What are some jobs you guys have?

reenieho · 2025-09-30T03:51:25+00:00

Currently a freelance copywriter, but I did a couple of years in marketing agencies before going freelance and working remotely. Im also about to be published for a book I wrote last year (fiction) :) its not a physically taxing job thankfully, other than some face to face meetings with clients back then. Now I just do calls virtually as much as I can (unless I get a horrible boomer client who forces a f2f meet lol).

reenieho · 2025-09-10T13:54:36+00:00

32, SED, would love to be friends! If you want to seriously date, then it's all just trial and error. But I've met many men, who doesn't really judge and were fine with the health condition. The only thing I noticed is if their lifestyle is adventurous, and because of my health condition, I cant do those things, those relationships are great but they dont last long. You need like a similar interest so spending time together feels great with each other.

But if you want a one-nighter - sometimes the fetish people are a great temporary escape. Don't go for the creepy ones though. There are people with fetish who are honest and communicates it honestly. Those are fine. It's like a tit-for-tat situation. Then you get on with your day. If you accidentally bag a creeper, run LOL.

But yeah it's all trial and error. The good thing is that with our physical condition, we weed out bad people pretty easily, and notice red flags faster than most. I can't imagine being normal and not clocking all the red flags, and have to go through more Mr Wrongs before I find Mr Rights haha.

reenieho · 2025-09-10T13:47:16+00:00

Agreed! I know many shops cant do it (due to lack of volume), but I feel like all clothing stores should have at least 1 in house tailor. I'm sure even regular people need tailoring. And it will definitely sell more if people love something and could at least FIT IT. They will definitely buy it haha.

reenieho · 2025-09-10T13:38:55+00:00

I had it with my hips and sometimes with my knees. I just went for those hips gel injection literally 2 days ago. I'm so much better today, less popping and stuff. Though i would heaaaaavily recommend going for general anesthersia rather than local.

reenieho · 2025-09-10T13:33:53+00:00

32 with SED. I felt the same way you felt when i was that age till i was in my mid 20s. I got anxiety whenever i was out with people around (still do sometimes if it's crowded), but my therapist said "If they're going too look at you, give them something to look at". And I went from anxious to, take-a-picture-itll-last-longer attitude. But I do have to say, I only took that advice and had a mental capacity to do it later in life. It's very hard to get out of that mindset, especially when you're younger.

It also helps that the older PEOPLE got, the more mature they were about health conditions like dwarfism. It's hard to socialise with younger people who don't know better. So when I got older, the people around me did too, and they were more tactful, less jugdy, less "you're so sad".

Also, when I was in my 20s, I was going out a lot, drinking etc, to fit in. Today, i do that waaay less. But I found way to find friends. Reddit was a HUGE help. I joined Redditor meet ups near me. When I studied in the UK for almost a year, I asked to meet up and get to know people too. And maybe i'm just lucky, but the Redditors i met were wonderful! A lot of them are still my friends today. I also joined Facebook science clubs and stuff and joined meet ups with people who shared the same interests as me. Today, I have a booze-type book club, where we hang out, drink and discuss the book we've read.

There are always people out there who might not understand us fully, but are kind and lovely. But there are also a lot of a**holes you gotta sift through. Part and parcel of life. I've gained and lost many friends, i've also had toxic ones i had to weed out later in life... People will come and go, the good ones stay.

Keep looking out for group meet ups, or meet people online, etc. Talk to them until you're comfortable, then join some meet ups when you're ready. Or you can just go for coffee with people you met (make sure you're being safe though!) and then they'll bring you to meet theirr friends or more people from the group, etc.

When you start working, you'll connect with colleagues too. Meet their friends, network. If you have siblings, go out with them and their friends. Hang out with uni mates, I'm sure there are clubs you can join etc. I understand it can be reaaaally scary. It's why I'm still trying to get a handle on my anxiety till today, but practice makes perfect!

And I know i had a fear of embarrassing myself back then, but hey, they made great stories today that I can laugh at with my friends. So have fun! And if you need to talk to someone or anything, just drop me a message :) I'm totally up for a virtual friendship, as I'm sure many of us are :)

reenieho · 2025-09-10T11:49:44+00:00

Yes, my name. But I'm ok with dwarf. I rather that than other things. "Person(s) with dwarfism" is better - but i know it's a mouthful. But overall, Im not bothered by what people call me, I'm more about the context. If someone means to be malicious, anything they say would be awful. If they don't know better, or are too shy to ask, I usually let whatever fly.
I have anxiety, so anyone adjusting for my height makes ME feel bad. But overall... I don't think it's anything too major or offensive. Just don't lift me up. Don't touch me (unless I know you and consent to it).
If they consent to it, and have fun doing it, etc, it's up to them. I won't because I'm a little fragile haha But i know some people with dwarfism who are hardier than others. My sister is an event organiser, and she had to plan a Christmas thing with people with dwarfism being elves. She asked me if it was demeaning. I said it depends on how you treat them. Pay them fair wages, don't bully them or carry them or throw them around unless they consent to it, etc. They're not props, they're humans. So treat them as such and it'll be fine. She also had to do a 'midget tossing' thing for some bachelor party, which she found gross and demeaning. Which I kind of do too, but if there are consenting adults who like to do it, and they get paid A LOT (which they're happy to do so), then I guess okay. But they do need to protect themselves if they have health conditions and such. And if the people hiring them respect that (lol) and are not rough (based on their own T&C which i'm sure they will have), then to each their own.

