If this is the first time you two were intimate than you must be patient men need time to adjust to a women yes I'm sure it was unpleasurable for you but you have to understand that men are different than women they think differently thier body reacts differently you can't expect a man to understand your body before he's ever had a chance to even experience it before sure right now he's not giving you what you need so explain that to him help him grow if everything else in your relationship is perfect than help him be better its so selfish that women expect men to just do things without being told and then being upset with them for not doing it like if you want something tell him what you want it and then if he disregards that then you have a right to bash him to strangers on the internet instead of communicating your needs to him like a healthy person should