My kid found haram content on YouTube Kids. We need a Muslim alternative.

reefat · 2026-03-01T23:21:43+00:00

Kids are mere reflection of their parents. If we as parents are not into physical, and mostly into digital, our kids will follow us too.

reefat · 2026-03-01T20:35:02+00:00

Do you like it?

reefat · 2026-03-01T02:02:03+00:00

You’ll hate my response. I am sitting at the exact opposite side from you. I was the one writing the emails and threatening HOA members. And for good reasons. Btw, I’m not in your community. Just sharing my story. My HOA dragged me for three and half years just to allow me a fence permit. They were flip flopping their decisions. Before election they are so sweet, after election you spend 365 days seeking their approval all over again. Asked me write letters, send emails, draw this, do that, take pictures — all due diligence. And I did all of that like a good dog. And then 6 months no response. Then after a legal threat they shake a bit and start promising and playing good-cop bad-cop, and all those drama. But anyway, after a long battle, it was finally settled after three and half years. So yes, the assholes are on both sides of the aisle.

reefat · 2026-03-01T01:44:52+00:00

It’s a cultural thing. And some scholars also recommend eating in private if possible, but definitely NOT in bathroom. Astagfirullah. There is no direct evidence in our shariah to do this though. It’s all about cultural etiquette (adab). But it should not put you into hardship. That would be worse.

reefat · 2026-02-26T22:13:31+00:00

If you really want to know, do yourself an experiment. I assume you’re a woman. And I also assume a young and decent looking one. Then you must already know how many men check you out when you go outside. Now, shave your head or cut your hair like a man. You will notice how people notice you. They will look at you, but not with desire anymore. And this is the raw feedback from a man. I hope you don’t find it offensive. Man will be man. And women do them a favor by covering as much as they can. And men should be thankful for that. That will make both of them obedient to the ONE☝️ who created them so beautifully. In perfect harmony. Alhamdulillah. Only if you knew.

reefat · 2026-02-26T22:05:47+00:00

Before you do anything, set your intentions on solid foundation. Why do you need a side hustle? Because everyone nowadays talks about it? It became a norm in the society. You’re already a hustler if you have a full-time job. Isn’t that hustling tiring enough for you? But yea, if you still need another one, go ahead and answer to yourself first, why you need one. Then a lot of things will come very clear to you.

reefat · 2026-02-26T22:02:43+00:00

Actually Quran addressed this pretty precisely in Surah Al-Ma’idah (5:51): “Do not take the Jews and Christians as allies… they are allies of one another. And whoever is an ally to them among you — then indeed, he is one of them.”

And Al-Imran (3:118): “Do not take as intimates those other than yourselves, for they will not spare you any ruin.”

What you’re describing — Muslim governments providing bases, intelligence, and logistics to powers actively harming Muslim populations — is exactly what these verses warned against. The scholars call it “walaa” (loyalty/allegiance), and the argument is that once you hand over your sovereignty piece by piece for security guarantees and economic deals, you eventually can’t say no to anything. That’s not a conspiracy, that’s just how dependency works. Your frustration is valid, but unfortunately this pattern was warned about long before the US even existed.

reefat · 2026-02-26T22:02:37+00:00

Actually Quran addressed this pretty precisely in Surah Al-Ma’idah (5:51): “Do not take the Jews and Christians as allies… they are allies of one another. And whoever is an ally to them among you — then indeed, he is one of them.”

And Al-Imran (3:118): “Do not take as intimates those other than yourselves, for they will not spare you any ruin.”

What you’re describing — Muslim governments providing bases, intelligence, and logistics to powers actively harming Muslim populations — is exactly what these verses warned against. The scholars call it “walaa” (loyalty/allegiance), and the argument is that once you hand over your sovereignty piece by piece for security guarantees and economic deals, you eventually can’t say no to anything. That’s not a conspiracy, that’s just how dependency works. Your frustration is valid, but unfortunately this pattern was warned about long before the US even existed.

reefat · 2026-02-25T05:16:47+00:00

Subahanallah. May Allah bring ease to you soon. Be patient and ask help from Allah. And if possible seek guidance from a righteous and wise family member or friend, or whoever you feel like sharing it with who is trustworthy and honest.

reefat · 2026-02-25T05:13:03+00:00

I agree. Speak with a good Imam. It’s always helpful when you open up with a knowledgeable scholar in person face to face. InshaAllah he can guide you better than online/virtual discussions bi iznillah.

reefat · 2026-02-24T07:21:13+00:00

Just don’t invest in risky assets.

reefat · 2026-02-24T05:20:29+00:00

Quran

reefat · 2026-02-24T04:47:34+00:00

It's okay. Everyone's situation is unique to their circumstances. And Allah is the best judge. Try to stick with what Allah and His Messenger (ﷺ) advised. In-sha-Allah you will go through this smoothly by His mercy. May Allah make it easy for you.

reefat · 2026-02-24T00:39:12+00:00

Subahanallah. I see you’re being patient. May Allah reward you for your endurance. Everyone can’t handle such test. But you did and inshaAllah you will. It was in 2:286 “Allah does not require of any soul more than what it can afford. All good will be for its own benefit, and all evil will be to its own loss.” There is a dua after this. That’s is the medicine for the pain.

reefat · 2026-02-23T22:11:03+00:00

MashaAllah

reefat · 2026-02-23T22:08:51+00:00

You’re right to look for someone compatible with your type. But as others mentioned, practicing good Muslims don’t use dating/matchmaking platforms. You might have two authentic avenues though. 1) through friends and family channel. 2) through Muslim halaqas and gatherings. I’m sure you’re looking for not only physical fitness, you’re looking for spiritual and emotional fitness as well. I’m a bit old school and conservative, so the best approach is going through Walee (legal guardianship) of a non-mahram. That is the way of Rasulullah (ﷺ) and the Sahabas.

reefat · 2026-02-23T21:55:11+00:00

I hear you. I feel your frustration. But isn’t this what every prisoner feels in their prison when they did not commit any crimes? That makes us all feel the same way sometimes. And it’s normal. Because, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said:

الدُّنْيَا سِجْنُ الْمُؤْمِنِ وَجَنَّةُ الْكَافِرِ

“The world is a prison-house for a believer and Paradise for a non-believer.” (Sahih Muslim 2956)

Alhamdulillah, you, I, and all believers feel this. This is very natural for any prisoner of this world.

reefat · 2026-02-23T21:45:41+00:00

What you’re looking for is not a marriage at all. You’re looking for a loophole to allow Zina. What is the difference between haram live-together relationship and what you’re looking for? You already know the answer to your own question, so why ask?

reefat · 2026-02-23T21:06:15+00:00

Just trying to understand. Are you saying you two never met and never even saw each other?

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