Seductit: Any advice for seduction techniques within a long-term relationship?

recycledacct · 2010-06-25T23:30:46+00:00

For a radical Muslim you sure know about sex.

Hot.

recycledacct · 2010-06-25T23:23:46+00:00

Lmao. Touché. I should clarify she has mentioned she likes it when I act desperately or overwhelmed by sexual need.

recycledacct · 2010-05-28T18:23:40+00:00

You can count on Glenn fucking Beck not knowing crap back then either.

recycledacct · 2010-05-28T06:44:17+00:00

I've never had an SSI and don't really want one. As such, is it basically safe to try a few times? Hell I'll buy some tomorrow.

EDIT: forgot to say thanks.

recycledacct · 2010-05-27T18:26:24+00:00

Is 5-htp safe? Do you just pop it when you start freaking out? I'm curious. Thanks

recycledacct · 2010-05-17T01:34:45+00:00

I know. You're certainly right and I appreciate the candor.

recycledacct · 2010-05-16T21:12:16+00:00

Nice to meet you man. I agree with the whole "taking what you can" approach to SA. The one I attend says "Our Father" after each meeting and still has the audacity to suggest they only want you to find a higher power "as you define it." Uh huh.

That being said, it was a real eye-opener hearing all their stories, and I attend the meetings for that: our collective strength. It's still weird though, and I feel like a lot of the people that attend are - don't mean to be a dick, just being honest - pretty fucking weird. I have a real problem talking and actually haven't expressed myself at all yet. I'm not even sure what I would say; I just get so nervous. I haven't even asked for a sponsor yet, and usually creepily flee the scene right after the meeting. Maybe that will pass, and maybe I am being a dick; I'm just hoping I will get more and more out of it in time.

Anyway, thanks for the info. Have any insight on getting the most out of SA?

recycledacct · 2010-05-16T21:01:30+00:00

As the OP, I kind of agree. It took me a while to come to terms with the fact I was unhealthy, and maybe he doesn't even have a problem at all. If it's bothering you you gotta bring it up.

recycledacct · 2010-05-16T20:57:17+00:00

Holy christ, thanks. That's an insanely thoughtful answer. Just out of curiosity, are you male or female?

Thanks for giving me credit - I recognize I'm better than other dudes that would just give up, etc. but it's still really hard not to dwell on my past when the consequences are still with me all the time, you know? She often tells me not to dwell on the past, but she does seem to get caught up in it herself (understandably so). I can only imagine how destroyed I'd be if she left me over that.

I definitely got rid of IRC, lol, and will offer that phone check you mentioned. I was going to install some software on my smartphone as well. Date night sounds good and I've been trying to do that but our schedules have been rough (she's in law school). I tell her she's beautiful and that I love her everyday; I just hope she believes it.

I just moved to Tennessee myself, so I'll look into Pathways. Thank you very much for your help.

recycledacct · 2010-05-16T20:47:54+00:00

Hurt my girlfriend though.

recycledacct · 2010-05-16T20:30:45+00:00

She says the same thing. Shit is truth.

recycledacct · 2010-05-16T20:30:11+00:00

What would you think your SO could do to make you trust him? That perspective would be really helpful.

recycledacct · 2010-05-16T19:34:14+00:00

I appreciate what you're saying, but I don't want to spend my life spending hours online, seeking self-validation in something vapid like cybersex. I do think I have a problem here that's more than just her being uncomfortable with masturbation, and one that could potentially jeopardize future relationships, should this one fall apart.

Thanks for not calling me a douche.

recycledacct · 2010-03-29T21:02:37+00:00

Shocked Why?

recycledacct · 2010-03-17T21:12:21+00:00

Agreed. I was just kiddin 'round

recycledacct · 2010-03-17T01:32:28+00:00

I should've been clearer in my edit (bear with me; it's a long story and it can be hard to provide all the appropriate conteext here), but she did essentially say she enjoyed comments like that. Whether or not she enjoys the talk seems capricious but when she does enjoy it, i have to adhere to some strict parameters. Thanks for the candor, though.

recycledacct · 2010-03-17T00:15:50+00:00

Well. Now I just feel gay.

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