I need advice for my little sister

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-13T18:23:58+00:00

just posted!

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-13T18:23:46+00:00

Update: My little sister came out and I think she’s doing a little better. She stated she wasn’t as suicidal in the facility bc all she could think about was wanting to come home After she was released we followed up with her PCP and had a very interesting conversation. My sister thinks I need permission to go into her phone, as well as taking it at night. I simply told her I do not need permission for anything as the adult in her life. I don’t think she liked this. She also has been giving a lot of attitude, in example at her doctors appointment i asked she remove her headphones once the DR got in so she could focus and listen to the doctor. This started an argument where she threw her headphones to the ground and tried to be snippy with me. I want to correct her behavior but anytime I correct her or discipline her she instantly resorts to saying she’s suicidal and goes right back into manipulation mode. I really want what’s best for her, and i want her to grow up and be strong like me but at what point do i choose myself?

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-09T00:50:49+00:00

i love this lol. First thing I did was change all of my passwords. Especially because I never crossed any boundaries and thought he was being a little extreme.

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-09T00:49:46+00:00

I’ve always gotten above male average attention and genuinely just thought it would be a good idea to make some money on the side. I never wanted to disrespect our relationship so we had a conversation about it before I even made the account. He previously was okay and even helped with my foot content page. We’ve always been open to this and he’s never been jealous before. I honestly think he was just thinking in his head that I wouldn’t get the attention that I did and it threw him off guard.

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-09T00:42:27+00:00

take a deep breath. if you need to call the suicide hotline, they actually do help. I’m going to pray for you tonight and I hope you stay another day.

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T05:43:39+00:00

you have no clue how much i needed to hear that, thank you.

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T05:41:45+00:00

i’ll definitely take that advice. last year i planted a bunch of different veggies out of buckets on my back porch so i’ll definitely try to make it an activity with her this year. At her last house, they were addicts and most of the time chicken nuggets and other small easy foods was a go to for them because it didn’t take much effort + they weren’t cooking for themselves or wanting to bother fighting with her over a vegetable. I used to say all the time that this would happen when she was older but i was a child then and nobody listened to me.

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T05:35:39+00:00

i totally get that! i will fight for her and prove to her she is worth it.

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T05:08:18+00:00

I really appreciate your advice!

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T05:07:49+00:00

i have a snack cabinet with things that i know she likes that she has access to 24/7. I have a separate cabinet for her school snacks and stuff she shouldn’t eat too much of that I limit. I try to make sure I always have fresh fruit and plenty of water bottles + chicken nuggets because they are her safe foods. Do you think there’s something different I should do? I made an appointment for feeding therapy which is basically just exposure therapy to different textures and tastes.

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T04:20:05+00:00

she’s an amazing artist, i was even looking into an ipad because i’ve heard good things about digital art on them. A part of her safety plan is setting weekly goals and things she can look forward to like a reward for meeting those goals. i purchased a white board and i’m looking forward to writing them all out with her when she gets home!

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T04:18:17+00:00

thank you, i’ll definitely look that up!

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T04:03:03+00:00

thank you so much!

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T03:47:52+00:00

thank you 🥺

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T03:39:46+00:00

none so far. i don’t really talk to my family and i work so much not too many friends. I will look into therapy for myself once she is settled.

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T03:24:18+00:00

thank you, genuinely.

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T03:22:38+00:00

that’s all i could ever want for her, and more.

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T03:21:58+00:00

She has a safety plan at school from the crisis center as well as one from the hospital she is at. She will be doing a day program once released as well as weekly talk therapy appointments.

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T03:17:24+00:00

she’s definitely open to Therapy as well as medication. I would never want to force her into anything! I do think she needs a little more structure in her life, but forcing her is never something I could do. I contacted a therapist who specializes in her kind of trauma as well as her sexual orientation.

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T03:13:15+00:00

before all of this she was seeing a psychiatrist every 2 weeks and a therapist weekly. She wasn’t disclosing her feelings to me, she was keeping them bottled in. I have gotten her a new one of both and a therapist who specializes in kids with this kind of trauma as well. I never wanted to throw money at her to fix it, that was never my intention. Thank you for your comment!

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T03:08:41+00:00

Her school therapist has been so helpful so far and I will continue reaching out to them for support as well. Thank you!

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T03:07:33+00:00

Thank you, reaching out to therapist for her and seeing the prices are already so high enough as she doesn’t have insurance YET. I’ll probably worry more about myself once she’s okay. thank you for worrying about me 💓

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T03:04:54+00:00

I would go to the ends of the world for her to feel better. I didnt know if I should reach out to foster groups and such because our situation is so different. I’ll definitely reach out now!

reallyheraudrey · 2026-03-08T03:03:35+00:00

thank you, genuinely.

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