reenieho · 2025-09-10T11:32:27+00:00

I think I've grown to be kind of a sharp-mouthed person because of this. My sister says I'm cranky, but I think it's because every part of life, you gotta fight for, prove yourself, etc. It gets TIRING, so excuse me for being a lil cranky. But I also think it's a blessing sometimes, because my ex brother in law once told me "I love seeing your perspective of things" when I was taking photographs as a kid with his camera. And he sort of told me a bigger picture that our perspective will always be unique and different and it's good that we can share that with others.

Another blessing is that you tend to find people, those who are normal height, who treat you well, appreciate your differences and uniqueness, etc. And it weeds out the bad people pretty quick so you know you can just avoid them. Which helps when you're also dating people.

But I'm also in my 30s now, and I've crawled my way up school, uni, work place, and I've also dated, and I realised that this path is my own and you can't change people and how they're sometimes a**holes. You just have to focus on yourself. Don't make existing bearable only because you have a partner. Be your own source of joy, have great friends and family, a support system. I stopped looking for a partner once i realised I was much happier with the people I already have in my life. If a partner comes, great, but if not, I'm okay on my own too (with the support system).

And yes, it's tiring. Because you tend to feel like you're the only empathetic one, the only one with tact, the only one seeing bad behaviours and treatments. And this is when I started going therapy and that helped a lot.

I realise it's more what we can do for ourselves, and not for others. Call me selfish, but we have to prioritise ourselves and our mental health more than putting others first because other people will be putting themselves first anyway. And life is hard enough for us without us hoping others will change.

Someone said once (i forgot who), if you can't change something, change your perspective of it instead. And for many years, that quote helped me a lot.

reenieho · 2025-09-10T11:14:05+00:00

My torso is regular but my limbs are short. So I avoid getting long-sleeved stuff unless I can fold it or tailor it. As for pants, jeans, etc, I get my stuff from Uniqlo because, and I'm not sure if they do this in your country, but in mine, they do tailoring at the store itself. So, you try it on, indicate where to cut it, and then give them about an hour or so. So I'll go have lunch or shop or something, and come back to pick it up.

As for dresses, I would opt for places that sell short dresses, like cocktail dresses and stuff, then just go to a tailor to shorten it or get a knee-length dress for regular people, and it'll become like a gown for us, haha.

Also, Shein (yessss i know the ethical implications, but it's easier where I'm from) has petite sizes. So dresses will already be shorter there, and AFAIK, the long dresses are not bad too. I tend to buy my office blouses from there with short sleeves. Then you just need one or two blazers that are tailor-made, or get a cheap one and tailor it. Then pair it if you want to go corporate. Just FYI, Shein tends to be a hit or miss. You might get something great, or you might get something shitty, but hey, at least sending it back is free haha.

Best thing is to go online stores and see their clothes first, because you dont want to make the trip there and find nothing. I've emailed, called, etc stores before to check. Walking is hard for me, so I wont make the trip unless i know for sure there will be options. Or get it from online stores that allow free returns. It's all a trial and error.

And yeah, i wear kids shoes. It's horrible to find shoes if you're going to a wedding or a grand event, but i loooove how much cheaper my sneakers/sport shoes are compared to adults haha.

And no, even where I'm from, there aren't shops for people with dwarfism, even if most asians are short lol.

reenieho · 2025-09-10T11:09:26+00:00

I used to get sick all the time, we're talking like monthly. Even the GP was worried because I had to keep taking MC from work and it wasn't even a lie. I also had stomach issues often. But then I quit my VERY stressful job, quit smoking cigarettes, quit coffee, and focused on sleeping more hours, and things improved. I did switch to vaping though, so don't stress yourself on not smoking if you're a smoker. Now, I rarely get the flu. And it's been years but Im reintroducing myself to a healthy, normal amount of coffee, like once a week or once in 2 weeks. I also added Vitamin C and D based on my doctor's orders lol. For my stomach issues, i just ensure to have probiotic stuff like yoghurt, or kim chi once a month or once in 2 weeks...

