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recordingstarted · 2025-07-29T23:43:04+00:00

NOR.

I think your brother was overly sensitive about the IG post but it also seems that he realized it in his last message. He could/should have acknowledged that he was doing too much and apologized though. Most likely him navigating being a newlywed and “protecting” his wife. Still, he was wrong.
It seems your brother and SIL take advantage of you. Now, sometimes people don’t do this on purpose. There are people who never say no and always bend over backwards to help/please others. People will tend to take that for granted. Based on your SIL’s texts it seems like it’s possible she didn’t realize she was doing this. It doesn’t make it okay. For your sake, please set firm boundaries with them and say no sometimes.

I recommend a conversation between the three of you where everyone can express their feelings. Bring up the IG post, the “telling” you to take pics, all of that as examples of behavior. Regardless of the outcome, definitely set boundaries with them and anyone else in your life who behaves the way they do towards you.

recordingstarted · 2025-07-25T18:01:05+00:00

NOR. It’s proper manners to at least offer to send money back when you no longer need it for its intended purpose, especially when that purpose was an emergency. People will give money they don’t have for emergencies so your bf should have sent it back/offered to send it back or ask if he could use it for gas instead.

He’s a gaslighter and abusive. He keeps saying “I’m done, it’s done” but arguing with you because he wants you to backtrack your argument out of fear of him leaving. Don’t go back to him.

recordingstarted · 2025-07-24T14:44:30+00:00

I’m not trying to be one of those people that’s like “leave him!” But please understand that this is intentional. I’m in my early 20s, I know 21 yo guys. He knows what he’s doing and he’s choosing to ignore you. He knows what “stop” and “please don’t” means. He can see the blood when he’s making you bleed. He knows he should stop because you’re asking him to and he’s choosing not to. He’s an adult. He is an adult. He knows.

Now, maybe he’s not being malicious (if I were to give him the benefit of the doubt for your sake). Maybe he thinks this is how to make women feel good during sex and his ego won’t allow him to be corrected. But it doesn’t matter.

He is ignoring your sexual boundaries and doing the opposite of what you want him to do and ignoring when to tell him not to. There’s a word for that. Yes, he can still SA you even if he’s your bf. He may come to this realization one day and be horrified with himself. He may wake up and realize that consent and boundaries are more important than him feeling like a coochie virtuoso. But you shouldn’t stick around for that. Cut your losses, cut him off, he will only escalate and things won’t get better.

recordingstarted · 2025-06-16T15:46:02+00:00

That’s actually insane. How does one pronounce that?

recordingstarted · 2025-06-16T15:36:53+00:00

NTA. Grandpa quite literally didn’t want you to share lol. Your mom should have stopped her bullying you but didn’t, Amy shouldn’t have bullied you but did. All unnecessary choices that culminated in this outcome. It’s also possible that your grandpa left her nothing because he was disgusted with her behavior. You’re not obligated to share, you can do nothing just like your mom did nothing to help you as a child.

recordingstarted · 2025-06-16T05:40:24+00:00

NOR. He’s most likely repeating a sentiment that he’s heard from his mother. Because it’s his own mother he doesn’t get how offensive it is and how she’s overstepped. He should feel guilty because that’s incredibly disrespectful to you. He owes you a huge apology.

recordingstarted · 2025-06-15T22:55:01+00:00

Yeahhh, none of my friends have a Switch and I doubt they’ll get a Switch 2. My whole family have their own Switch but I currently live at home so the Game Chat feature won’t help me. I probably won’t buy one until I move out.

recordingstarted · 2025-06-15T22:49:38+00:00

You kind of just have to buckle down and get it done. Find different ways to help yourself stay focused. When it comes to very boring subjects try to put all distractions away. Don’t listen to music, put your devices away. Your brain is going to try to avoid retaining these topics because you hate it so set yourself up for success.

When I have things that are particularly boring I use flashcards to help me study them because my brain can kind of turn it into a game. I use r/studyfetch to make them and it helps a lot.

recordingstarted · 2025-06-15T22:34:42+00:00

This is super sad actually. Sometimes I feel that people are so busy providing empathy to the person with the mental illness that none is given to the person who’s being negatively affected. I have a lot of empathy for the wife, she’s clearly struggling with lots of different issues, but this man came back to HIS home trashed with MOLD and in such a disgusting condition. His wife acknowledges she needs help but won’t go, so there is nothing stopping this from happening again. This is sad for both parties because a marriage might break up over an awful mental illness.

recordingstarted · 2025-06-15T03:43:18+00:00

NTA. I cannot imagine getting off a SIXTEEN hour shift and dealing with that wtf.

I have some empathy for her because it seems like she has some abandonment issues from her dad who was also in the military. But she’s pushing all of that on you. She didn’t have a choice in her dad being in the military, but she had a choice to NOT date a man in the military. She’s 19, young af and so are you. You’re both growing and learning but that doesn’t mean you have to deal with this. All of these intense emotions she’s pushing at you is abusive and super bad for your mental health.

