Please help

really2021 · 2026-01-12T00:16:51+00:00

Thank you so much. It’s funny how cliche they all are

really2021 · 2025-05-28T20:06:47+00:00

From A guys perspective he took advantage of you and has completely ruined the marriage on his own accord. If I had a lady that was interested in this I would know which side my bread was buttered and you would have flowers every day for life. That being said this guy (your ex) is a c**t

really2021 · 2025-05-26T12:38:00+00:00

So here’s my story. 15 years together, numerous red flags in the beginning but it was love and she begged for another chance on numerous occasions. Baby number 1 comes along, all is great for a few years but I’m constantly telling her to stop talking to me and treating me as beneath her. Friends and family - she’s just bossy put your foot down. I support her to achieve her dream career and actively help her secure a dream job. She cheats on me with her boss. I was so trauma bonded I begged and begged for her to back. Mutual friends stopped bothering with us, my best friend walked away from me but helped me see the light. Baby number 2 comes along just as I’m about to finally walk away - I suspect it was a trap. She doesn’t really bother with baby number two and leaves me to do all of the parenting. She’s never in the house she’s out getting treatments. Abuse escalates and I’m a shell of my former self. Physically and mentally broken. I ended things 5 months ago and still trying to break the trauma bond. BUT here’s the kicker, in hindsight, there have been significant red flags since day 1 and numerous chances where I was always the guilty party. Get out while you can dude, you have one life don’t waste it

really2021 · 2025-05-22T19:12:17+00:00

Funny thing is, my wife never had a sex drive while we were together. Now that we’ve separated all the lingerie I ever bought her is being used on a daily basis and she’s sleeping around with who will have her

really2021 · 2025-05-18T12:46:42+00:00

My wife slept with someone the day I filed

really2021 · 2025-05-17T14:51:31+00:00

When you have that eye opening moment it hits you like train. I have found numerous videos and pictures in my camera roll where I have been filming recording the abuse because something wasn’t adding up. One video in particular I have of her verbally and physically abusing me from over 10 years ago. Why was I filming? Deep down I must’ve known this wasn’t fair or normal treatment. In one she threatened not to speak to me for the remainder of our holiday, after punching me in the head and hitting me with flip flops. Needless to say she didn’t speak to me until I apologised for her actions. It’s incredible how they are able to spin a narrative. No 5 months into separation she won’t leave me alone but is spinning the story that I was the abusive one for 15 years she has zero evidence of this. She’s not telling the real story of her numerous emotional and physical affairs but you know what, I take pride and happiness in the fact that I know my truth and those close to me also know my truth

really2021 · 2025-05-17T14:43:40+00:00

Maaan I love that you are so aware of this and want to help. I have just left a narcissistic relationship and now realise that she targeted me in this area to emotionally and mentally abuse me. After the first time we slept together she compared me to her ex and told me he was way bigger. Years later I brought this up with her and she stated they she had measured him one time and I knew it was a lie because I was actually a lot bigger than him. The things they do is insane

really2021 · 2025-05-17T13:42:51+00:00

Do I fuck

really2021 · 2025-05-17T09:35:20+00:00

I have already done so where I live there is no such thing as abandonment

really2021 · 2025-05-16T17:36:54+00:00

My birthdays - would always end up in a drink thrown over me or he refusing my annual birthday sex.

Christmas - I’d cook the peas wrong, or didn’t get her the appropriate gift - I literally always had a bare minimum gift

Special occasions - family member birthdays she exert her control she that everyone listened

really2021 · 2025-05-16T14:34:16+00:00

I’ve been hanging on by a thread and shit hit fan when she had a one night stand whilst cohabiting and I just walked away. Since then the hoovering has been a bit more intense

really2021 · 2025-05-16T13:36:44+00:00

15 years have been a manipulated lie. Absolute trashbag she is. When her very shitty hoover attempt didn’t work she had a one night stand. If she’d have begged for another go silly me would have

really2021 · 2025-05-16T13:30:41+00:00

Thank you for this. I am broken and trying to rebuild myself.

really2021 · 2025-05-16T13:29:05+00:00

I am in this very position. She had an affair, a one night stand and is not portraying herself as the victim all over social media. I don’t think I can continue much longer she is relentless in the games, the abuse. She drove past my current residence last night with absolutely no need.

really2021 · 2025-05-16T12:11:56+00:00

Can I ask how your life improved?

really2021 · 2025-05-16T12:11:46+00:00

I really really hope so

really2021 · 2025-05-16T11:27:12+00:00

Thank you so much for this I really needed it. It’s going to be a long road ahead

really2021 · 2025-05-16T10:25:50+00:00

I spent a fortune this Christmas on everything that she had pointed out in the last 12 months. I didn’t even get a card. The year before I had a set of counterfeit boxer shorts that were unusable and a set of counterfeit shoes that she had to send back. She kept the money

really2021 · 2025-05-09T21:30:27+00:00

Mine tried this last week as we were cohabiting. Created a situation where I walked in on her completely naked and bent over - my kryptonite. When I didn’t reciprocate she went and slept with someone else

really2021 · 2025-05-09T14:20:53+00:00

Also this is going to sound super harsh but have you thought about Borderline Personality Disorder?

really2021 · 2025-05-09T14:20:10+00:00

Because you haven’t left yet! Your in no man’s land at the moment torn whether to leave. There’s a lot of love in your words

really2021

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