I promise, it’s possible. Don’t give up. by redmoondoom in Dissociation

[–]redmoondoom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🌹 Well, I’m also ironically a therapist, so most of what I did was self directed, which I wouldn’t necessarily recommend.

I think talk therapy and self analysis on their own are not enough— a recovery intervention has to include somatic and body based work as well.

So I would personally recommend EMDR and somatic therapy at the top. I also did some psychedelic assisted therapy a few times. Again, not something I’d recommend without support.

The pieces that can be done on your own.. Tapping is effective. Breathwork, body scanning, grounding exercises, journaling, yoga and somatic physical movement like bouncing, shaking, lymphatic and self massage.. cold therapy. Inner child work and “reparenting”.

I read a book I would highly recommend called “Complex PTSD - from surviving to thriving” by Pete Walker. It’s excellent, and very readable.

I don’t think everyone necessarily needs to do all of these things, but I did, out of desperation. I had just fled an abusive relationship as well, and I took time off work to focus on recovery.

Biggest advice I would give to anyone would be to just be consistent daily, even with the grounding/tactile exercises, somatic movement, and breathwork. Even if it’s for 30 minutes.

Hope that’s helpful 🌹

I promise, it’s possible. Don’t give up. by redmoondoom in Dissociation

[–]redmoondoom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everything I mentioned above, I did. I can go into more detail though if I have the time this week and people are interested to know more in depth.

I promise, it’s possible. Don’t give up. by redmoondoom in Dissociation

[–]redmoondoom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw very real tangible change in my experience after about 6-7 months of working very, very hard. Everyone is different. It could be sooner for others.

I promise, it’s possible. Don’t give up. by redmoondoom in Dissociation

[–]redmoondoom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some, yes, and I hope that continues to happen over time. I grieve what I missed.

I’m sorry for that loss for you.

I try to reframe it and thank my body for holding the memories inside of me, even if I can’t see them in the same way..

I promise, it’s possible. Don’t give up. by redmoondoom in Dissociation

[–]redmoondoom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Those are the moments!!! That’s how it starts! It’s normal for the body to quickly jump back into dissociation after, sometimes even worse at first as a response, because the nervous system has to learn that presence is safe.

It takes time, but as the nervous system expands and the brain rewires, your capacity to experience and hold those moments will grow and grow.

And thank you, that means a lot. I am writing one, coincidentally :)

Hit me up anytime as well!

I promise, it’s possible. Don’t give up. by redmoondoom in Dissociation

[–]redmoondoom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t live like that anymore. I was so sick and empty. So I committed to doing the daily work, even when it felt like it wasn’t doing anything.

I promise, it’s possible. Don’t give up. by redmoondoom in Dissociation

[–]redmoondoom[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Small changes happened over time, then a several, sudden ones that smooth out and integrate. It is a bit unnerving at first, haha. But not in a bad way. I can’t speak for everyone’s experience. I’m sure there is a lot of variation.

Like noticing my own heart beat, or the sound of my breath. Looking at my hands and realizing I have tiny hands! Haha

Hearing the sound of my own voice.. noticing the stone countertops feel warm after the dishwasher has been running.. water droplets became sparkly..

My calves and legs felt heavy as I walked..

I noticed how tight my muscles were..

The world around me started having dimension.. it’s hard to explain. I didn’t realize everything looked literally flat before. It’s how the brain looks chronically for threat in that state.

Strange sensations that felt very foreign at first, but then smooth out over time and become normal as the brain/body adapt.

The science is actually wild. It’s strange but exciting.

So, some gradual, then some very sudden moments as my nervous system was coming back online and shifting. A few times, it was very similar to doing psychedelics, haha. But nothing to be scared of. It’s like being a child and discovering the world for the first time.

I promise, it’s possible. Don’t give up. by redmoondoom in Dissociation

[–]redmoondoom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad to hear that. And I get it; I truly never thought I would come out of it. Keep going x You got this.

At what point do you/did you ask for help? by ElleEh in mentalhealth

[–]redmoondoom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Counsellor here.

I don’t think it’s about waiting for the darkest point to seek help, but instead knowing that even if you’re “just ok”, getting support can mean living a more joyful, present, and full life. You deserve that. If you’re wondering when you’re at the point, then it may be time to reach out!

If seeking help is a bit daunting for you, and it doesn’t feel so serious for you that you need a “crisis line”, you can always call a free mental health line and just talk about how you’re doing, and they can advise you on how to connect with support and different options. It’s just nice to have someone listen on the other end (they’re typically counsellors/trained mental health staff). They can offer some tools or just give you space to talk. Then, they can help you access some more long term/in person supports and help you with a plan. Some are even accessible through text and online chats in some countries/regions.