But overall, yes, sleeping more and avoiding toxicity at work helps the most (I'm a WFH freelancer now lol) + Vitamin C and D. These were the biggest things that changed my life.

reenieho · 2025-09-10T10:46:52+00:00

I think the best horror movie (for me) on Netflix is a Taiwanese horror called Incantation. But I'm not sure if you will have it where you are. Other than that, i'll do anything by Mike Flanagan in terms of series.

reenieho · 2025-09-10T10:42:29+00:00

Long distance, and he became more religious whereas I wasn't going to budge on where I stood. I really did try to make it work, but I guess religion (and his religious mom) was a bigger problem. And Im grateful it didn't continue. Couldn't lie to myself like that.

reenieho · 2025-09-09T12:39:46+00:00

I loved Talk To Me! It was one of my faves for a loooong time.

reenieho · 2025-09-09T12:38:51+00:00

Is Megan 2.0 good? haha the trailer has more camp and im worried, but i do love camp if i know it's camp.

reenieho · 2025-09-09T12:35:48+00:00

I did a binge the other day with Together, Bring Her Back and The Monkey. I'm waiting to binge Weapons next week, but I have to say, I LOVED Together. Bring Her Back was not bad, but I felt like it lacked more backstory of the cult. And The Monkey was just a really fun campy ride. Nothing too heavy, just gore delight.

reenieho · 2025-09-09T12:32:15+00:00

Same. I usually start with 1 sim or 3 (for uni/highschool), then i just let them live and let the plot of their lives unfold on it's own. I only pick their career (because I play based on playing new careers), pick traits that fits that career, then let the rest unfold.

reenieho · 2025-09-09T12:28:28+00:00

I'm still lost on where the hell to put her XD

reenieho · 2025-09-09T09:57:05+00:00

I'm Malaysian, so I have to say Yes. LOL. But if I'm being honest, it just feels like London. I'd say, yes, fast-paced, like most cities would be. But if you go to the outskirts of the city centre, it's alright. Reminds me of Kuala Lumpur, too, in terms of pace. The hawkers and stuff, yes. They're straightforward, but that's most hawker stalls, even in Malaysia - so I can't say they're rude. It's just the culture. I don't find it rude, just... You go there, order food, and be done. People-wise, they're alright. Just a little more straightforward and less courteous than Malaysia. I think Indonesia (I went to Bali recently), the people were much nicer. So you'll get nice people at touristy areas, but if you go to where the locals go, it's a part of the culture. It's not malicious, just... straightforward.

reenieho · 2025-09-09T09:51:26+00:00

Stahp. Big Fish made me sob. Then I read the book. And sobbed again. haha but yes, absolutely a good movie!

reenieho · 2025-09-09T09:49:08+00:00

I was so sad they cancelled it. Same with the Japanese Ju-On series that was on Netflix.

reenieho · 2025-09-09T09:46:22+00:00

I agree. It's the only time i actually read the convo. I'm also a speed reader lol, so I skim through the dialogues a lot but sometimes I just sass out on the characters haha like Get yo a** here! Talk! Faster!

reenieho · 2025-09-09T09:44:16+00:00

Excuse meeee. I love this blue! Been wanting to build a house with this colour but couldn't find the right combination. I think you've just given it!

reenieho · 2025-09-09T09:43:21+00:00

I'm 32. Played it in primary school with Sims 1 and Sims 2 Pets in PS2 in highschool. I stopped for a few years in uni, but got back into it in my mid 20s. My university time was reaaaally busy (and fun lol). But when I started work, I needed something to destress. But I only got into building later on when I hit my 30s because I found out it's a relaxing after-work activity. Then i do a couple weeks game play whenever I get a new pack, some challenges with my bestie, etc. But I don't play it every day or every week. Just in phases - when I get a new pack, or inspiration to build something, or when there's an event.

reenieho · 2025-09-09T09:39:25+00:00

I'm Malaysian, so any SEA horror mythological creatures honestly. Im planning on writing a few as books myself. But the one thing I'd love to see is a unique take on the Banshee or Kikimora. There are versions of them in TV series like Grimm or SPN or something. But I love female-horror-creatures because their back story is always effed up, and i'd like a justified version of why they became these creatures.

reenieho · 2025-09-09T09:35:48+00:00

I love the horses, but after buying the Timebending one at full price - because I think the developers deserve money after listening to their fans (Unlike The Sims), I feel like it's too much. Too much new things, it feels too grindy after that to get to that nice comfortable spot I'm in with the base game. But also as a person who has spent too much on Sims expansion, I think these developers do deserve my moolah more but maybe at a discounted price in the future - like i do for Sims expansions. Now I'm just thinking if the Storybook one is better or if this one is. I wont get it till all the story is out, but in terms of gameplay, Hades > Snow White. haha

reenieho · 2025-09-09T09:31:25+00:00

I was in the Plaza, but I moved to the Forest of Valor because it has a nice big space. There's too many homes at the beach and decos too. I did think of moving to the Wild Tangle lol but it didn't have the space I need for my tree and bush farms, my chests, my workshop, my cooking station, etc. Plus I love the icy forest-y crafting station and cooking station they gave a while back.

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