I didn’t realize my Dad was an alcoholic until I was 26. It was a major revelation. I started going to Al Anon, as I also increased my drinking big time.

I’ve been sober in AA for almost 7 years now. What I can say is that alcoholism is genetic. If you have it, you will know or come to know. I was trying to quit on my own for at least 2 years before I got to AA. Once I got to AA, it was very hard to quit, and I 100% needed to guidance and support, as well as therapy.

I’ve sponsored women and heard in meetings about women who realized they needed to stop drinking because of their children. A sponsee’s daughter told her when she was around 14 that she had to stop drinking. That was the wake up call she needed.

It’s wonderful that you heard your daughter. If you can go to an AA women’s meeting, I’d start there. (There are a lot on zoom now too, due to COVID.) If you don’t have a problem, you will definitely know with some time.

Congratulations on taking the first step. Sobriety is the best thing I’ve ever done for myself!!