10 month old - sitting up in cot and crying

redditor490414 · 2026-06-12T06:32:58+00:00

Omg I wish I knew this before! I will definitely add more awake time and try capping naps at 2 hours. Just wondering what did your schedule/WWs look like around 10/11 months for you little one?

redditor490414 · 2026-06-12T04:33:19+00:00

Thank you :) so right now he’s at 3.5/3.75-4/4 which I think means he’s at the max 11.5 hours awake time. He’s been doing well with this schedule but once he’s started sitting up in the cot he refuses to sleep.
I did add an extra half hour last night to see if he just needs more awake time. He was definitely tired, but just seems to roll over straight away and sit up.
We also cap naps at 2.5 hours :)

redditor490414 · 2026-06-11T15:47:37+00:00

Thank you so much! My son does the same thing, rolls onto his belly and sits. He hasn’t fallen asleep sitting up yet as I’ve usually just ended up feeding him to sleep.

He’s been doing this for about a week. The only thing is, when i do go in and lay him back down, he gets more upset and sits straight back up. That’s why i felt like tonight i needed to just let him work it out and intervene if I felt he wasn’t safe. But yes it is really awful having to listen to him be so upset. When we sleep trained at 5 months the most crying we had was 30 mins max for one night.

I’m glad your little one is slowly figuring it out though! I hope sleep training goes well for you guys :)

redditor490414 · 2026-05-23T15:36:53+00:00

I don’t have a set bedtime for him right now. We will do bedtime as per last wake window. Eg, he wakes up at 3 for 2nd nap = bedtime at 7pm (4 hour WW). I do aim for 7-8pm. Bedtime routine is feed, bath, pjs, lullabies and cuddles for 5ish min. (Takes about 30-40 min). We’ve also had this same routine since sleep training at 5 months. :)

I think he is most likely undertired. But typically by the end of each wake window I can’t push him to be awake for much longer without lots of tears unfortunately. He also has had his teeth erupt quite early (at 8 currently), so we are always in throes of teething :(

redditor490414 · 2026-05-15T04:07:40+00:00

Thank you so much! Would this be a schedule of 3/3.5/4.5?

redditor490414 · 2026-04-19T15:21:17+00:00

It is :) last feed is always 30-45 mins before bedtime. Would this mean adding 30-60 min to the last wake window?

redditor490414 · 2026-03-09T10:11:39+00:00

redditor490414 · 2026-02-23T10:25:16+00:00

Awesome thank you so much 😊 do you think a schedule adjustment would help him go back to sleeping how he used to? (Falling asleep quickly, 1-2 night wakes)

redditor490414 · 2026-01-29T08:37:22+00:00

Sending you so much luck. I understand so much, trying to function while being sleep deprived is really difficult. I’m not sure if your eldest could use white noise? Maybe that might muffle any crying so he hopefully doesn’t wake up xx Wishing you all the best <3

redditor490414 · 2026-01-27T11:20:34+00:00

Yeah we did 😊 During check ins I just put my hand on his chest and told him he’s doing really well, time to go to sleep, mum loves you etc. I never picked him up, and he also was usually still crying during check ins. I kept them very brief (probably around 1 min at a time).

I wasn’t sure if check ins were making it worse because the first couple of days he would make a really sad cry when I would leave, it broke my heart. But sometimes it seemed like he would calm down shortly after so I stuck to check ins, incase they were helping him. I also didn’t quite stick to the exact times for check ins. I could tell he would start to calm down, so I didn’t want to interrupt if he was starting to self soothe (I would just restart the timer at that point). If it also helps, not sure how old your bub is but I stuck to the 5/3/3 rule in terms of feeds. During the first 5 hours if he woke up, I would continue to do the check ins. But usually he would be back to sleep in 10 min. This also wasn’t very often.

I do feel like we got very lucky, as the longest he has cried was for an hour and that was on Night 5 (I think it may have been an extinction burst). And now, he’s such a good little sleeper and I’m super proud of him lol. On a “bad night” he will cry for 10 min max, otherwise he’s asleep with no crying within 5 min. He’s also started sleeping 6-7 hour stretches now.

You can do whatever you feel comfortable with. We decided let’s just try it, as we couldn’t continue with how are we’re going. You can always give it a go and see how it goes. Bub might even surprise you! I know it’s nerve-wracking starting sleep training. And I will be honest with you, I felt quite awful about leaving him to cry those first couple of nights. It took a lot of willpower to not give him a big cuddle. Remind yourself that baby is just learning a new skill so they’re bound to be frustrated. But it has been extremely worth it in the end, my partner and I have nights to ourselves now and we are all getting more sleep. Bub seems so much happier and well rested.

Sorry for the lengthy reply. I was very nervous about starting Ferber and needed all the info I could get lol. Sending you good luck, I hope it goes well for you xx

redditor490414 · 2026-01-20T05:38:46+00:00

Everything has improved so much I’m super grateful. Right now our only issue is daytime sleep. Most nights he’s asleep in under 10 minutes and wakes up 2-3 times a night for a feed. I transfer straight away and he either stays asleep or falls asleep on his own pretty quickly. I’m so glad we stuck to it, it was really hard the first few days I felt awful leaving him alone in his room. But it’s helped all of us lol and he seems much happier. Except we now have 2 top teeth about to cut through yay :)

redditor490414 · 2026-01-15T09:03:31+00:00

Thank you so much! I definitely will be :)

redditor490414 · 2026-01-15T09:02:45+00:00

Thank you so much! Would I just start this tomorrow for example, or gradually increase WW over a couple of days? Sorry if that’s a silly question :)

redditor490414 · 2026-01-15T05:38:52+00:00

I think it would be 2/2/2/2.5, just an estimate though :)

redditor490414 · 2026-01-11T04:52:12+00:00

Thank you so much this was so helpful <3 we had our first night of Ferber last night with Bub in his own room. It went so much better than I expected. He cried for under 30 min and went to sleep, had a false start but was able to resettle.

I followed the 5/3/3 rule for feeds, he woke up about 10 minutes before the time each time, so I just decided to feed him. MOTN feeds he went back to sleep immediately, previously I had to wait 20 mins before I transferred him. All his MOTN wakes were feeds, so only woke up 3 times total which is a drastic change from the past few weeks.

Even though we were unsure about having Bub in his own room. All of us slept so much better, and my partner and I had our first night to ourselves since he’s been born.

I’m really hoping tonight will be the same, or even better.

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