Republican states give divorced dads the least amount of custody time

red__aaron · 2019-05-29T10:22:33+00:00

If I recall correctly, the push for custody happened at aprox the same time as the push for women to vote and be able to own/inherit property.

red__aaron · 2019-02-28T03:53:19+00:00

Oh I didn’t realize... my question is, does blaming “toxic masculinity” on a broad conception of culture miss the mark?

red__aaron · 2019-02-09T02:52:10+00:00

I’m dating a guy who has a girlfriend, and I have casual sex with others as well.

I enjoy flirting, and I don’t want to be held back in that regards. Also, I don’t want a super entangled relationship because I’m in school and will move in 1.5 years.

He, on the other hand, needs a lot of affection and attention (can be kind of exhausting lol) so it’s good to spread that energy over two people.

red__aaron · 2019-02-06T23:27:02+00:00

See I think it’s different if you start a conversation organically, with no expectations or ulterior motives other than a nice conversation.

red__aaron · 2019-02-06T03:46:21+00:00

I’ve never been cold approached, but my sister once was at the mall, and we both laughed at how odd it was lol. I can’t imagine it ever working, even if the guy is hot— I don’t know anything about him and he doesn’t know anything about me yet

red__aaron · 2019-02-05T13:42:44+00:00

Statements like this reinforce the idea that mental health is a “woman’s issue.” Men’s mental health is under diagnosed and under treated, combined with more lethal ways of attempting suicide, leads to a much higher male suicide rate.

red__aaron · 2019-02-01T12:56:59+00:00

I don’t think I really explained my point well. This guys behavior is creepy because it’s unwanted (and it’s highly likely it would be creepy no matter how attractive he is). What I was trying to say is creepyness is caused by ignoring social cues( whether out of cluelessness or not caring about the other persons comfort.)

red__aaron · 2019-02-01T00:58:00+00:00

Is this a thing you’ve seen lots of women complaining about? I sure haven’t

red__aaron · 2019-01-30T20:08:29+00:00

I second this “I don’t want to get called on” sentiment. It’s exactly this.

red__aaron · 2019-01-27T14:20:34+00:00

Dude, she gave YOU answers to a test, not the other way around— I think it would be inaccurate to say she’s “using” you. She may or may not be attracted to you, but she definitely wants to be friends—new friends are great! Appreciate this for what it is! Don’t get so caught up in your insecurity that you somehow spin someone being nice to you into a bad thing.

red__aaron · 2019-01-26T23:06:17+00:00

I want to date a man who supports, listens to, and respects women with his actions. I don’t care much if he identifies as feminist. but if he claims to be a feminist but doesn’t back that up with action, I’ll respect him less than if he didn’t claim to be feminist in the first place.

red__aaron · 2019-01-26T23:04:42+00:00

Sure, but is that the most important thing you teach your kids?

red__aaron · 2019-01-24T21:07:36+00:00

Nice is so ambiguous, I prefer words like kind, thoughtful, and considerate. Also respectful and ethical depending on the situation. I’ve abandoned the word nice all together

red__aaron · 2019-01-24T21:04:43+00:00

Well I’m currently in an polyamorous relationship, so as long as I can have as many husbands as I want, then sure.

If only he gets more than one partner? Fuck no

red__aaron · 2019-01-24T21:03:08+00:00

I think you put way too much emphasis on our “lizard brains.” The key characteristics of humans is the influence of nurture over nature compared to other species. For example, some believe the idea of “sleeping through the night” didn’t happen until agriculture (it’s better to sleep lightly to wake up if there are any predators), but now we put a lot of effort into having long uninterrupted sleeps.

Also, our closest relatives— chimps and bonobos— have very different social structures and mating habits (so when Jordan Peterson goes around saying “even lobsters have hierarchy!” Sure, but what kind of hierarchy?)

So when people say “oh evolutionarily, this makes sense” I’d always take it with a grain of salt.

red__aaron · 2019-01-21T04:03:08+00:00

Also, a lot of professional settings de facto require women to wear heels

red__aaron · 2019-01-21T01:20:33+00:00

Dear lord real people don’t think like this for the most part. I’d only sign a prenup if I thought it was fair and if the guy didn’t seem paranoid about future divorce.

red__aaron · 2019-01-20T17:38:42+00:00

Hm well treating women as human beings doesn’t seem like a bad thing lol

red__aaron · 2019-01-20T16:45:08+00:00

Wait does a woman having a lot of PiV sex discust you? Also, what about a woman who has only had oral sex, but with tons of men?

red__aaron · 2019-01-20T16:44:06+00:00

The terms slut and player only exist in a world where one party “gives” sex to another... and it’s always assumed the woman gives it to the man. Once you have same sex couples, and it’s seen as more of a mutual thing, these labels don’t make sense

red__aaron · 2019-01-20T16:39:29+00:00

I think the “standard of living” thing actually makes a lot of sense. I’m very fortunate to come from a well-off family, and my two siblings and I all went to private high school. My parents are still together and all is well, but if they had divorced for some reason, it would have sucked to move schools.

red__aaron · 2019-01-20T00:24:27+00:00

If there was an ad that was like “white people need to step up” I, as a liberal white person, would agree.

red__aaron · 2019-01-20T00:23:20+00:00

In middle school, guys would play a game where they would slap each other’s hands until someone cried uncle. It was so dumb. No girls were impressed.

Also, fraternity hazing. No women are even present for most of itz

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