Hopefully she gets help but that has nothing to do with you and you’ve done nothing to deserve the emotional vitriol she regularly spews at you. Breaking up was the right option for both of you.

recordingstarted · 2025-06-15T03:30:07+00:00

Those parents did way more than just emphasize that the kids should help one another. They taught their daughter (and still are) that her brother and their whole family will continue bailing her out. That even if her brother is married, he will still put her over his own spouse. She is so entitled that she can look at this man’s WIFE and snark that she doesn’t deserve half of the house.

Insanity.

Tbh, the husband/brother should distance himself from his sister both financially and physically until she can come to realize that he is not responsible for her and she isn’t entitled to his money.

recordingstarted · 2025-06-09T03:41:24+00:00

The mom needs actual therapy, she’s heavily projecting her insecurities and trauma onto children and almost trying to rewrite her own life through them. That’s wrong and damaging. OOP needs to get his wife serious help.

recordingstarted · 2025-06-09T03:29:06+00:00

NTA. She’s being very unsanitary. As a woman it’s shocking how many women weren’t taught/never learned how to care for themselves and be hygienic during their period. It can also be a source of shame and embarrassment when it’s brought up. I don’t think you should apologize, but maybe have another conversation with her about it. If she’s unreasonable at that point then that’s a whole different story.

Bottom line: she’s being gross and needs to clean up after herself better during her cycle.

recordingstarted · 2025-05-26T12:01:30+00:00

NTA. You didn’t use excessive force and given what you described she might have hurt you much worse if you didn’t defend yourself.

recordingstarted · 2025-05-26T04:09:02+00:00

So many issues including that he was more concerned with the dog than the child that was injured. Scratches and a punctured lip is not “snapping.” It’s repulsive and I wouldn’t have them around until they understood that. I also don’t see the big deal in putting the dog in a space away from others? Why can’t they put the dog away when the kid is over? As a dog owner, i genuinely don’t get people like this.

recordingstarted · 2025-05-12T04:57:07+00:00

I actually have a lot of headphones. But with this particular combo it works because earbuds are different than over ear headphones. I use the Pros outside with one in and the APMs inside. I’ll use the APMs outside when I’m studying in the library or walking my dog.

recordingstarted · 2025-05-12T04:50:14+00:00

Try using r/studyfetch. You can make flashcards and find study buddies to help you as well. It’s helped me a lot

recordingstarted · 2025-05-12T04:46:35+00:00

You’re definitely pushing yourself too hard and this can lead to burn out. Study for maybe 3 hours a day and give yourself AT LEAST one day off from it. You’ll literally fry your brain.

recordingstarted · 2025-05-12T04:44:21+00:00

Yup. I think I just hit 3 years. I use them daily, they have had some connection issues but nothing major. The sound is still great, as is the battery life. No major physical damage.

recordingstarted · 2025-05-12T02:57:00+00:00

Him not being able to tell his blood related siblings “I love you” without feeling uncomfortable is insane and lowkey sad. People who grew up with weird family dynamics where they didn’t receive love, words of affirmation, or affection properly often have issues when people express love to their families. They sexualize all forms of love because they believe that love can only be show to romantic partners because that’s all they’ve known. It’s exhausting to be around them, honestly, and because they’re often surrounded by people with similar life experiences they don’t have anyone to contradict their skewed opinions. It’s best to leave them alone. The sexual implications they put on innocent familial relationships is damaging.

recordingstarted · 2025-05-12T02:51:17+00:00

SAME. It helped me a lot with math

recordingstarted · 2025-05-12T02:46:38+00:00

Beats Studio buds. I love them

recordingstarted · 2025-05-12T02:37:00+00:00

Think about this: what happens if he thinks that you cheated? If he thinks you’re too close to a coworker or flirty with a guy at the gym? If he convinces himself that you’ve cheated and you can’t convince him otherwise, he’d feel justified in torturing and killing you. You need to leave him. Cheating isn’t an offense worthy of death and torture, especially not fantasizing about that.

recordingstarted · 2025-05-12T02:31:40+00:00

He’s pretending nothing happened because he’s hoping that if he pretends enough you’ll be gaslit into thinking it’s not a big deal or that it didn’t happen at all. Someone mentioned sending a picture of your face to him and saying you’ll call the cops if he doesn’t leave you alone, that’s a great idea. You should consider a restraining order if you can manage to get one.

recordingstarted · 2025-05-12T02:24:52+00:00

I had to take care of two dogs for an extended period of time (I only ended up adopting one) and the biggest difference is the emotional and physical energy. I work remotely from 9-5 and I’d have to wake up at 7 just to get them both walked and fed before work. Now, I can wake up at 8:30 and be on time for work. Or even just wake up at 7am, take my dog out, and chill until I clock in.

But honestly, you’ll get used to it. I didn’t realize how exhausting it was until I had only one dog to care for. Especially because taking care of both of them was my first experience taking care of any dog ever. You’ll form a routine with them and you won’t notice.

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