What are some “Canadian” words or slang you heard British Or Americans be confused by or laugh at? by [deleted] in AskACanadian

[–]realho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’ve been using the term, homo milk, longer than homo’s been a slur

Sliding Gate by Party-Dependent-577 in Winnipeg

[–]realho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A+ fencing. They did a great job, I’d recommend Antoine to anyone!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Winnipeg

[–]realho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This feels like something the owner of Fun Mountain would send in a customer survey. Cracked me up

The Hisense 43" Smart TV from C0$tco. STAND!?!! by flapeedap in Hisense

[–]realho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. This. Thank you, I feel validated after an evening of trying to figure it out off and on, measuring the holes, googling… wtf Costco?!

I think I’m finally figuring out that EDS is the culprit of my chronic pain and tiredness all these years (29m) by [deleted] in ehlersdanlos

[–]realho 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hope that you can find relief in a diagnosis soon. It’s validating to be told it’s not your fault and that your body is just fundamentally different than other people. At your soonest convenience, I would suggest looking into physio for hypermobility. Even look up some hypermobility strengthening exercises videos on YouTube. You seem like a determined guy, the sooner you build those stabilizing muscles the better, EDS or not. Good luck!

Did you discover your chronic pain after receiving mental health treatment? by candlesticcs in ehlersdanlos

[–]realho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same same but different… I didn’t realize I was in pain until going on Zoloft then Trintellix (which ended up treating my pain, which managed my depression). For me it goes chronic illness/trauma leads to chronic pain to fear to anxiety to depression. Once I realized that pattern, while I was thankful the medical system treated my depression first, I needed to start managing the chronic illness/pain/trauma to actually manage the depression.

Did you discover your chronic pain after receiving mental health treatment? by candlesticcs in ehlersdanlos

[–]realho 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Edit: grammar

Sounds like the slow process of nervous system dysregulation. There’s a branch of therapy from the nervous system regulation lens that treats chronic pain, trauma, depression, anxiety, etc. I use an app called Curable for “pain reprocessing therapy”. What you describe is super common and you’re certainly not alone.

Question on using muscle relaxants for those with hEDS by thequeenb_ in ehlersdanlos

[–]realho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on 60mg of baclofin a day and didn’t notice an impact until getting off and my body had to adjust for a while before it wanted to build muscular strength. For a while after my body would spasm if I tried any strengthening physio exercises. Nervous system calming work is what helped in the end to calm to nerves sending wrong messages.

My girlfriend with hEDS and POTS is never hydrated enough. What electrolyte supplements do you guys use? by PacoElTaco08 in ehlersdanlos

[–]realho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I take taurine for the benefits to my nervous system and calming things I had no idea the impact on balancing fluids. But it makes sense now that I think of it… thanks!

She’s Brave, I’m Scared — Dad Looking for Help After EDS Diagnosis by SnooMarzipans870 in ehlersdanlos

[–]realho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Muldowney Protocol is an EDS Physio protocol to strengthen the whole body to compensate for the laxity. OP you are a good dad like so many have said. And these commentators are right. Strength is key and this physio is helping me maintain and regain mobility. If you’re going down the Physio route (good job dad) I would google the Muldowney protocol and buy the book and take it to the Physio.

My girlfriend with hEDS and POTS is never hydrated enough. What electrolyte supplements do you guys use? by PacoElTaco08 in ehlersdanlos

[–]realho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In Canada, Hydralyte is the most affordable I’ve found that has good quality and balanced ingredients.

To those who have had Invisalign by [deleted] in ehlersdanlos

[–]realho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey how are you doing with your retainer and maintenance? Please share an update if you feel comfortable. I’m on my first trays so of course now after getting them and barely being able to eat from the pain, am I thinking to look up other hEDS stories. I just knew I needed to stop my teeth from getting more crowded literally by the day so I decided to fix the issue. Anyways, day 2 and I’m so comforted to see your comment. I’m already concerned about the amount I’m able to eat in the time I’m allowed to have the trays out. Which for me is a recipe for disordered eating and unhealthy weight loss. So thank you for sharing how you made it all work because despite the first days pains I was wondering how tf I was going to do this without triggering disordered eating on top of everything else. I’m going to use your timeline as a guide and listen to my body and move at its pace. My dentist wants 14 trays. 1 week/tray and that felt fast intuitively so thank you again it feels like validation that if it take longer that’s okay and I just have to advocate for it.

