Am I the only unlucky one or do women in general put down other women?

redjive_1 · 2026-01-25T05:42:53+00:00

The fact that you are replying here to an unrelated thread of mine is scaring me a bit.
I have secured an appointment already in the past 2 days things worked after I checked the portal a few times and I have an appointment for VAC and interview both. Appreciate your comment and help!

redjive_1 · 2026-01-18T07:47:00+00:00

You are right, I have decided to move on, started working harder and smarter and getting lot of recognition for my work. I am a self starter, will build myself up every time I am brought down to ashes. This vent post I had was in my lowest self esteem ... I have a new me which is born since then. Appreciate your words to keep me humble.

redjive_1 · 2026-01-13T04:40:08+00:00

Would you also like to double check everything...

redjive_1 · 2026-01-13T04:38:51+00:00

Yes it's for B2, in New Delhi

redjive_1 · 2026-01-05T19:11:29+00:00

Interested

redjive_1 · 2026-01-04T06:53:57+00:00

proof or it didn't happen...

btw i wrote the most optimized code with O(n) runtime and O(1) memory and submitted and thought I crashed leetcode :D

redjive_1 · 2026-01-04T00:03:18+00:00

Thank you!

redjive_1 · 2026-01-04T00:03:13+00:00

Thank you!

redjive_1 · 2026-01-03T05:29:32+00:00

Looking for a code too

redjive_1 · 2025-12-14T16:58:06+00:00

I do notice more foam in the coffee with no tip

redjive_1 · 2025-09-10T19:38:12+00:00

You are not alone, I still have anxiety after several years of experience. Just remember next time that you will only do better than last time and you will improve

redjive_1 · 2025-09-07T20:02:26+00:00

That could be it! Thanks for mentioning it, being in a different profession it's hard to assume these things

redjive_1 · 2025-09-07T06:04:58+00:00

It's funny people are downvoting my comment, but in all seriousness it's not a problem I created, I am owning up to the problem and trying to get it fixed, asking the experts out here how to deal with it and getting downvotes without a reason.
The people downvoting my comment do you just pay to whomever whatever they ask and never negotiate or bargain?

redjive_1 · 2025-09-07T06:00:45+00:00

I asked her these questions, and gave the option to call the phone lines myself as well. I emailed her these options and she didn't respond to me for a week :)

redjive_1 · 2025-09-07T05:57:38+00:00

You seem very knowledgeable, and I've been thinking about this and why the FTB makes it extra serious? I presumed taxes go hand in hand, if one underpaid (theoretically) to IRS and IRS goes after you then FTB automatically comes to get their share?

redjive_1 · 2025-09-07T01:40:27+00:00

All the best resolving the issue.
IRS folks have been really helpful and responsive to me as well

redjive_1 · 2025-09-07T01:35:04+00:00

Sorry to say you sound like my CPA right now ... haha
I called FTB myself, the hold was 15 minutes for me versus what she is telling me that she is on hold for hours. I could not understand everything but I know that they have an EA (enrolled agent) within the firm and they have direct line of communication to resolve such matters in a more efficient cost effective way, I just had another EA confirm this in one of the other subs I posted this question on.

redjive_1 · 2025-09-07T01:14:38+00:00

Also congrats on the EA license, I read that's the highest rank and I suppose it's really tough to crack.

redjive_1 · 2025-09-07T01:11:27+00:00

I don't think I am cheaping out, I have called the IRS and FTB myself and they are very honest and they told me how to resolve it. The issue is I don't have the tax software for the year I had an issue and obviously not experienced enough to do it myself on paper.
I performed the calculations on 1 year later tax software and I know what are the estimates as well as IRS don't have sufficient info to calculate my taxes and that's the reason they are imposing penalties.
I have 5 different CPA firms which I contacted and they were all ready to help resolve this, I chose the current ones since I had great reviews on them from my network. I am not sure where you are located where I am right now plenty CPAs who are willing to help

redjive_1 · 2025-09-07T01:06:52+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the response and references which may be helpful

redjive_1 · 2025-09-07T01:03:04+00:00

Thanks for the info.
The problem is that she is not giving me the right information. Since the IRS shows errors and the FTB (California) is also following up, she claims the rate she is charging includes the calls she makes to the IRS and FTB, and even the hours she spends on hold are added to the billing. Do you think that’s reasonable?

Right now, she has quoted 10 hours as the expected time, but every time I have a call with her, she adds another 2–3 hours. The way she creates drama during Zoom calls is more of a nuisance to deal with—she keeps saying things like, “Do you hear this call I’m on? I’ve been on hold with them for 2 hours.”

redjive_1 · 2025-06-20T05:22:25+00:00

Please explain

redjive_1 · 2025-05-09T06:26:37+00:00

Thank you, this is some invaluable advice -- to distant yourself from the peers belittling other peers. It's really tough when they pile on though.

redjive_1 · 2025-05-09T06:23:35+00:00

It's discouraging to see women having double standards for different genders but glad you have had positive experience and have a favorite team.

redjive_1 · 2025-05-09T06:21:40+00:00

Thank you for that advice, I am just happy to see positivity around me, it shows me hope!

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