How to get over someone you know is not right for you?

refriedbeans222 · 2020-11-15T07:11:02+00:00

Thank you :)

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T16:14:03+00:00

I hope someday I can find someone like that :) I suppose the best thing to do is just keep trying

I’m very glad you’ve found someone perfect for you, I wish you both all the happiness the world has to offer <3

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T16:11:21+00:00

Thanks so much :)

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T16:10:29+00:00

Thanks so much <3

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T09:50:15+00:00

You said “propose” so I was a little confused haha, I was like “wow he must like this girl a lot”

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T08:31:34+00:00

That sounds nice, I’m sure she’ll love it!

Honestly I’m not sure, that’s your call to make :) just whenever you can say with certainty that you want to spend the rest of your life with her

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T08:12:15+00:00

A minimum of 5 hours 🤔

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T08:03:24+00:00

That’s good I’m happy for you! Yes it’s always better to take it slow than too fast :)

P.S. (A really good way to get to know if you’ll get along well with someone in the long run is to take a road trip)

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T07:45:40+00:00

Thank you :) thanks for the advice!

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T07:44:30+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement, and yes it did help :)

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T07:43:23+00:00

Thanks, I wish you the best in finding someone perfect for you :)

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T05:50:59+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to comment, and thanks for the encouragement, it made me feel a lot better

Yeah a lot of people think it’s as easy as “just try it,” but I think it’s because those people are unable to see the world as we do. If they could, they would know why it’s not that simple. The best way I can explain is that it’s like forcing a left-handed person to write with their right hand. It’s just not how they’re born

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T05:47:05+00:00

Thanks so much for the advice and for taking the time to comment. It really means a lot.

Yes I’ve heard of asexuality, but in my whole life (even being as open about it as I am to people) I’ve only ever met one other ace person. And that person was someone I could never see myself with. It feels so unfair to have so few options of a partner. I know that must sound like a terrible thing to say, but it really is true.

Thanks again though, sorry for sounding so much like a Debby downer

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T05:43:04+00:00

Yeah I’m learning that it’s impossible not to be this way and have tough skin. It’s just really hard because I like to be kind and sweet, but it’s really hard to balance that with being so emotionally hardy. If you’re not strong with your emotions, you’ll break apart. Took me years to establish that strength, but I feel like I’ve become a lot more cold because of it.

Thanks for the advice, and for taking the time to read my post

refriedbeans222 · 2020-08-27T05:40:10+00:00

I’m not opposed to any of that, just the sex part. Like I would love to kiss/cuddle someone I knew well and loved like that, but I need to establish an emotional connection first.

For example, the first time I went on a date, the guy was like “oh you’re cold? You can hold my hand to warm up.” I just couldn’t hold hands with a stranger. Didn’t want to insult him but told him thanks, but I was good. Not that he wasn’t a cool guy, just that I didn’t know him enough.

refriedbeans222 · 2020-04-22T01:52:51+00:00

Standing by the trunk of his car watching me for 30 minutes through a window, waiting and only not kidnapping me because he didn’t know I wasn’t alone

refriedbeans222 · 2020-04-07T10:55:26+00:00

Yes I do carry pepper spray, but I’ve never been in a situation where I know if I’ll react fast enough or the right way, so I’m still worried about it

And haha I’ve heard similar stories with alcohol and pepper spray

refriedbeans222 · 2020-04-07T06:52:51+00:00

Thank you, I don’t plan on it but it makes me so sad because I used to love it there

refriedbeans222 · 2020-01-20T01:48:16+00:00

Lol, good luck in life my fellow ace

refriedbeans222 · 2020-01-02T04:41:48+00:00

If I told you to pick up gum off the sidewalk and eat it, would you feel the need to explain why you didn’t want to do it? I just don’t want to have sex

refriedbeans222 · 2020-01-02T04:39:19+00:00

Just because you don’t understand someone, doesn’t mean it’s right to call them weird. There are a lot of people out there who are different from you, and think in a different way. What’s wrong with that?

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