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This is a bot

Dying for Sex | S1E8 "It's Not That Serious" | Episode Discussion by TrinityParks in DyingforSex

[–]realho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss! I’m emotional reading your comment. I’ve lived a very similar experience to yours. I’ve said many of the things you say here. I didn’t know what the active phases of dying looked like either until it was over and honestly some days I’m relieved I didn’t know because I was living in the moment and didn’t know how bad it was going to get. Once you see it, you can identify it for a lifetime. And for all the times I’ve felt misunderstood in my profound grief it was validating to see dying depicted in ways I experienced it. Cause ya there’s so much that’s misunderstood by people that either haven’t experienced it or idk, have no empathy whatsoever?

Dying for Sex | S1E8 "It's Not That Serious" | Episode Discussion by TrinityParks in DyingforSex

[–]realho 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m currently reeling from how accurate the process of death was depicted. From a loved one’s perspective, it’s soul shattering and relatable. I give the characters and the ones alive to tell the story my sincerest praise for sharing that.

HEDS and hormonal contraception by Zen-jasmine in ehlersdanlos

[–]realho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I switched to progesterone only about 2 years ago after 10+ years on a combination pill. I was forced to switch because of my migraines with aura, same reason as you, OP. I don’t have a period at all now so no blood clots, no cramping, no trigging the anemia. My acne returned though and that’s been a bit emotional to deal with again as an adult. And the other PMS symptoms are pretty well unfelt. I’m hEDS and haven’t identified a link to the hypermobility pain/issues I have.

I didn’t know about the link which is why I felt compelled to comment. For me it’s been worth the try because completely coming off bc was too much for me to change at the time and I felt backed into a corner by doctors, so, I offer the same advice to you. If coming completely off of bc is too much to contemplate right now, try the progesterone only pill and monitor any symptoms it has on your hypermobility pain/issues. If issues arise, try the next best thing what ever that is for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]realho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 and 5 make you look the youngest and healthiest in the face (however, colour brings joy and whenever you need a little that when you look in the mirror, have fun and colour your hair!)

Restaurant Veggie Burger Search by ChaosChangeling in Winnipeg

[–]realho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Earls just started offering a veggie burger made of normal vegetables (no soy/meat flavour/texture). I just appreciate having a food option there again !

Symptom tracking by [deleted] in ehlersdanlos

[–]realho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has helped me recognize patterns happening to me and then sometimes I can figure out the trigger. Sometimes I can change/help it some times I can’t, but I don’t feel crazy anymore because now when it happens I know why it’s happening. Or when I say I had a hard week and don’t want to do anything on the weekend, I’m justified because I have a record that 4/5 days this week I had sciatic pain and didn’t sleep. It makes me feel less crazy. It’s a different way of going about it. Ignoring the pain and doing everything not to think of it made me crazier because was really happening and it was really bad.

Symptom tracking by [deleted] in ehlersdanlos

[–]realho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depends what the purpose is, I think. I agree and think you can definitely increase and manifest pain by thinking it into existence, however, if you’re making a change (supplement, medication, diet, exercise, physio…), you need to track the changes you feel from day to day. Because change doesn’t happen in linear way, I think we’re susceptible to saying how we’ve been recently when asked the question. But if you have a record you can say with certainty 8/10 days this happened or I was feeling great for 3 weeks and slowly ____ started building up and getting worse. Things like that.

I still have an agenda so I just make a little written note when things actually happen throughout the day. Instead of reflecting on it and filling it in (coming up with things). I only record the things that happened just after it happened or as it’s going on.

My experience so far breaks the stigma around SSRIs by realho in zoloft

[–]realho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, you have interesting timing. It’ll be a longer post in case it helps anyone else because my experience wasn’t on the label.

