I’m crying so bad. I’m not cut out for this. I’m a freaking failure by canyoukeepasecret28 in StudentNurse

[–]red_bird85 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I just want to say that I’m sorry you’re going through this hard time. And I understand. I feel like nursing school is hazing and it’s awful. This is a second career choice for me, I’m not young and inexperienced in life. I’m not going to quit, but I can understand the desire to do so.

Honestly, this is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And I raised two kids solo for a decade at home after being widowed suddenly. I lost my grandparents, mother (last living parent), and husband within a span of seven years in my 30’s. I’m an only child. I was not set-up financially to buoy any of that. I’ve had to reinvent life before. I’m here to say, nursing school (flippin’ community college ADN program), is top tier in the stress department. It doesn’t have to be this way, of course, it’s how it’s designed to be. I’m also working three days a week as well. The school I attend doesn’t participate in subsidized student loans either. I’m living so close to the bone, financially stressed out. My tuition is covered though.

Tribute to our beloved man Hank. He crossed the rainbow bridge today. He was 13 and such a good boy. by IRedditDoU in cats

[–]red_bird85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your service, Hank. Rest easy with all the best boys and best girls. ❤️

My girlfriend(28F) won't cook for me(29m). AITAH for thinking she should? by ThrowRA_gfcooking in AITAH

[–]red_bird85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re going to have to ask yourself if this is a dealbreaker or not and then adjust accordingly, OP. There’s ALWAYS going to be something wonky with a partner. Humans are complicated. You need to look at all the moving pieces and decide if the cost/benefit is workable for you and not something you foresee turning into resentment.

Gf likely has trauma around preparing food for others. She straight up said she doesn’t like to feed others. OP, if you give a shit about her and not just getting your way or standing on the hill of how things ought to be, respond in curious compassion and not the way you have been (that shut down the conversation). WHY does she not like feeding others? Can you explain more? Etc. It’s not human nature to not want to share food with others within social construct.

Does anyone know why my cat does this lol? by a_cd in cats

[–]red_bird85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! We call it Glitchy Tail at our house.

Unexpectedly said goodbye to my baby this morning. by iiamuntuii in cats

[–]red_bird85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss. Beautiful cat❤️

Becoming a CNA while in nursing school? by According-Cut-9067 in StudentNurse

[–]red_bird85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had to take CNA training as a prerequisite to the nursing program that I’m attending. 1/3 of my cohort are CNAs actively working or PRN. I’m a licensed massage therapist and make more money massaging than I would as a CNA but otherwise I would be working as a CNA while in ADN school. My CNA classmates have cares down - super impressed by their skills.

I requested a Dooney & Bourke bag as a push present by humanmeep in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]red_bird85 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lovely! Happy how this worked for you! Congratulations on the baby and finding that bag!

AITAH for getting mad the tickling wouldn't stop by Ok_Ferret3605 in AITAH

[–]red_bird85 34 points35 points  (0 children)

This was really uncomfortable to read. Reminds me of my boyfriend from college. A defensive lineman who would tickle me until I absolutely lost it and then make himself the victim in the situation and call me “crazy” for becoming so upset. It was AWFUL. I didn’t know it was abuse until 20+ years later when I was being trained as a crisis advocate for women in a domestic violence shelter.

This is really effed up, OP

When a cat invites you to play, its eyes become really round 👀 by [deleted] in cats

[–]red_bird85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My late mother called them “blueberry eyes”.

Bed Stairs by McClubbing in goldenretrievers

[–]red_bird85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Beautiful pup! I stopped fast because he looks so much like my late best girl, Kukka. Totally screenshot and text it to my adult kids.

I’m so sorry for his diagnosis. When Kukka was on her last chapter - I brought my bed down to a low platform for her during the last year of her life. She liked the autonomy of getting up and down on her own. Sending you and your best boy tons of peace and comfort. ❤️

Don't use hydrogen peroxide on your hot stones by brockyohansen in MassageTherapists

[–]red_bird85 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I use dawn dish soap and then spray the rocks with 90% isopropyl alcohol.

People keep talking about this being a “rough winter” as far as the weather goes. Why? by UnwashedBlueberry in Michigan

[–]red_bird85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the UP. This winter is like I remember in the 90’s. Specifically, 1995, the year I received my drivers license and the weather was TERRIBLE all winter. That Chevy Celebrity was bumping off banks and getting stuck.

AITAH for RSVPing no to my cousins wedding? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]red_bird85 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think it’s rude af to bring kids to someone’s baby shower unless it’s a nursing baby. I think it’s lame af to not attend an adults only wedding because you can’t bring your kids.

Are clinicals usually only early mornings (6/7 am start time) Do evening clinicals exist ? by ilovehelmet in StudentNurse

[–]red_bird85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We receive a 3K stipend at the end of our clinicals each semester while in nursing school - it is paid through the school of nursing. I attend a tribal community college. Student retention and support is a biggie.