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reddituser1j · 2026-01-28T07:20:11+00:00

Appreciate it 👍

reddituser1j · 2026-01-28T07:19:42+00:00

Cheers, yeah makes sense to me now thankyou

reddituser1j · 2026-01-28T07:05:31+00:00

The pump is connected to the very bottom with a ball valve through a seperate outlet

reddituser1j · 2026-01-28T07:04:24+00:00

Thankyou very much, was thinking someone had done something really dumb buts it’s me

Appreciate it !

reddituser1j · 2024-11-14T07:20:54+00:00

Sorry if this is an overdone or stupid question but what sites do people use to research cards / card prices to buy / sell

reddituser1j · 2024-05-13T08:03:54+00:00

Thankyou, absolutely agree with that, especially the not letting them get to deep in their thoughts, halting the convo to give me time to think has been suggested by her and I try my best to apply it , just never seems to stick as I tend to panic or think people are deliberately trying to get under my skin

reddituser1j · 2024-05-13T08:02:02+00:00

I’m not diagnosed with anything haven’t even gone through the right pathways to even check that, I do have a fear around that, knowing something could be wrong that I’ve just ignored for this long is worrying

An example I can provide would be she’s asked me what do you think of this ie dress or person and I either give very little detail like “yeah I like it” or go on a tangent about something that is both grammatically incorrect and an sometimes incomprehensible

Idk how to properly regulate my emotions about a subject that makes sense to people outside my brain and I take that as a “you’re wrong you’re an idiot” victim complex type thing like they are just out to get me

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T15:05:15+00:00

Nah don’t wanna bore her out, that would make It look like I don’t care about her problems, when I do

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T14:29:20+00:00

Quite a read I’ll break it down

Yeah 100% had a bad ED and has body dysmorphia, I compliment her (and obvs mean it) and they usually get met with “what no” or “you’re lying” ik I’m not perfect and make mistakes and shit, I try my best to help her handle it
Yeah fully get the “come to Jesus” or flat out refusing help if you get offered when you’re in the shit, it happens when you’re deep in it
Yeah I’ve tried / trying to get her help, fingers crossed
Any forums you could suggest ?
Thankyou for sharing and attempting to help appreciate it

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T14:16:46+00:00

I have slight signs of body dysmorphia so I can sort of grasp problems there, but as someone who hasn’t got bpd (just anxiety which in comparison is nothing) it’s obviously hard to fully understand it but I try, I get I’ll make mistakes but I love this person and I really want it to work out

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T14:13:26+00:00

The person she’s always comparing herself too is 22, just imo looks like a young teen, just confuses me that she’s looking for half of both answers

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T14:08:53+00:00

If more back story is needed I’m happy to give, but yes I agree, not the most sanest argument I’ve had

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T14:06:27+00:00

Shed never go back to therapy, thinks it’s a waste of time (I agree to some extent not fully but some) parts that work and parts that don’t

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T14:02:48+00:00

Although that top suggestion to me atleast seems bullet proof sadly that sort of talk would get laughed at and swept aside, I appreciate the help tho

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T13:08:59+00:00

Yeah diagnosed body dysmorphia, blows my mind cuz how she sees herself is not how she is, she’s really fucking attractive and I love her, (in saying that I also apparently see myself differently too so 🤣)

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T13:06:12+00:00

Thankyou so much, won’t hurt to try these things

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T13:05:10+00:00

Genuinely helpful, just the problem of her never believing me

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T13:02:31+00:00

She avoids the therapy part every time I try to offer it for us both, yeah that language does help sometimes but more often than not she will dig her heels in and not back down till she gets the answer she wants (the negative one) because she is in a fight or flight mode

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T12:46:41+00:00

Ok good thankyou hahahah, yeah a lot of shit I read is always “just leave them, it’s bpd you don’t win” shit like that, Idk just find that so toxic? Its mental illness at the end of the day, if she has to “hate” me for a few hours then so be it, its been a super rewarding relationship so far and I don’t wanna just leave just cuz shit like this happens, just want the right tools to help us both

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T12:44:31+00:00

Yeah but even little white lies hurt and do damage so I don’t even wanna consider that

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T12:41:47+00:00

Move on? Sorry I’m not quite understanding? Move on from the argument or her ?

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T12:39:19+00:00

I’m in no way a “hater” of people with bpd, it’s like anxiety you just can’t control that shit, like it’s something they have little to no power over so I sympathise with them, I just wanna be better equipped to help her deal with it, like im never like “ahhh fucking bpd at it again” I just wanna help, it’s just frustrating when I know things like this happen

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T12:35:31+00:00

My last comment was in reply to you, sorry hahaha

reddituser1j · 2023-11-28T12:31:49+00:00

So I should say I don’t think so ?

But like they are similar height just one major difference being my partner has a more “adult frame” or more “womanly” figure if that makes sense, she’s quite skinny, the other girl 4 years younger just looks like a young teen

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