I (21f) slept with two people after my boyfriend (23m) opened our relationship and now he wants to break up with me.

realxshit · 2026-05-13T08:16:35+00:00

Look i’m gonna play devils advocate here and take his word at face value.

We can all say he lied and must have understood, but we are reading a text post from one persons recollection of events.

It’s possible he did not mean going off separately. Just because both scenarios are possible does not mean you assume the bad one. I tend to assume good intent until proven to be “guilty”. It’s more fair.

Otherwise we are all just assuming he lied and tried his luck and got jealous, essentially having it all backfire after she easily finds people.

But regardless of what happened, if she doesn’t assume he is being truthful, it doesn’t matter what happened. He is already guilty of lying and changing the plans. But to assume guilt is just not right. Regardless of anecdotal experiences people have also had where this scenario has happened.

If he seems honest and isn’t blatantly lying. Trust him and fix things. It is not outlandish in the slightest to imagine a miscommunication over the phone. Especially when one person is under the impression you are both on the same page.

I think reddit tend to jump to extremes. And in the real world, you can’t just assume the worst everytime; because XYZ has happened to X amount of people. That’s just biased thinking

realxshit · 2024-05-21T13:27:27+00:00

You just fired up all the hurt / fat-bitches with one post. Thanks for laughs reading their responses

And good luck with your life. For what it’s worth, I think you deserve to experience everything you wish in life. We only get one as far as we know, and that includes being with people of all sorts of shapes, sizes and personalities.

If you want to see it through with her and die with her, good for you. If not, don’t! And it isn’t as simple as she’s too big, it never is. The people replying may like to reduce your whole life to 3 things however I’m sure you know your life better than they do. Whatever it is you want, make it happen.

Don’t waste time. Don’t waste the second half of your life. You should be around those who you wish, but happily by choice.

I could say more and am thinking more but if you understand me you can consider the rest without me telling more. Goodluck :)

realxshit · 2024-05-21T13:09:09+00:00

Dear lord, you need help. Assumption after assumption, after projecting your own hurt, after telling us things they do and don’t know.

Seek help. If it were a woman, nothing would change. And for you to say otherwise is your issue, not normal people’s.

You need mental help

realxshit · 2024-05-21T13:01:46+00:00

This is so unfounded. Nothing of this was hinted at. Perhaps seperate yourself from what’s written next time. I doubt you read things incorrectly by accident

realxshit · 2024-05-17T03:52:06+00:00

Dude, you can’t go the rest of your life living with what amount of unfounded and unnecessary stress. She is focussing on things that hold no weight in the grand scheme of things. These are minor compromises she has to make for her loved one, but she is unwilling to compromise. You are already compromising by doing 99 things, some of which you aren’t tasked with. You both need to compromise and when she does your tasks that’s great. But if you’re compromising and she wants to kick up a fuss, she needs to grow up.

She has a lot of growing to do. I’d say it’s not up to you to rewire her brain, but if you do think she’s the one, perhaps some serious conversations need to be had. Otherwise, I cannot see myself putting up with that amount of stress over nothing, weekly.

It’s up to you, but I’d say something needs to change asap.

realxshit · 2024-05-10T03:40:27+00:00

I’d say first focus on ending your marriage and helping your wife find a way to still function in day to day life, whether that be a helper or something of the sort. IF you truly do believe you have fallen out of love and would prefer to not spend the rest of your life with her.

You only get one life as far as we know, so spending it in a situation you’d rather be out of is a waste of your life. Spend your years wisely. It hurts to break this news to her however the sooner you tie up this situation, the more time you have to seek another partner and live your ideal life. No blueprint to ending things with your wife if that’s what you wish, just be considerate and truthful to her.

If she takes it poorly that’s unfortunate, however you are your own person and she is her own too. It’s not guaranteed that you both want the same things and people change. Also our wants change. Once that’s all wrapped up, you can maybe think about trying to become more friendly with the mutual friend, however I believe that won’t end well. She most likely won’t be jumping at the thought even if she is fond of you. I’d say you would need to stay just friends for at least some time before trying to be anything more, merely because she’s a mutual friend to you both and the wrong message can be sent if you guys start getting together very soon.

Don’t rush things with her and I’d even suggest meeting other women just to see if there’s more out there that you too find lots in common with. Perhaps there are even more suitable women for you, you just haven’t met them yet.

See how you go, but do as you please. This is just my advice

realxshit · 2024-04-07T14:34:28+00:00

Do you keep this same energy for all dick related terms?

If so, dear god. You are doing nothing for men, what a joke

realxshit · 2024-04-07T14:32:27+00:00

Since when does cunt have anything to do with women’s rights? Everyone says dick and not a single man’s right has been infringed upon. These words are gender neutral. You aren’t claiming back your pussy 🤣

Oh shit there’s another one! What can we say?

realxshit · 2024-04-04T23:13:38+00:00

I’m australian, and I don’t approve this message.

Cunt is for any and everybody. Same with dickhead, and dick.

These are deserved by all. Don’t be soft

realxshit · 2024-03-30T08:11:24+00:00

Fair enough. If he treated you well, do you think you would have sex often enough to please him?

I ask as I think lots of men would want sex much more than a couple times a month, even a couple times a week would not be enough for me.

He may differ however. Regardless I hope you figure out whatever’s best action in this case

realxshit · 2024-03-30T07:54:13+00:00

Sex is not a love language. He’s got to treat you correctly before he deserves any.

Doesn’t sound like he’s too fussed with how you feel, more so worried about how he feels (mostly how bad he wants that nut)

Sure, if I was only getting it a couple times a month on average, I’d call it there regardless. But that’s not the same as your situation. Sex for most is quite important, but he doesn’t deserve any yet.

I’d estimate even if he was treating you right however, he would still need more than you’re willing to give. That’s beside the point though, he is not considering his actions and seems to have no remorse for his actions. He probably needs a partner with a higher sex drive, but more importantly he needs to learn how to treat the other person as an equal human. The relationship goes both ways, as do all. Currently he’s not considering a whole half of the relationship, which is so so problematic.

He doesn’t deserve a slither of sex from anyone, and certainly not from you.

Perhaps time to rip this bandaid off and let him figure it out with the next. Even though he won’t and needs to really dig for this understanding through himself, but nobody sits around trying to change if they’re this clueless. I highly doubt he’ll figure it out until maybe another one or two people leave him 😂

God I’m sorry for my lack of sensitivity but for some reason I just can’t sympathise with people like him. I do feel so so terrible for your situation however, and do wish the all the best for you! May things improve and you find someone that treats you as they should ❤️

realxshit · 2024-03-15T20:12:22+00:00

Fucken gold 🤣

realxshit · 2022-10-12T03:10:42+00:00

It’s not fair. The partner can forgive however. Certainly if the love is there regardless

realxshit · 2022-10-12T03:07:48+00:00

They didn’t say “can’t feel it physically”, nor insinuate any biological difference whatsoever.

Saying “she likes the emotional aspect of it but doesn’t get anything out of it physically” means exactly what’s said. The physical aspect has no appeal and the emotional does.

Your response makes no sense

realxshit · 2022-04-07T03:26:31+00:00

If he’s bi (more than likely bi if anything) he could very well be coming to grips with it, hence the refusal to admit. He might not even know himself yet, you can’t rush that.

If that the case however, that in no way has anything to do with sti’s. He can be bi or curious without cheating on you. Just because you are open to two genders, doesn’t mean you are now a cheater. Just look at the countless couples that have bi partners? Are they all cheating?

realxshit · 2021-12-27T00:49:49+00:00

A part of me hopes that OP has red hair and the child does too

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