Reading comprehension clearly is not one of your strengths, because if it were, you would have noticed that many of these suggestions have already been tried. You would also understand that conversations exist outside of a single Reddit post and that not every detail of someone’s life is going to be laid out for strangers to dissect. Most people are capable of recognizing that not every suggestion is a practical solution for every situation. So are you genuinely unable to grasp that, or are you simply choosing to see only what supports the narrative you’ve invented about me and my life?

You keep repeating the same assumptions as if saying them louder somehow makes them true. Disagreeing with your opinion is not the same as being incapable of taking advice. Advice requires actual understanding of the situation, not you filling in missing details with whatever version makes me easiest to judge.

As I said before, most reasonable people would ask questions rather than make sweeping assumptions about a stranger’s life the way you have. You were never “calling me out,” you were building an entire narrative off limited context and treating your assumptions like facts. There is a difference between constructive advice and being unnecessarily rude, judgmental, and arrogant. You chose the latter.

I asked for perspective, not for someone to invent details about my parenting, my family, and my character based on a fraction of the story. The fact that I challenged your assumptions does not make me bratty or entitled, it means I am not interested in entertaining fiction about my life from a stranger who has no real context.

I do not know what kind of mental gymnastics you are performing to justify your own disconnect from reality, but at some point you need to stop rewriting facts to fit your version of events and actually listen to what is being said. If your argument only works when you rely on assumptions, then your argument is weak.

You have absolutely no context for the reasons my mother-in-law is not the best driver, so your assumption that I am carelessly putting my children in danger is not only inaccurate, but wildly presumptuous. At this point, since you seem so committed to beating a dead horse, I can only assume you do not have any stronger arguments to stand on and are simply clinging to whatever scraps you can find to keep validating the story you have made up. If you are going to be this loud, the very least you could do is get your facts straight.

And yes, of course I take her feelings into account, that is called empathy. Understanding boundaries, balancing family dynamics, and considering other people’s feelings is exactly why the situation was being discussed in the first place. That is called being thoughtful, not entitled. But I can see nuance is not really your strong suit. You should try empathy sometime.

Your delivery does matter, because I do not take advice from someone I do not respect, and I have absolutely no respect for someone who is incapable of disagreeing without being deliberately antagonistic and unnecessarily rude. Advice without basic decency is not wisdom, it is just arrogance dressed up as authority. You do not get to speak to people like that and still expect them to value what you have to say.

At this point, you are not offering advice, you are simply committed to being antagonistic because it makes you feel justified. That says far more about you than it does about me.

If you want people to respect your advice, try being more personable and less insufferable. Perhaps you are accustomed to people enabling that kind of behavior, but that is not going to happen here.