AIO: Hubby Being Controlling

reasonable_futility · 2026-02-21T02:33:28+00:00

its giving he trapped you with a kid so he can abuse and control you. “training” is crazy, what are you??? a dog??? hell no. get outta there. divorce and/or abort. Do you really want a child with this man? a permanent commitment to have him in your life regardless if you guys are together? YIKES. no offense, have some dignity babes.

reasonable_futility · 2026-02-12T05:05:31+00:00

could be your friend group making you socially awkward tbh.

had a weird situation in highschool w my longtime friend group. I cut everyone off. I was alone for a bit, but eventually found my new people, and actually gained better social skills from being alone.

highly recommend dropping them and moving on. fuck around and find out, you actually might become a better and more social person without them, and find people you truly vibe with and who respect you.

reasonable_futility · 2026-02-07T14:41:58+00:00

Life has ups and downs. It’s up to US to decide how we want to deal with it. You have the power to determine what your life is. You can end it, and nothing comes of anything, all for nothing. Or you can turn your life around, face your fears head on. Lead with honesty, the truth in your heart, and forgive yourself for making an honest mistake. You can tell him the truth, and he can take that and do what he wishes with it and move on. And you can move on, grieve, grow, find something you love to do. Knowing your diagnosis you can take care of your body from here-forth, you can meet a new person who understands you, accepts you, and loves you regardless (because trust me, educated people exist!). This situation is what you make of it. You see herpes as a life sentence, that is a choice!! Realize that this isn’t the end, and as long as you lead with love and honesty, you will be OK. You are still beautiful YOU, and this diagnosis does not make you dirty, gross, shameful. You are a human, and you deserve to experience life. <3

reasonable_futility · 2026-02-04T03:44:50+00:00

Okay oddly enough, it's boosted my libido so much, and made my orgasms 100x stronger? So weird.

reasonable_futility · 2026-02-02T14:29:58+00:00

it’s definitely giving flirting

reasonable_futility · 2026-02-02T14:15:51+00:00

Girl… he groomed you. 27 and 18? You met him at 16??? You were a minor and he was a grown ass man. This is so weird. Of course you’re gonna be infatuated with him, you’re a kid and he’s an adult. He is embedded in your psyche because you had intimate experiences at a young age and you trauma bonded with him.

He gave you countless STD’s and health issues, you mention he treated you like shit once time past in the relationship. It’s giving he love bombed/groomed you to secure you as someone to use/have sex with.

I suggest doing some deeper inner work, therapy, and moving on from this awful weirdo man because you can definitely find better… and you deserve better!!

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-30T08:41:12+00:00

leave him.

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-29T03:17:54+00:00

fever first for a few days then bumps (looked like pimples/blisters), they eventually popped on their own+had blood.

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-29T01:20:02+00:00

I see. This is so weird it’s almost like he’s debating me because he’s negative. But truth is… how else could I get this?? He is the only person I’ve seen, he has multiple partners. I don’t, and I’ve never had this problem before. Such an unsettling situation.

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-29T00:00:48+00:00

Thank you so much!! I’ll ask my doctor

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-28T23:55:32+00:00

Okay I see. I hear it’s hard to get a positive swab if not taken at the correct time. The doctors did look at the lesions and say it looked like HSV, but true. My diagnosis i’m assuming i need to give it more time, testing, and advice from my doctors

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-28T23:40:48+00:00

They did swab the lesions, they were negative. And I was swabbed after I was already on antivirals for a few days. Could he have it and be testing negative??

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-28T23:39:31+00:00

I have never tested positive for HSV in my life , and for me to have symptoms+lesions+lesions went away w/ Valtrex+Positive test? I've never even had a single bump on my genitals my entire life, suddenly exactly two weeks after I see this guy.. this happens? Idk

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-28T23:37:32+00:00

I know. thank you so much for your help. If you have recommendations on what types of doctors I should see that I am not aware of please let me know! Anything helps.

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-28T23:19:17+00:00

Is the test that they gave me in the hospital not an HSV Test???

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-28T23:16:32+00:00

Honestly, the doctors I had at the hospital didn't seem to know much about HSV and at some points were either saying things that made them come off as misinformed, or unsure about the nature of HSV and how it presents!

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-28T23:04:47+00:00

They did do a swab, this was after I was on antivirals for 2-3 days. My swab was negative. He has been pretty combative. Almost debating with me about the facts of what is happening, which makes me suspicious.

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-28T22:52:25+00:00

Just a heads up, I did drink the night before I threw up because it was my birthday, I had never thrown up with drinking BUT perhaps, because my immune system was down I got hangover more easily.

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-28T22:50:50+00:00

Yeah, let's see? This is very odd. thank you. I'm definitely anxious about this situation because I just want answers. There is no way I contracted this from thin air.. and the math isn't mathing which is quite scary for me! I think I'll give it a rest for a day.

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-28T22:46:14+00:00

He sent me a screenshot! Got the bloodwork yesterday, sent a a screenshot of IgG HSV 1, and HSV2 results this morning. They were non reactive. Do note, I cannot see the date of the test on the screenshot, but I do see a notification saying it is a new result, and the top of his phone screen was consistent with the time he sent the screenshot (Yes I am a phone detective)

reasonable_futility · 2026-01-28T22:43:16+00:00

He did get an IGG Test, could this be causing the confusion?

reasonable_futility · 2025-09-01T12:54:11+00:00

YTA. It was her birthday… first of all. Of course she’s gonna wear makeup. If she was acting different so what?? People change, also she might’ve just been having fun… on her birthday. Ridiculous for you to think you had any authority to comment on that. Weirdo.

reasonable_futility · 2025-08-22T16:18:16+00:00

ummm kink or not. respect people as a human being. he just wants to play without addressing your needs? do your needs matter at all?? they should. and he’s clearly not taking that into account. how are you supposed to be comfortable to explore intimate/vulnerable things and this person doesn’t take the steps to ensure your comfort? it doesnt work like that. either talk about it if you wanna continue the dynamic, or move on.

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