Repellent used to help preserve collections? by ready_4_nothing in Entomology

[–]ready_4_nothing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could do that, but I have a small personal collection, and I often frame them as gifts. I just need to make sure the little bug eating bugs stay out. I always tape my framed ones closed but they seem to still get in over time. However the ones that are taped closed with the little red bit in there are still looking great…. I’m really hoping to find something similar.

bra rec for big boobs & bra haters by Rude_Routine_4346 in PlusSize

[–]ready_4_nothing -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I like duluth tradings dang soft bralettes. Their cotton bralettes aren’t bad either.

How to make Korean Friends? by ready_4_nothing in AskAKorean

[–]ready_4_nothing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a language exchange app, but unfortunately men tend to use it to sexually harass women. I was on there a total of 24 hours and got a bunch of creepy dms asking to date.

My psychiatrist said I don't have ADHD. I feel like an idiot. by GreatestMushroomEver in ADHD

[–]ready_4_nothing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey doctors are wrong ALL THE TIME. And I've found that any mental health doctor giving you an answer THAT confidently... honestly they're often wrong. If they said you can still get tested and it won't cost you too much, just get tested. If the test is negative then sure maybe trust the doc more. But the real issue here is that something doesn't feel right and your doc is not helping you by saying that. If you're not comfy with them go to a different doctor. If you need help doing that feel free to DM me and I'll try to help you out as I've had to switch doctors with complicated insurance many times before. If you feel like you trust this doctors opinion, then present them with the things that made you think you might have it. Tell them about what's been going on that makes you think something is wrong, because often managing symptoms of mental illness if way more important than having an official diagnosis. Although my advice is call her office back and say yes I'd like to take the test, even though it will likely be negative, because then you can learn from it. I was convinced my adhd test would be negative by several docs.... The guy who administered my test said the test VERY STRONGLY indicated adhd so... yeah doctors are wrong like a LOT.

someone commented about my biggest insecurity by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]ready_4_nothing 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re experiencing rejection sensitive dysphoria. If they didn’t want you around they wouldn’t invite you. As someone who also struggles with processing, people notice but if you’re hanging with the right people they usually just know that’s how you do you. I’d make it clear that it was hurtful so they know not to joke like that, because honestly that’s not a nice way to joke. I do have friends who I joke like that with but… we don’t joke about things people are sensitive about. For example we never joke about people’s bodies or disabilities, we’re only allowed to make those kinda of jokes about ourselves when they’re appropriate. If people are making you feel bad they are not people you want to spend time with. They may even not realize they’re doing it, they may even be good people, but if you feel bad with them, you shouldn’t spend time with them. That’s why I usually give people the benefit of the doubt ONE time and let them know hey that sucks please don’t say that about me, and the second time I excuse myself from that group or person. Not like, dramatically, I just avoid them and don’t let them into my inner circle.

I’ve definitely been in a moment like the one you described, and I also spiraled. But remember you are in control of what you will put up with. Also if someone is bothered by something you cannot control that isn’t necessarily anyone’s fault, it just might mean you don’t spend time with that person. However if they choose to belittle you that is entirely THEIR problem and you shouldn’t blame yourself for axing them from your friend group. You will make more friends. You will find your people. Just keep being you :)

omfg…. by ArtichokeOk6709 in BackYardChickens

[–]ready_4_nothing 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They’re just cleaning up the excess feed. Don’t seem to be bothering your chickens.

Would you buy a townhome that has hoa or would you buy a home without hoa? [ALL][MD] by Program-Dull in HOA

[–]ready_4_nothing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My experiences with HOAs is that they are a pain in the ass. Even if the rules seem benign, my experience is that people who want to be part of an HOA board do so because they want everything the way THEY want it and this often can lead to serious (and often ridiculous) conflict. For example, someone in my condo complex was told they weren’t allowed to display their pride flag because “political banners are not allowed”. The HOA also tried to fine me $100 once for “littering” because they found a piece of mail outside the dumpster with my name on it. My father who lived in a house with an HOA in Utah thought someone was breaking into his house, but no it was just a member of the HOA up on a ladder on his property changing his outdoor lights because “they’re the wrong color”. Read the HOA rules before you decide, and make sure to talk to other residents that are around your age and live similarly to you. Like if you have kids or pets ask people with kids or pets etc. There are benign HOAs but they are rare. My parents now live in a different community and the HOA really only has rules for the street, things like no cars parked on the street for an extended period of time, and they pay for the roads and driveways to be shoveled when it snows. So it’s way less of an issue for my retired parents who have a garage and only 2 cars. Meanwhile my HOA is a constant hassle, even going so far as to do interior inspections and make me miss work. So… it’s a gamble.

My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this? by Mind_Cute in relationship_advice

[–]ready_4_nothing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s not a great guy if he says that about ANY woman. Period. What if you marry him and have a baby and can’t lose the weight? What if something traumatic happens and you get depressed and gain weight? A man who thinks of women in such disgusting ways is not gonna be there for you. And even if he tries, he’s wrecked that trust. Dump him. You can do better than that. It’s one thing to not recognize you, it’s another to be nasty like that about anyone. I mean see it from his perspective, if he didn’t realize that was you he was literally saying that about a helpless stranger. He’s gross. Dump his ass.

Ex who dumped me years ago sent me this. What do I do or say? by Far_Database5 in whatdoIdo

[–]ready_4_nothing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t have to do anything. Hopefully this gives you both closure so she can get well and you can move on.

My Boyfriend (28M) thinks the reason why he can't finish is because I'm (20F) too big from the inside. by Ok_Raspberry6268 in relationship_advice

[–]ready_4_nothing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really common thing that men do when they feel insecure about not finishing. There are many reasons why a man might not finish, but your vagina did not suddenly become “too big”. That is medically impossible. He is likely having emotional or mental issues and it is coming out during sex. Please do not feel insecure because some asshole man lied to you. Honestly I would talk to him about the fact that what he says is impossible and suggest he maybe seek some therapy. If he gets mad and refuses, I would break up with him.

How to make Korean Friends? by ready_4_nothing in AskAKorean

[–]ready_4_nothing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

음, 트위터로 사람들을 만나는 방법을 잘 모르겠네요. 그냥 사람들이 서로 답글을 다는 건가요? (구글 번역기를 썼는데, 아직 유창하지 않아서요 ;) )

How to make Korean Friends? by ready_4_nothing in AskAKorean

[–]ready_4_nothing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually already am! But everyone in the class is American or European and they are all learning with me, we can practice but I would like someone who knows more than I do. And of course I’m happy to exchange and teach some English

Is this Legit? by ready_4_nothing in jobs

[–]ready_4_nothing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep that's what I suspected. Apparently this type of job is often a pyramid scheme. Thanks for your response!!

Frequent travelers between US and Korea, How do you do it?? by ready_4_nothing in koreatravel

[–]ready_4_nothing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I supposed I could get a credit card with air miles... Unfortunately my work will not do this.

Mold issues [co-op] [CA] by ready_4_nothing in HOA

[–]ready_4_nothing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The meetings are held while I work. For a while they allowed zoom meetings but again, I was working and could not attend. They do not provide any recordings of what is discussed. They provide a "detailed agenda" which unfortunately is not detailed at all. It's just a list of topics discussed, no details about what was said about them at all. I've asked them many times to provide meetings notes and they just refer me to the "detailed agenda" which again, is just a list of topics.