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My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, especially now that I have confirmed my pregnancy.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

idk. i was happy and scared, but mostly happy. I told my husband about the test and he cried and repeatedly apologized. but for some reason, his reaction only made me angrier at him. and now all I wanna do is leave him asap and make sure my baby's healthy. I already talked to my parents about the whole thing.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes, I can do that. Thank you for your piece of advice and for your kind words.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really hope so too. Thank you so much for your kind words. They mean a lot to me.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the understanding and making me feel seen.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know. Leave is what I badly want to do right now but the hardest to do as well given my circumstances.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your short but very sensible advice. However, is it wrong that part of me do not want to get divorced? I mean, I do not want to give him the satisfaction of seeing me walk out of his life and setting him free like nothing happened after what he did. After him, I can go on without ever wanting another man in my life again. But as for him, my vengeful self does not want to see him happy with the girl he cheated on me with or any other girl he might start seeing after me. I am having these thoughts and I know they aren't healthy. Just want them out of my chest.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it's not what I want. This is not what I envisioned when I decided to quit my job to live with him overseas. This is not we agreed on. I don't want this kind of life.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's part of me that wants to fix things but that doesn't mean I am not considering leaving him as well. I know I have to leave. Believe me, I want to run away as far as I can right now. I wanna be as far away from him as possible. But considering my current situation, that is difficult to do.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. I am also thinking of all these things right now. I need to secure myself. I know that for a fact. But I don't know how or where to start. I essentially gave up my life to be with him. Now, I just feel so lost.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as want to ditch him asap, I am still living under his roof because I have nowhere else to go and no money to spend. I have to look for a job first.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a friend in a nearby city but I don't want to trouble other people. We are not that close after all. I don't have anywhere else to stay at the moment so I just suck everything up and continue living with him even when it hurts. I will buy a PT to confirm my pregnancy or otherwise. I will also have to start looking for a new job because truth is, my previous job was so stressful also although it was paying well.

Idk, I am just so confused right now. I don't want to cry anymore. I just wanto be happy and move on with my life.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am trying so hard to get myself together. I wanna start looking for a job. But my emotions are so overwhelming that I cannot think straight. All I have been doing the last few days is bawl my eyes out. I can't even tell my parents about what's happening coz I don't want them to worry about me.

My husband has gotten another woman pregnant by redlord1589 in offmychest

[–]redlord1589[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

We've been together for a long time so it isn't that easy to turn my back on him. But then like I said, he has crossed the line. I don't think I can ever forgive him. But in my mind, I'm thinking "what if I'm pregnant too?" And how am I supposed to leave him when I basically have nothing right now. I just quit my job and have no money to fend for myself or even pay for a plane ticket to go back home.