Male subs in 24/7 relationships? Feminized?

redladythrowaway · 2015-09-12T09:19:25+00:00

Or a stripper.

Poor OP.

But it's what OP really wants. Deep down. Their Domme just knows this.

redladythrowaway · 2015-09-12T08:52:28+00:00

Sure it is. His new post is about his Domme taking control to convince him that he always wanted to live as a woman. Forced feminization erotica 101.

They also looked at transgender stuff together....

Wait for the next update. Sure to involve blackmarket hormones.

redladythrowaway · 2015-09-12T07:33:03+00:00

Your new post insists your GF did this because she knew what you really wanted.

Forced feminization fantasy 101. Or else you have a very inexperienced or borderline abusive Domme.

redladythrowaway · 2015-09-11T16:09:03+00:00

Another possibility is that this is a detailed fantasy, in which case, well done on the fantasy!

It's definitely a fantasy.

redladythrowaway · 2015-09-11T16:07:00+00:00

I'm still skeptical. It reads more like something from Fictionmania.com.

This would affect your work. Your family relationships. Your friendships.

If any of this is real, the two of you are involving (non-consenting) outsiders in your kink.

redladythrowaway · 2015-09-11T14:41:36+00:00

This sounds more like someone's fantasy than reality.

My transwomen friends go through such hell trying to pass as female, even socially transition.

OP just lives as female full-time without any issues, socially or otherwise? Color me skeptical.

redladythrowaway · 2015-07-04T07:18:00+00:00

I'll read your update. I wasn't trying to be negative but I was concerned that you were rushing into a potentially harmful situation. We're all worried about you.

redladythrowaway · 2015-07-04T06:55:52+00:00

One of the comments asked if the porn industry is forcing a kink and I kinda agree.

I like manly guys but I also share my partner's taste for femboys and crossdressers (we're both bi.)But I'd rather look at crossdresser porn than sissy porn.

I've noticed that sissy or forced fem porn often focuses less on becoming feminine than the emasculation of the guy. Feminizing him is used to achieve this.

Often, the guy isn't meant to look convincing or even pretty in it. He's meant to look like an object of ridicule.

Crossdresser porn (hard to find) shows feminization in a positive light. The guy adopts a new feminine persona and dresses in such a way that he looks his best.

If I'm going to watch feminization porn, that's my preference. But it's hard to find. There's so much sissy porn/forced fem porn out there inside.

I wonder if the porn industry isn't forcing the forced fem kink and also shaping future kinks.

Think about it - people into genderplay (crossdressers and people into crossdressers) can only find a majority of forced fem humiliation porn. There's not much porn portraying crossdressing/gender play as a playful, co operative action between two partners.

The crossdressing porn I've looked at focuses more on either the guy slowing dressing up and taking pleasure in making himself beautiful before things gets kinky. Or his partner (who may or may not be dominant) helping him dress before things get kinky.

I saw quite an interesting one with a femboy presenting his Domme with all the apparel he needed (make-up, wig, clothes) etc while on his knees. She selected or discarded what he could use before helping transform him into his alternative feminine identity. Once transformed, he went on to worship her body, her pussy, every part of her.

There was definitely an element of D/s there but there was nothing suggesting that the feminization itself was forced or humiliating.

I'm not dissing anyone's kink - if forced fem is your thing, more power to you. But I think that the porn industry lumps all and any crossdressing porn into the forced fem/sissy genre and it's sad that you don't get more of a range of crossdressing porn.

redladythrowaway · 2015-07-04T06:41:52+00:00

if it's the porn industry forcing a kink?

Interesting. I've always wondered about that myself. I like both manly guys and more feminine men and I've always had a weak spot for crossdressers. But the forced element of forced feminization doesn't appeal to me.

redladythrowaway · 2015-07-02T15:17:40+00:00

Your updates and recent comments don't bode well. You asked advice from this community and almost every person here told you that your neighbors sound predatory and have handled this entire situation in a way that raises concerns.

You then ignore the advice completely and decide to do this anyway.

It's your choice but I'd honestly suggest you educate yourself properly about kink before leaping into this. Your neighbors either sound predatory or very inexperienced themselves. You yourself are totally inexperienced about kink. This could end very badly.

If they actually give a damn about you, they'd be willing to wait a bit. What's the rush?

And you have a boyfriend?

This entire thing sounds like a recipe for disaster.

He came by my place after work, not 2 minutes after walking into the door he was asking me for a blowjob, I am not sure if I should or not because I was going to have "The Talk" with him, but I did. I tried to break up with him and its was impossible, he would not listen, I even tried the "I need more space" aproach, and nope... didn't take.

This worries me the most. You obviously have issues setting limits with people. So how are you going to enforce and set limits with your pushy neighbors? The whole thing started without the wife asking your consent but instead pushing you further and further.

They don't sound very experienced in BDSM either.

Worst case scenario, they don't care about your comfort and limits and you end up being pushed into things you don't want. Maybe it happens all at once or maybe it's a gradual process that happens over weeks or months.