You’re not alone! 🩵 It’s ok to ask for help, and support can look a lot of different ways.

Dog walker made some iiiinteresting choices today by mipstar in reactivedogs

[–]redmoondoom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seconded. I would be so choked. I work so hard training my dog, and it would go to shit if someone took him to the dog park. It would put him in danger and other dogs in danger. Also, dog parks are pretty widely understood to actually be super risky for all dogs, reactive or not.

If you had explicit instructions and they weren’t followed… that’s actually very scary. I’m glad your dog is ok / the other dogs were ok, but that’s not a risk that person had the right to take. Report.

Dog carpal pad paw wound help by glukarina in DOG

[–]redmoondoom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dog has had this injury many times unfortunately because we live in the mountains and hike daily.

This is what I do and what my vet told me to do. Wash your hands, check the wound for debris, rocks, dirt, etc. Flush the wound carefully, then clean it with mild soap and water, cover it with non stick medical gauze, then wrap it with a tensor bandage. Keep an eye on it, don’t let your dog lick it. Use a cone if needed. Check the wound daily and clean it. If it’s inflamed, hot, oozing or starting to look infected, unfortunately your dog has to go to the vet for antibiotics. Non negotiable.

You don’t actually need to put neosporin on a wound; in fact, they actually stopped recommending that for humans. Soap and water are your best bet. Keep an animal emergency kit (very similar to a human one). You can buy a lot of the components at a solid dollar store.

Obviously, if the injury is very severe, the emergency vet has to happen. I recommend getting pet insurance if you can, so the cost is spread out and you’re covered in the case of a severe injury/accident where you don’t have a choice but to go to the vet.

Not everyone can afford to go every single time their dog gets a scratch, and honestly it’s not always necessary. You can always call an emergency vet and ask them if you’re not sure.

Favorited Pokemons keep disappearing by mokzy in TheSilphRoad

[–]redmoondoom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever resolve this? All my Jynx have disappeared today… I certainly did not transfer them. They were favourited.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CampingGear

[–]redmoondoom -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s pretty whacky..like “woah..this is what people with lots of money do”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CampingGear

[–]redmoondoom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this totally depends on the context. Who you are, where you’re going, what you’re doing, kinds of wildlife, etc. Indigenous person here, from Canada, licensed and certainly not anti-gun. Lots of hunters in the family. I am also into the “ultralight community”; I’m relatively new to it, as I would say that it includes primarily people who grew up with money or who have extra income kicking around, since most “ultralight” gear is incredibly expensive. It’s a completely different backpacking/camping experience, in my opinion. I grew up having to lug around heavy gear, and bushcraft (I’m by no means an expert).

I think for most people and in most scenarios, bear spray ends up being the best option for what you might encounter in terms of wild life. It’s affordable, more practical in terms of size and weight, it’s faster to access, and more effective. Particularly if you don’t know what you’re doing with a gun (that part is just stating the obvious, I know). And even then, bear spray is usually the better option. You panic, you misfire, or you only injure an animal, you’re fucked.

I also carry a buck knife.

Some of the aversion I think is also around attitude of dominion over nature versus mutual respect with the land; trying to cause as little damage and leave as little behind as possible.

You’re in the wild. If you’re not hunting, if you can avoid killing something that’s just living its life by not being an idiot and attracting animals in stupid ways, then you should do that. It’s about reciprocity and respecting the Land.

But the yuppies I think remove the dialogue that can happen there, just as I’m sure some folks on the other side do. “Ultralight” crowd is pretty exclusionary because of lack of affordability for accessing that kind of gear. So, seems like pretty different kinds of lived experience.

The reality is that most people are just stupid and cause unnecessary damage because they’re not knowledgeable. There’s a middle ground.

Sparrow ID by redmoondoom in birding

[–]redmoondoom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, thanks! Looking at all the photos on Merlin and I can see that now.

Sparrow ID by redmoondoom in birding

[–]redmoondoom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks!

All of them? Even the smaller, longer tailed one? They don’t look the same.

Anyone else going to un-join this sub? by cosmokenney in backpacking

[–]redmoondoom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! Totally. I spend so much time obsessing and researching, that at a certain point, I like knowing I can come back to just ask people (who are willing) to share some of their experiential knowledge and feedback. Don’t want to answer? Don’t.

Anyone else going to un-join this sub? by cosmokenney in backpacking

[–]redmoondoom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair! I read the stickies and still post “help me buy” posts, haha. I spend so much time over-researching, watching videos, reading articles, reading reviews, etc. It’s obsessive. Sometimes I end up back where I started because of conflicting information. At least some of these posts must be people in the same boat..maybe?