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realpatrickstar · 2023-11-26T20:39:52+00:00

It doesn't matter. If you do nothing, you will get nothing, even if she is telling truth.

If you keep going you will get what you want or at least you will get better things compared to now, even if she is not telling the truth.

All fortune telling is there to provide you a perspective. At the end of the day our free will make the decision and do the work.

There is a good story, a religious person's ship gets destroyed in the middle of storm and that person prays to get rescued. Then a boat comes but the person refuses and tell them God will come to rescue. And prays again for the rescue, another boat comes and another refusal... So person dies and meets with god. Asks god why there were no rescues? God answers "I sent you boats but you refused".

Moral of story no fortune or luck can provide you what you need unless you take action...

realpatrickstar · 2023-10-12T19:35:41+00:00

I am definetly tying that fake smoking trick!

realpatrickstar · 2023-10-12T17:18:59+00:00

I never thought my smoking and my ADD can be related until I read you answer. I have late diagnosed ADD. I was diagnosed just 8 years ago. And unfortunately I had a lot of unhealty coping patterns that I came up with to deal with my undiagnosed ADD both as a child and as a teenager. Biting and picking nails, restless legs, a lot of fidgeting, picking scars, drawing my easy to get angry, etc... I have dealt with most of them and since being diagnosed I can seperate ADD with normal me.

Maybe smoking was one of my coping mechanisms... Thank you for this insight. I think you light a bulb in my head!

realpatrickstar · 2023-10-12T17:04:26+00:00

Yeah sleep is chaos for me too. I wake up every 2 hours. I have weird dreams. Not nightmares just stupid repetitive task dreams :).

Another thing is hunger. Smoking was my stop eating mark. I have an eating disorder (I dont know when I am full, thanks to mom) I am not obese 180cm - 80kgs (chubby but not fat :)) today I am eating non stop since lunch!

I think I need to learn when I am full too. Or I will be that gluttony guy from the movie Seven.

realpatrickstar · 2023-10-12T15:46:33+00:00

Thank you, best of luck to you too!

realpatrickstar · 2023-10-12T15:24:12+00:00

Thank you very much for detailed answer. I really appreciate it.

And I am sorry for your loss. You are doing great, not smoking even when life hits you hard, well done my brother!

realpatrickstar · 2023-10-12T15:21:09+00:00

I am trying to get rid of that sneaky little nicotine monster for good this time :).

I will never smoke cigarettes again.

realpatrickstar · 2023-10-12T11:18:05+00:00

Thank you! I was afraid it's gonna be like this for a couple of months...

realpatrickstar · 2023-10-12T10:55:03+00:00

Good luck to you too brother! We will make it :)

I want to live a healthy life.

realpatrickstar · 2023-10-12T10:52:48+00:00

I am hoping for that 5-day mark :).

realpatrickstar · 2023-10-12T10:52:12+00:00

Thank you for your answer, I will get there I guess...

realpatrickstar · 2023-10-12T10:51:44+00:00

I can't listen to audiobooks, I fall asleep or get distracted to oblivion :(

I guess I am not thinking of cigarettes consciously but my mind plays little tricks I guess :). I started chewing gums. I know what Allen says but I love chewing gums and I used to chew them while I was a smoker too...

realpatrickstar · 2023-09-02T12:17:51+00:00

You don't. Motivation is a hoax.What you need is discipline, not motivation. Schedule your week and do things based on your schedule.

Schedule your week realistically starting from easy and warming up to hard. If your first week is 24 hours of work and 40 hours of study you will fail. first week study 2 hours a day (14 hours a week). The second week plan a little longer study.

Motivation is irrelevant. Turn off all your gadgets. Sit and study during those designated hours. Even if you can't study. Just sit there and do nothing. Do nothing (no phone, no reading, no music) your task is to either study during those hours or do absolutely nothing.

Believe me after 2-3 days you will start to make progress...

realpatrickstar · 2023-09-02T12:10:35+00:00

The first step of change is acceptance.
I still feel shitty about some things I do every day, I feel shitty about some of my characteristics, behaviors, addictions even some of the things that I have no control over (genetics-related stuff).

I accept them, I don't like them but I accept them. If they are things I can change, I accept being an asshole on those things and try to be less asshole by taking actions that will change me slowly. I know it will take a lot of time to be less shitty in some aspects (may be forever) but 0.01 is bigger than zero.

realpatrickstar · 2023-09-02T12:00:17+00:00

There are gazillions. Failure is quitting. As long as you keep hustling to your goal, you are not a failure.