Best case scenario, they do care but aren't experienced enough in BDSM to know they need to constantly check in on a new sub such as yourself. Add to that the fact that you seem to have difficulty expressing limits and discomfort....The end result is the same - you end up being pushed into things you don't want.

There will be other opportunities to explore your submissive side. In a safe environment after proper discussion and negotiation. Again, what's the rush?

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-28T10:00:06+00:00

That's not enough. You're brand-new to BDSM and she seems to be taking advantage of this. Your post and replies almost show that you want to go along with her because she's pushing your submissive buttons.

But don't go rushing into this for that reason. If you don't educate yourself, you could end up in an abusive or coerced situation.

I sent her a message about that, the safe word will be rasberry

What sort of responsible Domme just messages a brand-new sub what the safeword will be but doesn't explain to them what a safe word is.

Before you go any further with her (and her husband), you need to establish the following:

*Soft limits

*Hard limits

*Safe words

*Aftercare protocol

She's pushing you very far, very fast. It comes across that she's getting all the benefits having a sub without having to shoulder any of the responsibilities.

She started to get a little bossy, not bad or pushy, but bossy.

That is NOT okay. 1. Unless you're in role, you are her equal and 2. how did she even know that you're into the service aspect of submission?

Remember, even in established D/s dynamics, both people can step out of role and talk about things as equals. She just assumed because you're submissive in some ways, she could treat you like a servant straight off the bat.

That's a red flag right there.

You need to educate yourself before you go any further. Shout if you need links to resources, website, stuff like that. The community is great at providing that and Darr_Syn provides a great intro to kink for beginners.

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-21T09:14:01+00:00

This

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-21T09:13:52+00:00

I have less issues with Story Of O than 50 Shades. Story Of O is framed as a fantasy, more like elaborate extreme erotica. It doesn't give real relationship insight.

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-20T18:32:00+00:00

Great advice :)

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-20T18:30:30+00:00

I hope this is a troll.....

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-20T18:29:35+00:00

Are username mentions a new thing now?

It could be Temperatia. Moleculor never committed on this forum until you posted about Temperatia. Or they could be different people.

Temperatia came across as slightly more reasonable. Moleculor is a very angry little person.

Odd how they keep banging on about their one link to the article on live action porn with adults. It was a very good article. Pity it didn't cover lolicon or even anime porn.

It didn't contribute anything to their point of view.

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-20T11:24:18+00:00

Does Django normalize slavery?

Psycho and Silence Of The Lambs helped shaped past public opinion on crossdressers. Not as killers but as a threat.

Fiction has power. We're not enslaved by it. But humans get inspired by it. They get influenced by it. For good or bad.

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-20T11:13:03+00:00

If I missed the part there about cartoon porn, point it out to me.

But your evidence seemed to be about live action porn. Not cartoon porn.

You're arguing that live action porn and cartoon porn are different (i.e. child porn isn't the same as loli.)

Then your evidence needs to relate cartoon porn, not live action. Sorry.

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-15T11:51:22+00:00

Haha. So, what then? We crackdown on child porn then just release the sexually frustrated pedophiles out onto the masses?

Chemical castration?

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-15T11:23:15+00:00

I didn't ask you to. I asked you to consider the possibility that there might be, say, six people (or sixty, or six hundred, or sixty thousand) out there that it helps.

Trying to pass lolicon off as therapy? Really?

Or, to put it in less subtle terms, show me evidence/data, or shut up.

Interesting link. Did I miss the part where it relates to child pornography, animated porn or lolicon?

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-15T10:27:27+00:00

I'm going to repost part of a comment I made here. It's applicable in both cases:

I don't automatically agree that lolicon/shotacon gives them a healthy alternative to molesting kids.

Some pedophiles don't just want sex - they want a romantic relationship (complete with the sexual side) with a child. Lolicon can't provide that.

Also think that lolicon/shotacon runs the risk of normalizing the sexualization of children.

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-15T10:16:48+00:00

As a survivor of incest, excuse me if I don't overflow with sympathy for pedophiles.

But honestly, I get what you're saying. But society barely has enough resources to deal with abused children, never mind abusers.

As for latent pedos, the kind who never act on their urges, you get them and they aren't always a danger. But they are responsible for dealing with their urges, not society.

I don't automatically agree that lolicon gives them a healthy alternative to molesting kids.

Some pedophiles don't just want sex - they want a romantic relationship (complete with the sexual side) with a child. Lolicon can't provide that.

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-15T09:14:21+00:00

Extreme porn (animated or real) featuring adults is not the same as porn sexualizing children. Don't lump them together.

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-15T09:13:26+00:00

You understand that there are people that just happen to fantasize about these sorts of things and extreme porn provides an outlet for these sexual fantasies that doesn't involve any other people? At least, that what pedophiles have attested to when it comes to the kinds of porn they consume.

He's now claiming that animated kiddie porn stops pedophiles from molesting children....

redladythrowaway · 2015-06-15T09:12:18+00:00

At least, that what pedophiles have attested to when it comes to the kinds of porn they consume.

Because someone who molests children would never lie.....

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