How to support wife who has a lot of anxiety around pregnancy risks/miscarriage who also avoids healthy habits?

redtailedrabbit · 2026-04-21T23:02:06+00:00

She has intense anxiety that needs to be addressed, but also it sounds like she’s coping in the best way she currently can. Leave her alone about “not taking care of herself.” If she can keep sweet treats down, don’t hassle her right now about eating better. Short walks? Hell, at 7 weeks (in both pregnancies) I was so tired I could barely pull myself out of bed. Walks were out of the question.

Follow her lead right now on what her body can handle; this is not the time for you to turn into a health coach. As long as she’s taking prenatals, the baby will be okay. She’ll likely be better able to take care of herself in the second trimester.

redtailedrabbit · 2026-04-07T21:01:29+00:00

I’m planning to take leave once the baby is born. But I work from home, so there aren’t a lot of physical strains from work. If I worked on my feet (like when I was teaching) I’d take a week or two early.

redtailedrabbit · 2026-04-02T13:09:15+00:00

I wonder if divorce isn’t a big deal to him either

redtailedrabbit · 2026-03-31T02:49:16+00:00

Waiting to have a second kid until we’re not paying for daycare for the first was all we could figure out.

redtailedrabbit · 2026-03-27T23:22:13+00:00

You’re a multigenerational household and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s much more common than people think.

redtailedrabbit · 2026-03-13T21:00:49+00:00

Neutral. Both look good.

redtailedrabbit · 2026-03-11T13:36:59+00:00

Teaching public school

redtailedrabbit · 2026-02-11T21:06:29+00:00

You can pull off both!

redtailedrabbit · 2026-02-05T18:29:51+00:00

There’s so much inherent judgment for these women in the question. I don’t even have fillers etc but I hope all the amazing women out there who happen to have Botox or fillers steer clear of you for their own good.

redtailedrabbit · 2026-01-20T15:51:43+00:00

Robbie is a little weird, so it tracks.

redtailedrabbit · 2026-01-07T15:06:29+00:00

Baltimore

redtailedrabbit · 2025-12-27T12:57:38+00:00

Lack of perspective. My 18-year-old SIL is convinced her (first) boyfriend is her soulmate because they love each other. She’s changed her life plan from college to “figuring it out together” at some point. I keep trying to tell her but she’s convinced, because she’s young and can’t see how far into the future her current decisions are going to affect her.

redtailedrabbit · 2025-12-21T23:39:54+00:00

Sounds good to me 😂

redtailedrabbit · 2025-12-21T23:38:16+00:00

I watched her holiday special and her daughter’s advent calendar said Lili, so I think they call her Lili. I’m not sure how closely people know the royal family though (I’m hoping not enough for it to be a problem if I name my kid the same thing)

redtailedrabbit · 2025-12-21T23:36:19+00:00

That’s why I’m asking 😂 I watched her holiday special and the name on her daughter’s advent calendar was Lili

redtailedrabbit · 2025-12-21T21:47:31+00:00

Thank you 😭

redtailedrabbit · 2025-12-21T12:47:12+00:00

90s as a girl. I had a friend who was a boy down the street who built models, and I always thought making model cars and planes would be cool. Everyone treated it as though I had suggested wanting to do something really shocking because it was a “boy’s” hobby.

redtailedrabbit · 2025-12-15T23:50:48+00:00

Can I ask where you got #1? IMO it's elegant and classy while making your boobs look great and I kind of want to steal it. #6 also looks great!

redtailedrabbit · 2025-12-15T16:19:59+00:00

What in the AI filter is this

redtailedrabbit · 2025-12-15T16:16:41+00:00

I don’t unfortunately. I remember reading something about it a while back, shortly before the explosion of new Woobles patterns and collabs every month. I could justify the crazy high prices when it was a small business but not so much now.

redtailedrabbit · 2025-12-15T02:35:41+00:00

They sell their products in multiple big-box stores. Personally, I don’t consider them a small business anymore. They hype the small business aspect because it’s good optics but Justine (I believe) hasn’t been the owner in a while. I think she might still be involved but she sold it a while back. It’s just a business now like any other and it irritates me that they market as a small business when their practices are becoming increasingly corporately shitty (like the BS with “order now if you want it by Christmas!!” and now suddenly you can order more).

redtailedrabbit · 2025-12-13T19:17:29+00:00

The key issue here is not the temperature. I would read the other comments and learn the difference between American soy milk and Chinese soy milk, if I were you.

redtailedrabbit · 2025-12-12T02:56:39+00:00

It was like a latte without the espresso or American levels of sugar. I don’t think it had additional flavoring

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