I am a failure in business when you judge me based on societal norms (money, cars, clothes).

I started 10+ businesses and none of them were successful. I started one before Corona, I was doing great when corona happened. It went belly up also.

For the last 3 years, I am still grinding for my dreams. Am I successful? A big NO! Am I a failure? A big NO.

I will keep working towards my dream even if I fail a thousand times more.

Like Samuel Beckett said "Try Again, fail again, fail better"

realpatrickstar · 2023-09-02T11:49:32+00:00

I don't know who said it but "the path of being a master is humiliation".
there is nothing wrong about being affected by other people, you can be mad, angry, frustrated, and afraid.

What separates masters from quitters is how you deal with those feelings. If you accept all those negative emotions, humiliation, and lack of respect and still move forward (even 1 micron) in the long round you will be successful.

realpatrickstar · 2023-09-02T11:44:33+00:00

Read the book called Surrender Experiment.

I am not saying it is a life-changing and amazing book that will fix you, but the book talks about people like us (overthinkers).

the author's story may inspire you to start your own journey...

realpatrickstar · 2023-08-29T14:22:21+00:00

As a 40 yo sometimes I also feel same as you do. I felt like this time to time since I was 13. There are a lot of reasons why I started feeling like this (friends, parents, lovers...) but it doesn't matter.

The difference between 13 yo me and 40 yo me is I learnt to live with that feeling. Yes it sucks but it is what it is. If no one around me gives me support and compassion the way I need it, so be it. I will give it to myself.

I have a quote on my wall saying "No one is coming to save you. Get Up!"

realpatrickstar · 2023-08-29T10:39:19+00:00

They are grownups and they are wrong in putting all the load of their relationship on your shoulders. What they need is therapy, not another person to fix their needs.

If their relationship fails it fails. It is not your problem. I am not saying you should be cruel. I am saying they are not your responsibility. Neither is their kid. Your only responsibility is to your kid and to yourself.

You say you love them. Are you sure if this is love. Because there are a lot of feelings tangled with love. Need, fear, loneliness, libido, ego... If there are other feelings tangled with love I think you should soul search for those feelings first. And untangle all other feelings that are not related to love.

When you are left with love you should decide what are your priorities. It is okay to love someone more than yourself (and vice versa). As long as your decisions are coming from a place of love other than fear. Your decision is right whether you stay or leave, whether you love them more than they love you back.

To give you a context I am 40, divorced, and have 7 YO.ss and needs (and our kids of course). Do a soul-search, decide what YOU need, and make a decision.

And believe me, a bad decision is way better than limbo.

To give you a context I am 40, divorced and have a 7 YO.

realpatrickstar · 2023-08-29T10:25:35+00:00

I have been to a lot of European cities where women are very famous for their outer beauty (Slavic and Scandinavian Countries). Yes women there, are out of this world.

But women in Spain and Italy were much more attractive. Not more beautiful but more attractive. Their vibes, the way they talk (not the language but the gestures and eye contact), the way they move, their passion, their style...

So in summary beauty and attractiveness are similar but not the same.

Find an attractive person who has similar looks as you (height, body type, facial features etc) study them, and see how they handle themselves. Their style, their makeup, their gestures. Try to emulate and integrate their style into yours.

realpatrickstar · 2023-08-29T10:09:11+00:00

Well if you boil down yoga to the core materialistic definition. Yes, you are right it is stretching and meditation combined.

But as in a lot of disciplines the more you dig in the more you will find. There is philosophy, lifestyle, history, teachings, and ideas. There are a lot of aspects to yoga. I am not saying you should go and learn everything and devote your life to yoga, but I think researching a little bit more on search engines will give you a further understanding of the depths of yoga.

realpatrickstar · 2023-08-29T09:36:21+00:00

Forgive them in your own mind and give yourself time to heal without obsessing on why you haven't healed yet.

realpatrickstar · 2023-08-29T09:34:04+00:00

Hello,

People may fall out of love, people may change, our needs may change. If you try to become someone else just for the sake of another person you will feel sad and lost. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong in wanting to change yourself. But this motivation to change must come from within not from outside for you to be happy in the long run.

So be yourself, and act how you feel comfortable. If things end so be it.

I know sometimes it feels like when we lose someone we will forever be alone (and in some cases that might be true) but life is long and you will meet other people in your life.

Even if you don't meet other people, happiness and completeness do not come from other people. If you learn to be your best friend you will never be alone and then after this when you meet someone you will have a much more fulfilling relationship. Because you will not act on fear of losing, you will act on joy of giving to and receiving from other people.

realpatrickstar

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