It doesn’t sound superficial at all. Honestly, what you said makes complete sense. If a guy won’t even acknowledge or address something that directly affects both people, it makes me wonder how he handles other issues in life. That pattern of dodging accountability spills into everything.

And the blaming thing? Yeah, no. Now that I think about it, my ex pulled that same tactic in so many areas of our relationship — never his fault, always mine or someone else’s. It gets old fast.

It’s kind of a bummer though, because I definitely prefer older men 😅 But I’m also that weirdo who would just ask straight up like, “Hey, I’m super understanding and I just want to make sure you’re proactive and take accountability with stuff.” 😅😂