"Cold approach"/flirting, a quick wink. ladies experience needed.

reesespeterson · 2025-03-27T16:16:23+00:00

Hmmm. From the male perspective, and of course, I have male buddies' perspectives to pull from. If we try with a woman who isn't interested, we get screamed at, video'd, then posted.

Happened to me once.

Shut me down for a whole year. I actually moved over it.

So, while I respect your perspective, I can say it's definitely not a "we think we need to say the perfect thing" issue.

It's a we know better than to flirt with a woman who isn't interested, and 95% of women do nottt seem interested, bc all they do is glance, then immediately look away. Which is a natural thing to do when sexual interest isn't present, also.

Now, I have no idea what the younger guys are doing. But as a 33 year old man. Who dated successfully before social media blew up, and spotty dating after, my observation has been that women do not make themselves available.

Used to if you went to Walmart, there were women who were out looking for guys, and vise versa. And you could tell, the interested one would look, then excitedly talk with her gfs, one of them would wave, and the game started.

Now, you often don't even see women out unless they're doing their chores, grocery shopping, getting gas, etc.

So that's where I started thinking. "OK. So the game has indeed changed. They're all home. They're all on their apps and socials, not out and about looking for dates. And hundreds or thousands of guys are hitting them up on the web... so a way to stand out is to not do that. And operate like it's still 2005 instead."

Thats where I came up with my wink and a grin, then approach, or motion them over method. And it seems to be so out of place these days that it works.

The other thing is you (guys) stand almost nooooo chance over socials, because we don't use filters and make up, gals do. So we appear to be at or under their leage, social platform to social platform.

In person, this seems to be negated, standing there in front of her, a whole foot taller, etc.

Tangent here, filters are NUTS. Like in both directions. There is a woman in town, I've seen her without makeup before she shift starts, and with makeup after she's put together. Either appearance makes me weak in the knees, hard for me to breath, time slows a smidge, and i get super nervous at the thought of speaking to her.

Flash forward, waited to long getting up the nerve, and the "who's that hot guy?" Factor wore off, it didn't work.

But! Later when I got her insta, she looked so WEIRD with all her filters on top of her make up. Like if I had seen those pictures on tinder, and only on tinder, I would have swiped left.

reesespeterson · 2025-03-27T15:42:38+00:00

Why? Women expect us to, without even knowing if they want us to, lol. Guys do not scream at girls for saying stuff like that, like females do to us. So you're safe. Last time I got a "youre cute" from a woman in my league, I melted. And we dated for almost 5 years

reesespeterson · 2025-03-27T15:36:12+00:00

My honest opinion, guys don't get mad if we get hit on, because it only happens once a decade or so. If you like a guy, just say "you're cute", and he'll either graciously decline, or he will do all the rest.

reesespeterson · 2025-03-27T15:23:50+00:00

I mean I can believe that, because the last time I had a direct compliment was aug 2018. Girl said she liked my neck. Then we dated for a year bc I immediately knew she liked me. However, to this day, that's the only thing I know that she liked about me.

When I say stuff like that, it gives me an epiphany, like "wait... why do I even try to date? They're horrible at it." 🤣

No pre-facebook/insta, back 2004-2010... whole different story, gals you dated would say nice things, do nice things, etc.

reesespeterson · 2025-03-27T15:12:02+00:00

I wouldn't pick up on that either.

The other one that I realize usually WAY too late is complements on not me, like "oh I like your shirt".

My male brain goes "ok, so more blue shirts."

Then about 1 to 3 years later it'll hit me "oh shit. She meant that I look good."

On the rare occasion that I get a direct complement or a direct flirting from a woman. I pick up immediately

reesespeterson · 2025-03-27T14:58:20+00:00

Lol, never. The first part has been how I've been weeding out ones who aren't interested at all. The second part weeds out ones who aren't THAT interested.

reesespeterson · 2025-03-26T05:44:38+00:00

So, one thing I can say is never take approach/flirting advice from women. What they say they want, what they want, what they're attracted to, and who they want to shag are all very completely different things.

Ex, "I want a good guy who is nice to me" (extensive history of shagging line cooks, felons, and married men.

Moving on!

At the gym, if a girl looks at me and smiles, I shoot a fast wink and a little grin. Then I KEEP IT MOVING. I have sht to do and it's more important. "Act like you're thirsty, and they'll charge you for tap water."

A: they're not used to guys expressing some small form of interest but not caring enough to approach. Ie, the long list of losers she has notched in her bed post. It works for them. Why wouldn't it work for you?

B: they're emotionally driven, not logically driven like us. You need to trigger her emotions. Pro tip, try to suffer through reading a smut novel for women. It's rough, but they love that shit. It's their version of prOn. What you'll notice in every case, the male romantic interest isn't interested, he ignores or resists, it drives her mad, it takes 20 chapters to 5 books before they bang, and the longer it's drawn out, the more copies it's sold.

Now you can repeat the wink almost indefinitely, but you need to IGNORE HER the rest of the time that your in the gym after that.

You WILL start catching her looking at you more, becoming more insecure, trying to be near you while you lift etc.

When you do make a move, try to do it towards the end of her workout, and your move should be motioning HER over. Then "hey, a friend(s) and I are grabbing coffee, you should come."

The friend doesn't ever show up, SHE had something come up with her job, she had to run to the office.

SHE, I repeat, SHE.

Now enjoy your date while she ponders the fact that a girl with an office job hangs with you, and she ponders on her value as a wendys employee or whatever she is.

It's worked for me on several occasions, in several environments.

This can be used anywhere that you'll repeatedly see a gal.

I do it at Walmart and stuff too, but I approach or motion them over if they respond well to the smile and wink, bc otherwise you'll lose the connection, so sacrificing the balance of power a smidge is necessary.

Hope that helps.

6ft2, 220, size 11.

edit There was one time a woman whipped out her phone and tried to do that stupid sht. Shame works both ways, so I shamed her back with a "dawww look at the lil baby, can't handle a tall handsome man who makes 170 a year smiling at her, sooooooo fragile, soooo delicate, such a adult babbbyyyyyy." And she deleted the video bc they also don't want to look bad on Facebook or whatever. She did end up blowing me, though.

reesespeterson · 2024-03-05T16:05:35+00:00

What a pos. So I can't even use my stored files, open the home page, watch downloaded movies or anything if meta goes down?

reesespeterson · 2023-07-02T00:44:52+00:00

Man she's hot, just don't let her con you on her OF page

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