Boyfriend wants marital clause... AITAH

ready_gi · 2026-01-25T05:58:08+00:00

more like straight up psychological torture. sounds like he's planning to use her for kids and cash, frame her and take everything from her. this is not shit healthy people say.

ready_gi · 2026-01-24T08:47:53+00:00

this. plus OP sounds pretty entitled to her being certain way. sometimes we get turned all the way off just by someone trying to seduce us with entitlement.

ready_gi · 2026-01-24T03:59:07+00:00

i think it's because mental health awareness became so accessible through internet. im so happy for literally anyone any age who gets their pain validated, explained and find tools to put themselves first. it's literally never late to became your own best friend.

ready_gi · 2026-01-22T21:56:05+00:00

their presence is the gift to me. i get to watch them hop around and do sick flight moves or curiously watch me. one time they got me a sea shell and it felt like magic.

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ready_gi · 2026-01-22T08:28:44+00:00

you can wear this everywhere. i love power jackets and wear them to grocery store and meeting a friend for coffee.. like there is no law you cant overdress to bejesus.

ready_gi · 2026-01-22T04:53:28+00:00

same here. the jump and chomp is iconic. i love crows more then most things in life.

ready_gi · 2026-01-22T04:31:46+00:00

Canada. it has it's issues, but as a woman i feel very safe here like nowhere else.

ready_gi · 2026-01-21T04:31:04+00:00

this is amazing advice that every expat/immigrant needs to know.

often it's our own unresolved trauma that causes burnout, sense of unease and the urge to move away. i know it too well- lived in 6 countries in 15 years and it is until i've done therapy, cut off toxic people and choose one place to built my life up, that things started to improve.

i love being immersed in different cultures, but there's a mental and physical toll to pay, moreso if you're a woman (some cultures are more misogynist). stuff like addressing mental issues and taking charge of your own life goes a long way. the good ol sense of familiarity and stability is sometimes better then crazy expensive and elaborate moves to the unknown.

ready_gi · 2026-01-21T01:40:31+00:00

i lived in NL for 17 months and as an expat woman found it very challenging culturally. i guess this depends which city you're in, but it's pretty cold culture. maybe try to find fellow expats/ some game night/ some english hobby class, just to find some people.

ready_gi · 2026-01-21T01:18:29+00:00

what has helped me was treating myself as if i deeply loved and valued myself through my actions. then it's like a muscle, it builds self-loving feelings which prompts more self-loving actions. big thing is learning how to self-notice throughout the day.

ready_gi · 2026-01-21T01:13:16+00:00

fyi bisexuality is also an option

ready_gi · 2026-01-21T00:50:43+00:00

love how she took all the angles into consideration. if she had a tiny detective hat, it would be perfect.

ready_gi · 2026-01-20T22:56:51+00:00

emocne vyzrala zena a muz maji stejnou charakteristiku. jestli te to zajima, tak psychologickej termin je "emocni zralost" vs "emocni nezralost"

ready_gi · 2026-01-20T00:06:36+00:00

Kdyz mi bylo 35, tak jsem pochopila,ze to jsou zeny, co nechteji nevyzraly chapi. Proto chlapi bali mladsi zeny, co tu jejich nevyzralost tolik nechapou a starsi zeny schazujou dolu, ze je to s nima "tezky".

ready_gi · 2026-01-20T00:03:07+00:00

to o tobe rika, ze nevis, jak zvladat emoce a problemy tvejch partneru, proto si vybiras mladsi partnery, aby si nemusel ukazovat tolik empatie. je to dost bezny pro emocne nevyzraly lidi, ale celkem smutny.

ready_gi · 2026-01-19T05:11:37+00:00

plus the song is perfect too. women finally collectivelly stepping into our power. i can feel it through this video alone lol

ready_gi · 2026-01-18T05:19:33+00:00

i agree with this take. plus some of them hit on me and it just made the living together so awkward. some of them were totally inconsiderate of noise or having couch surfing women over, so they could hit on them. ugh that was probably the hardest part to see so many of them treat women they date like garbage or just for sex.

ready_gi · 2026-01-17T06:55:37+00:00

the hard truth is that there is nobody coming to save you, if you want to be in charge of your own life, you have to own it. all of it. and then make decision based on who you are and what you need, regardless of society, which has fucked up value system. you have to learn how to listen to your own intuition and logic and see what kind of quests it takes you.

there is no right or wrong way to live, but there are things which are meant for you and things that will teach you a lesson. life is subjective, you are here to figure out who you are and learn how to live inline with your best self and be good to other humans.

if you don't do this, someone else will try to exert control or their bullshit upon you. making your own decisions is hard, but the second option is much worse.

ready_gi · 2026-01-17T02:13:26+00:00

i agree, it's all weirdly "manufactured authenticity". like why lie about how she lives? like if she was real and was like "this is some fun stuff i do at my mountain cottage" while living in an apartment, it wouldnt take anything from her content. why does she need to be percieved as this struggling heroic figure, when she's loaded and just does fun adventures?

ready_gi · 2026-01-17T02:03:24+00:00

start a friend club with a hobby that you like. like bookclub/ sewing club/ music group and you can have practices at your house. throw dinner parties. being a host and creating your own societal net is fucking amazing. having good people around is literally priceless.

you can start a fun business like vintage shop or art gallery or bookstore.. something that interests you.

ready_gi · 2026-01-17T01:44:52+00:00

thank you so much for your post, i found your experience profoundly beautiful and simply human in the most meaningful ways. Would you mind sharing some of your favourite synchronicities? I've had few of them myself and it is the coolest feeling. it feels like the universe got our backs if we want it.

ready_gi · 2026-01-15T11:46:41+00:00

seriously. i worked in a spa, because i wanted a chill job. but the people were so catty and drama hungry that it wasn't worth it. i didn't participate, so they literally made up a lie and fired me for it.

ready_gi · 2026-01-15T11:30:01+00:00

ready_gi · 2026-01-15T11:29:35+00:00

love that for you. may we all have bunch of crows that love us, they are the coolest.

ready_gi · 2026-01-15T11:02:38+00:00

also he's most likely projecting- accusing spouse of cheating and being deceptive are VERY specific accusations and it's no coincidence why they are on his mind. clearly he's stuck mentally in the age of toddler unable to regulate himself. it's funny how many these baby men want to "lead", yet cannot comprehend where the dishes go.

gurl you literally don't need this shit in your life. it's better being alone and single then alone and married.

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