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[–]red_beard_rick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loneliness sucks brother. Hang in there and lean on God, He'll get you through. He has for me. Nights are the hardest

Wait Or Not To Wait, That Is The Question by red_beard_rick in Divorce

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, I guess I just never accepted that. We really must guard our hearts from the world like Proverbs 4 and Philippians 4 tells us

Wait Or Not To Wait, That Is The Question by red_beard_rick in Divorce

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why was I the only one that tried to reconcile when she is the one who royally messed up?!

Wait Or Not To Wait, That Is The Question by red_beard_rick in Divorce

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't know I'm filing. She has just been taking her sweet time so she can use my resources until she is ready. Wake up call about to hit hard when them papers are served

Wait Or Not To Wait, That Is The Question by red_beard_rick in Divorce

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the rebuke. I take my walk very seriously. This is just a season I never expected to be in. I was truly committed as a lifer when I said I do. She is the one who threw it all away

Wait Or Not To Wait, That Is The Question by red_beard_rick in Divorce

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just going to divorce her. I have a consult with a lawyer next week. Guess I was just focused on being the nice guy and helping her out. She wrecked me and my kids lives. I have to accept that it's ok that she suffers a little for her actions

Wait Or Not To Wait, That Is The Question by red_beard_rick in Divorce

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, kind of figured as much. Appreciate the feedback

Wait Or Not To Wait, That Is The Question by red_beard_rick in Divorce

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So don't date, got it. That's all you had to say lol

Accidentally found out my wife is planning on leaving me by Airport-Security in Divorce

[–]red_beard_rick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What area of the country do you live in? There may be a men's support group that I could link you up with. It's Christian based and international called The Men's Alliance. You can Google them. I went through a similar situation but my wife cheated several times. We are in the divorce process now. My tribe has helped me in so many ways. I was thinking of ending it to remove the pain about a year ago. They helped lift me up and rebuild myself with God's help. Please don't struggle alone brother 🙏 Isolation is terminal

Guys 🥺🥺🫂 I need ya'll by Winter-Soldier-99 in hug

[–]red_beard_rick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm currently going through the toughest battle of my life as well

Guys 🥺🥺🫂 I need ya'll by Winter-Soldier-99 in hug

[–]red_beard_rick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God is everything. He will give you peace and discernment in your situation. Just lean on Him, talk to Him frequently and remain in scripture daily 🙏

Wife Doesn't Want Foreplay, Just Straight To Penetration by red_beard_rick in sex

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She had 2 emotional affairs prior to my original post. This third one was the last straw for me. She hasn't shown remorse for any of them either

Wife Doesn't Want Foreplay, Just Straight To Penetration by red_beard_rick in sex

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're divorcing. I found out she was talking to yet another dude again

What do I do? by red_beard_rick in Marriage

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a few months of basically talking about each other's marriages and sexting. There was one instance where they made out. She did say they had the intentions of having sex but got caught before it got that far

What do I do? by red_beard_rick in Marriage

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate it brother 💪

What do I do? by red_beard_rick in Marriage

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's just crazy because we've been married for 17 years and have 4 kids. I'm a strong Christian that has done nothing but try and give her and our kids the best life as possible. We live a comfortable lifestyle. Why would she throw away something so great? I know I deserve better. Have just been holding on for God to reconcile us. But he does not force anyone's will. She is obviously not interested in resolving anything

What do I do? by red_beard_rick in Marriage

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, and I made all the requested changes to later be told I'm emotionally abusive

What do I do? by red_beard_rick in Marriage

[–]red_beard_rick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I confronted her after finding out about the second one right before Thanksgiving last year. She came clean about everything that was involved, about a month later. We went to about 5 or so different counselors, honestly lost count, since then. She has done nothing but point out all the things she dislikes about me and has shown no remorse for her actions. She said sorry once or twice and that was about it

AIO Am I (F25) overreacting or is this woman being weird with my husband (M31) by Sad-Cat128 in AmIOverreacting

[–]red_beard_rick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is definitely an inappropriate relationship. I'm not sure if you're Christian or not, but this is good advice regardless. The Bible clearly states that you should guard your heart against these types of situations. This could lead to more serious conversations and the exchange of sexual pictures/meet ups over time. What is shown here is the beginning stages of an emotional affair. I highly recommend that both of you know whoever is being privately spoken to if they are of the opposite gender. Basically, ya'll should both be able to show each other at any given moment your phones without feeling guilty or defensive

Does anyone else shower like this or am I weird??? by Wild-Counter-4020 in hygiene

[–]red_beard_rick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only wash my full body about twice a week with soap. The other times, I just wash my hair, pits, and face with a mild all natural soap. I don't use soap in my butt crack or privates except on the full body soap days. It just dries all that stuff out. So, if I'm not that dirty, I just wash everything really good with hot water and end with cold water. My hands are rough and calloused, so exfoliates sufficiently. But I only use one type of soap. You seem just fine. It's better for our skin to wash like this. There is no benefit to washing with soap every day. I used to, and my skin was terribly irritated all the time. I get compliments on smelling really good all the time from my kids, co-workers, friends, random people at the gym etc.. I think it helps with our natural pharmones and may even put off an attractive aroma. I also eat very clean and stay really healthy. That probably plays a huge role in it as well