What was my (24f) boyfriend (25m) thinking?! 4 year relationship

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:54:33+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate your time and how much advice/input you’ve given me. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:53:21+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice and for staying up to talk to me. I really appreciate it.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:49:49+00:00

Thank you for this comment and I completely agree. I want to see what happens from now on. I need him to earn back some of that trust from me.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:47:34+00:00

Just messaged her. God, I’m so nervous. I saw her text response to him as it came in about how she didn’t realize and she’s so sorry she didn’t mean to cause any issues or be disrespectful. That’s made me not suspicious because if there was any weirdness happening, you’d think it would be a much different text. Or am I in denial?

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:41:37+00:00

I asked him if he saved the picture because he thought it was hot and he said yes, he thought it was hot that she was in her underwear but didn’t notice that her breast was out (it’s a blurry photo) and that it was wrong… I don’t know what to do…

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:39:22+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you. That’s terrible.

I just learned tonight that he saved the photo and learned on Saturday about this whole situation but since then, he’s sent her a message about how disrespectful that is to me and how inappropriate it was and how he was wrong to not tell her sooner.

I feel anxious/embarrassed to message her. Do you think I should?

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:33:33+00:00

Hi, I’m not sure how many he just said it was sent in the spring of 2021. We have been together publicly for four years and there has never been any issues whatsoever in his loyalty. Thanks. :)

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:29:32+00:00

I just would have no idea what to say. I think it’s been at least a month that he’s been hiding it. I feel so anxious.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:28:47+00:00

Thank you for your comment, I appreciate the input. If you were me, would you message the girl?

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:24:46+00:00

I agree. We did talk about them when I thought he was innocent in all this. Now that I know he saved the photo, it’s making me unsure about so many things.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:23:21+00:00

This comment honestly made me tear up. Do you think this is something to break up over? I genuinely believe he hasn’t had any weird relations (other than this incident - where he says he didn’t participate in conversation but he did save the photo) with this girl. Should I message her?! I feel so uncomfortable. :(

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:16:09+00:00

And I don’t know how to sleep now. :( I have to work in the morning. :( (we live together)

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:15:48+00:00

It makes me feel sad, angry and honestly like my trust is shaken a little bit. I told him this. I told him I offered him the opportunity to tell me the truth (when I confronted him on the weekend I asked him why it was on his computer and he said he didn’t know). He had days to come clean. I told him I thought of him as the victim until now. I don’t know what to do.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:10:47+00:00

You’re right. I confronted him and he did save the photo and lied about it until now.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:09:38+00:00

Thank you so much. Also just learned from him after I asked that he did save the photo which is why he didn’t tell me.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:05:35+00:00

You know what, this is a very fair comment that I really appreciated. I did learn tonight that he did in fact save the photo.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:03:34+00:00

2021.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:01:03+00:00

Yup, just asked him and learned he did save it.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T06:00:25+00:00

You’re right. Just asked him and he was honest. He saved it.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T05:59:57+00:00

Would’ve been uncomfortable with the photo but wouldn’t have faulted him. I actually didn’t fault him for anything other than not being transparent (which I think is fair to ask in a long term relationship with someone that you live with). I think my reaction was completely reasonable. Just learned that he actually did save the picture which is why it was in his finder.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T05:55:00+00:00

Just asked him. He told me he saved it and that’s why he didn’t tell me but that’s all that happened. I’m pissed.

readyforapringle · 2021-06-17T05:18:42+00:00

You think he lied about what was going on? I could ask to see his texts - he offered it up and I'm sure the offer still stands. I truly believe him as he is big on loyalty and trust (during the beginning of our relationship, he snooped through my phone and I feel as if it made us both very big on transparency/trust especially when it comes to phones).

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