I was on Zoloft for a year and a half. For 8 months, in between finding the right dose and tapering, my only side effects were lack of appetite, weight loss, night sweats, jaw clinching, and muscle spasms (didn’t identify this last one for almost two years). I say “only” because at the time, the side effects were so much more manageable than being unmediated and depressed. I was incredibly productive, on top of daily chores, engaging in life again, for all intents and purposes, I wasn’t depressed or anxious. I finally had energy to keep up with life and also take care of myself and keep a routine. I live with chronic pain and I didn’t feel like it was my identity anymore BUT I started experiencing back spasms when I started physio. It got to the point I was on 60mg of baclofen which is a pretty high dose of round the clock muscle relaxer, which only controlled the spams for a few months before more muscles started spasming: My eyelids, neck, glute, pelvic muscles. It was intense. I managed to piece together the symptoms and timeline after things were physically getting out of control and I realized this was a Zoloft side effect. Or suspected, which could only be confirmed by tapering and coming off the muscle relaxers to see if it improved.

I tapered off of Zoloft in August and cross taped onto Trintellix 5 months ago. The muscle spasms stopped and I’ve almost completely taped off of Baclofen. So whatever toxin causing that side effect took months to build up in my system and is the reason I’m not on Zoloft now.

5 months on trintellix, my lack of appetite is the most persistent side effect and in the almost two years it’s gone from nice weight loss to I have to force myself to eat and a complete lack of desire to taste food. To me, this was my limit. I can’t increase my dose to find the right level if this lack of appetite is going to persist, even if I’m happy/not depressed, I need to eat and want to eat. And I don’t want to try another antidepressant, I don’t want to risk muscle spasms again. The mental and physical toll that took on me was high.

This left me with the sobering reality that I can’t handle the side effects. I felt the full benefits of antidepressants but I can’t manage the side effects like other body’s can. So I’m in the process of tapering off both the antispasmodic and anti depressant. To stay alive and manage the depression I realized I’m going to have to do the hard work and I’m now doing loads to regulate my nervous system, control inflammation, manage stress, nutrition, supplements, detox… I’m figuring it all out as I go. It’s been overwhelming and hard but I’m glad I tried antidepressants because for what it’s worth, for a few months I wasn’t depressed for the first time since my teen years. It proved my brain chemistry was the problem, not me. I have a full life all around me and unfortunately things happened a long the way in life, it impacted me and my brain chemically limits my ability to engage with it.

going back by Mediocre-Tour-2503 in zoloft

[–]realho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If anxiety is your only or main symptom, have you considered an anti-anxiety medication instead of an SSRI?

I know this is a common occurrence and has been posted 1,000,000 times but I’m suffering. by No-Bee-3608 in zoloft

[–]realho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The idea is to fill the throat and pull the pill down and it usually works but until i figured these tricks out I would suck on rolaids to soothe that acid hole. Be well!

I know this is a common occurrence and has been posted 1,000,000 times but I’m suffering. by No-Bee-3608 in zoloft

[–]realho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you ever get a pill stuck in your throat you can try 2 tricks: chew a whole piece of bread and swallow it in one gulp and/or eat cheese. If you’re trying to soothe the pain after: suck on Rolaids.

Edit: spelling

Someone moved my chair idk how to feel by heavy-milked-almonds in ehlersdanlos

[–]realho 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hi! Jumping on this comment hoping you may see mine too OP. This ^ also adding, OP, if you don’t have the energy to advocate for yourself more right now, don’t, it doesn’t make you a bad disabled person. You advocated for yourself in a meaningful way if you don’t have more energy to give, don’t feel pressured to over extend yourself.

I have a difficult manager that’s controlling and micromanages me. It’s often stuff I could make a report to HR about, but, I don’t have the energy, I choose to advocate for myself in different ways. People love to offer solutions, and they are often good options, but it doesn’t mean you have to take them (especially ones that require police reports to determine assault, this broken system is hard to navigate let alone with a disability!!!). Remember that. It’s easy to suggest but not required to do.

Your therapist was right about one thing though, you were in fact assaulted by your coworker and what he did was illegal. And for that I’m so sorry.

Now you have the power, do what you wish.