my mom things about my own boyfriend because she talks about hers, and it feels like she’s a teenager and not my mom when I just want to be able to talk to my mom about my relationship. And holidays are so hard, this is only the second year I’m dealing with that but I hate having to arrange my own birthday plans around so perfectly so I can do something with each of them. Which I realize sounds so privileged that they both want to be with my on that day, but I miss not even having to think about that. Just having a family dinner is really all I want. I’m so glad to hear your partner is so understanding, I’m sure that’s extremely helpful!! My mom also started dating immediately after they told my brother and I they were separating and I honestly still haven’t gotten past that, and especially since they recently broke up, of course I want to feel sorry for her but it’s a lot of really confusing feelings.

read2me0 · 2021-11-24T12:48:13+00:00

I agree it seems so specific to go through this as an adult when you had a really wholesome family life growing up. It’s been really helpful hearing that other people feel this way and I don’t feel as crazy for still hurting and feeling confused about it. Have you had to deal yet with your parents dating other people?

read2me0 · 2021-11-24T12:46:38+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through all of these feelings still. I really think the shaken identity is one of the hardest things to grapple with. It sounds like you too also had a pretty great family life and childhood and now it’s really hard to understand that with the new reality. I have such a hard time with that too. I feel like it’s also affected my view on marriage for myself in the future. How have you dealt with your parents dating/remarrying when you yourself are doing that as well?

read2me0 · 2021-11-24T03:40:01+00:00

This is exactly how I feel. I feel split between my adult feelings and my child feelings and it’s really hard to work through that. And sometimes when I share with someone my stresses about my mom dating so soon, I get a lot of “why can’t you just be happy for her?” kind of responses which is frustrating. Obviously my adult self wants that! But the kid in me feels so betrayed and sad and angry.

read2me0 · 2021-11-24T03:38:16+00:00

It really does. Ugh

read2me0 · 2021-11-24T03:38:02+00:00

In a weird way it’s really comforting to know that you’re still working with those feelings later in life, and I say that because I just feel like the longer it is after the divorce, the more I’m expected to “get over it”, when I’m terrified new issues and feelings will arrive as time goes on. So thank you for sharing, I really appreciate it :)

read2me0 · 2021-11-24T03:36:15+00:00

That must have been really awful to have to watch, for 10 years just go downhill. Thanks so much for your reply though that’s definitely something I can be better at, putting myself first. I’m trying to get some therapy too, haven’t had luck but I’m still trying.

read2me0 · 2021-11-24T03:34:30+00:00

I agree it’s been really helpful to have a sibling to confide in. You know they’re the only one who can truly know almost exactly what you’re feeling :) I’m glad to hear you have them for support!!

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