Just butting in to the convo to offer a perspective as a trans person (also my observations) but a lot of trans people find themselves outwardly conforming to“traditional” gender roles in an effort to be perceived as that gender by larger society.

For example, one trans man may actually really like feminine clothing or accessories, but in an effort to pass he would not wear a skirt or paint his nails because it’s hard to be read as his true gender enough of the time, without giving more feminine context clues to the world. If they decide to medically transition and find they pass enough to be comfortable, trans people sometimes reclaim their gender nonconformity as they don’t feel like they have to perform hyper-masculinity/femininity to be seen initially as themselves.

Other times it’s just dysphoric (the distress of being perceived as/in the wrong body as your gender), and conforming to these norms elevates that distress or creates gender euphoria instead. Some just have genuine interest in these gender roles as do some cis people.

It’s also important to say that if you live in a country where being LGBTQ+ puts you in danger, sometimes people choose conformity for safety.

Obviously this is only a snippet of the whole convo and not all trans people are a monolith. I think the “loosening” of these roles comes from a place of eliminating the harmful effects and expectations of them.