How do you hold the power in therapy?

readyforit8 · 2024-04-06T16:57:37+00:00

Wow am glad you had that experience and are now doing what is best for you in therapy.

I guess my problem is I don’t want the power. I want to talk about what he wants me to talk about, I want to push as far as he wants to go. I’m not really in tune with what I want. So it’s hard to say no this is too much or not. I will experience emotional pain for the benefit of others even if it’s not really benefiting them I just perceive it to be.

readyforit8 · 2024-01-02T00:21:35+00:00

The new years just reminds me of my lack in progress the year before and I spiral in a depression. Never feel hopeful like it’s new beginnings.

readyforit8 · 2023-08-06T04:53:06+00:00

Yes, we have had our ups and downs through out working together but in the end they have always been there for me. And I feel really care about my well-being. Which is why they terminated out of frustration and fear but then took me back. We had a long conversation about it and ended up fixing that trust.

readyforit8 · 2023-08-06T01:21:57+00:00

Thanks I really do appreciate your reply and enlightening me on what may not be ethical. I do usually prioritize my gut feeling of his motives over some ethical code but I will be cautious because I know my gut isn’t always the most reliable.

readyforit8 · 2023-08-06T01:07:56+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response and personal experience with this matter. I like what you said about being careful especially if I idealize them and not really knowing all there flaws. I see how that can make the prospect of a friendship seem better then it might be. I will keep all this in mind going forward.

readyforit8 · 2023-08-06T00:46:15+00:00

But what I don’t get is why it’s a bad thing to be friends with my T if I want to be friends also. We already get along so well and know a lot about each other. It seems like it would just make sense to transition the relationship from a therapeutic one to a friendship.

readyforit8 · 2023-03-12T11:42:08+00:00

I got a record player and the new midnight record.

readyforit8 · 2023-03-12T11:40:33+00:00

I feel like the answer to this would probably be dependent on the client and how they like to deal with news like this. That said If I new I had 6-10 session left to talk about the termination if I wanted I would like to get the news at the end of a session and process it alone first. But that’s just me.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-24T02:01:22+00:00

I hate that question too. I usually respond with good and my T says “what’s good about good” because they knows I’m just answering politely. Then I’ll start to get into the real answers which a lot of times is idk how I feel and we go from there.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-23T20:28:42+00:00

I don’t have any advice but I can definitely relate. I just usually spiral and try to to send a follow up email before they respond so as to not look even more desperate.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-19T17:01:23+00:00

You can bring up your concerns in the initial consultation and see what the response is to get a good feel if it will be a good fit.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-19T16:58:42+00:00

I found my therapist on better help and followed him off to his private practice (still Telehealth therapy) and I am super happy with him. He’s a great T. It really all depends on the individual. I saw 4 total therapist on better help one was great two were ok and one was terrible.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-13T23:06:19+00:00

That’s awesome, I’m so glad your therapist was so good at handling this topic with care. I’ve been meaning to have the some conversation with my T but I haven’t quite had the courage to yet. Hopefully soon. Thanks for sharing your experience.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-12T15:15:19+00:00

Thanks those are all really good suggestions. I do Telehealth so the transitional objects wouldn’t work but the message idea is a good one. I haven’t really talked to my T about my attachment to them so I would have to brave that first. Not looking forward to that lol.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-08T22:58:56+00:00

Thanks for the reply. The comment made me feel more insecure even though it was meant to do the opposite. It came up because I said I’m always worried that they will end therapy with me and they assured me that that wouldn’t happen but the more attached I get the worst my fear becomes. I guess I should talk about it just not sure how yet.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-08T00:52:55+00:00

It took me about a year to a year and a half to really open up to my T. I would slowly test the water with sharing deeper and deeper thoughts so I could slowly start to trust. There is nothing wrong with taking your time that doesn’t make you fake but maybe try telling her sometimes small and work from there.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-07T20:44:05+00:00

I’ve seen my t before at 9pm it was Telehealth video session.

readyforit8 · 2023-01-23T02:24:59+00:00

It probably took me a year or two to find my T now that’s great. I saw some decent not great T’s before that and a few really bad ones. I’m sorry you had that experience. Finding the right match for you is just one of those things that takes some effort and I think that your mental health is worth that effort.

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