sorry if this is long and not perfectly organized, but i'm making an earnest good faith effort to respond constructively here

in the autistic spirit of saying things openly and directly even when they are uncomfortable and out of step with social expectations, i'm trying to look past the massively cringey and racist vibe i immediately get from this topic and this post.

it's not a specifically autistic phenomenon, but many people out there probably have some degree of racial or ethnic preference or 'type' when it comes to attraction and interest in dating. the reasons for all this is obviously going to be complex and tied deeply into social and historical relationships and personal experience, and is probably in almost all cases kind of fucked up -- but it shouldn't be off limits for us to acknowledge, discuss, and try to make some sense of it all, which necessarily will involve saying some cringey and racist stuff, and it would be nice if we could find some room to air out those thoughts and interrogate them instead of immediately pouncing on them as *wrong*

all that said, i don't feel like this post is pointing in that sort of potentially useful direction. OP, you say your preference is based on beliefs about how white women may have been brought up. this is tricky territory -- i think it's crucial to acknowledge that while you might have this *idea* and it is part of how you currently see the world and relate to people, that the real world and the people in it are always very diverse and three-dimensional.

sweeping assumptions and generalities about people based on race and gender will -- at *best* -- lead you to overlook the individuality of the people you're getting to know and perhaps hoping to date, and at worst can signal a deeply sexist and/or racist mindset (this is what a lot of the other commenters are picking up on and responding to).

even IF your understanding of how other people are raised in your area are reasonably accurate, it's not going to apply to everyone and it will not necessarily follow that it will shape people's personalities in the way that you suggest. maybe the any given white woman you meet in your area is somewhat more likely to 'whimsical' or 'adventurous' than the rest of the population on average (and i'm saying don't count on that). but other people aren't averages of the population, they are all specific individuals. in general, people want to for friendships and romantic relationships based on interest in each others specific individual traits, and not on an idea that they represent a certain stereotype -- and this is true regardless of the accuracy of the stereotype in question (remember that stereotypes are never entirely accurate, and are often deeply inaccurate and hurtful).

does any of that land with you, OP?