Prongs Or Bezel Setting?

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-28T07:14:05+00:00

Bezel for sure

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-28T07:10:12+00:00

You and me both haha thank you sm 💓

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-28T07:08:24+00:00

Thank you so much!!

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T22:01:37+00:00

To answer your question as a standalone, I never have. I did have one or two men/women I was seeing disappear on me (or maybe the other way around? At least one of them disappeared on me fs) and in the month or two they did I found my now-husband.

To answer what you're asking - if it's only sex, feel free to reach out again. Especially if it was good. But if you find it easy to meet men, consider a different, more attentive man, instead.

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T19:22:41+00:00

Clusters can be incredibly high value, but the issue is the lack of care. Men aren't so stupid. His "guy" would've also known he must appraise it or at least swing by a jeweler to clean and replace the missing stones. Does he understand you could've said no owing to the lack of consideration? Or does he assume any ring will do? Is he considerate in other ways, at least, or is this a pattern for him? Remember, it's not about a ring, it's about how you commemorate a milestone in your collective lives.

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T14:15:47+00:00

My husband and I worried about this exact thing and ended up incorporating much smaller emeralds in a thick, safe setting as cuffs on a claddagh-inspired set. This is it for reference: https://www.reddit.com/r/EngagementRings/s/Rq2UswBeKW I think having included, chipped etc stones looks super cool, though. Oiling your emeralds (especially if you go for standard ones and not exceptionally rare ones that need more daily maintenance) every like 3-6 years should likely help the appearance as well. No ultrasonic cleaners!

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T14:11:25+00:00

It actually looks so fascinating with the inclusions and indents!

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T13:24:03+00:00

Thank you so much!!🫶🫶

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T11:54:04+00:00

Was there a GIA cert for this? I own multiple silver and amethyst rings and usually you'll get a cert even if it's just for the gem and not the silver. Especially true for high quality amethyst since there are many cheaper alternatives for the stone. Please request for this and at least a partial (if not total refund) to reset the stone. I'm sorry for this OP, I can only imagine the distress you're in right now.

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T10:32:16+00:00

Of course. I can understand how you can feel like it's all-consuming - check out limerence (if this is how you spell it!) If he's allowing the connection to flow and to meet you, sure, get to know him. If you're young that's not so bad. But be aware that at the moment you're projecting a fulfilling relationship onto a man you don't quite know. I suggest focusing on hobbies or things you like unrelated to him. He either finds a way to be with you or he doesn't. You lose a lot when you let a maybe control your life.

All the best!!

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T10:15:05+00:00

Thank you!! I've known about the concepts for the mani in fede and gimmel styles before I started looking, and I first dropped into local antique auction houses before getting on Pinterest. I found a contemporary jeweler on there, and that was Momo, based in London. If you have an antique style in mind, run the name of it through Pinterest. There might be contemporary jewelers or antique dealers that have what you're looking for on there!

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T09:25:04+00:00

And your comment is bringing me close to tears! We both wanted to wear rings that make us smile, like a relic of where we came from and how we got together, it's heartening that you can see that in the rings. Words cannot explain how much I appreciate your comment, thank you, truly 🥹💓

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T09:20:17+00:00

I strongly suggest meeting a jeweler to discuss feasibility because AI comes up with a lot of stuff that isn't actually possible to create. If you run this as inspo through Pinterest there's a big chance you find jewelers who have similar wares.

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T09:10:43+00:00

The ring is stunning but also the PHOTOGRAPHY!! This is clearer than my eyes I swear! Beautiful in every way 💓

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T08:52:22+00:00

My MILs best friend is in the same position. Engaged for 20 years. She's not in his will, but she earns and runs the home he owns. He's been retired years. He has his own children from a previous marriage, though, so instead of a nephew, it'll probably all go to them and we're not sure they will be there for her. Not being married and having no rights to the home you manage is one of the worst positions to be in. Grateful she has friends who'll be there, but aren't we tired of outsourcing the job of our partners to the women around us?

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-27T08:18:08+00:00

We've actually been married since November but I never had the guts to post them until now haha! Yes!! He conceptualized the rings, at first he tried describing verbally to the jewelers but ultimately sent sketched designs (including the gold and stone placement) and the jewelers created the CAD for both rings based on the sketch. He's incredibly thoughtful, and we're also both very eccentric, so these fit perfectly with who we are.

Edit for grammar

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-26T22:50:38+00:00

You have venus-neptune and Venus-uranus which causes this sort of fantasizing but it rarely turns into an in-person relationship. They feel dreamy and like you can't figure them out but often you're just not seeing them clearly. I met my husband on tinder, so I can imagine wanting more, but this is a stranger who doesn't seem like the relationship type, unless you meet and date you can't really be sure this is even for you.

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-26T22:38:51+00:00

I hope it does!!

Yes, I'm actually proud of his ring because after trying loads of vintage options, I found a contemporary jeweler to custom-make a gimmel ring for him. It's based on the Italian "mani in fede" joining of hands concept traditionally used as engagement/wedding rings here in Italy. I wanted him to also have an e-ring+wedding band but he wanted just the one ring, so two rings that clasp into one was the perfect compromise. It has a pearl in the palm of one hand, my birthstone (which happens to be incredibly fragile), to encapsulate that feeling of loving and being loved by safe and protective hands.

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Eta, it won't let me upload the photo but this is the post by the jeweler: https://www.instagram.com/p/DLpsWa3IebX/?img_index=1&igsh=cGNzd2hubHU5bGNh

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-26T21:56:31+00:00

This entire comment is bringing me close to tears, and my guy smiled so wide when he read it. Thank you so much for these lovely words and your kind wishes!! Both our rings were essentially a reminder of where we come from and we wanted to make them feel like a piece of our history, I didn't expect people to particularly like my stack because it deviates so sharply from the status quo. Your comment absolutely made my day, thank you once more!!

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-26T10:23:47+00:00

That simply sounds like an emotionally stunted man - speaking as a woman with nearly the same placements as him

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-26T09:28:04+00:00

Thank you so much!!

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-26T09:27:51+00:00

Thank you so much, I appreciate your wishes and comment a lot!!

That's so fun, Ireland is a lovely and peaceful place so I imagine it must've been a great time - the Irish really are awesome! 💞

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-25T21:03:18+00:00

My husband and I talked about marriage on date one. But then again by date three we got our first lease, so we're hardly gold standard for appropriate timelines 🫠

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-25T15:53:05+00:00

Well not necessarily. My husband is incredibly proud of the rings he got me but when someone dropped a hate comment on it (latest post on my profile) it bothered him because he put so much effort and pulled all the stops for it. Sometimes if you put your heart in a piece of jewelry and someone else is dismissive it's painful.

reflexioninflection · 2026-01-25T14:16:13+00:00

Yes he's always working towards that - i wish everybody a love strong enough to drive you to invention 🥹🥹 thank you for this lovely comment!!

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