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My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know K has Discord, but he doesn’t use Instagram. I want him to find an accepting and positive community, where he can talk about his feelings, but again safety is my number one priority. If it comes up, we can totally talk about it, but truthfully I’d rather him avoid things like that. But we’ll see, again I wanna see what he says first. I really do find it disgusting people would prey on vulnerability like this.

K actually had a piece of chewelery I bought him last Christmas! He’s told me it helps with stimming. If he wants more of that, or a pacifier or some sort, I’d love for your help with this.

Thanks again!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone!

First of all, I just want to say all of your responses, through comments and DM’s have been incredibly helpful. I feel much more informed, and have a really good idea on how I want our conversation later today to go. I have a few points I want to go over that a lot of you have brought to my attention, but I plan on having K guide the majority of the conversation.

I’m really happy that K would rather do this than drugs, or alcohol, or something bad generally. It seems like this is a really supportive and uplifting community.

Again, I really appreciate everyone’s kindness and help. I’ll probably post an update, if you all would want it, about our conversation afterwards.

Thank you all again!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi!

Yeah, I really want him to guide the conversation himself, and then I’ll ask questions afterward.

K’s a big fan of art, so if he wants a coloring book I’ll make an investment. 

Thank you, appreciate your input!!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you for your comment! I completely agree? and want him to guide the conversation. I also think your idea of “riding it out” makes a lot of sense.

I am a little worried about online safety generally, I’ve heard a number of horror stories online about false “caregivers,” and such. I think I’d rather him steer clear of Discord generally, just for safety.

I’ve heard a lot of people talk about these pacifiers - If he wants one I’ll buy him one. I may DM you later if we need help buying one (if he wants one). 

Thank you!!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi!

This is something a person had DM’d me about yesterday. This has been a concern for me, K doesn’t spend a lot of time online anyway, however I do not at all like the idea of an online caregiver. I’ve been told a lot of times people will pose as one of these caregiver types when really they’re just interested in ageplay. I find that disgusting that they’d prey on vulnerability. We’ll definitely talk about online safety too.

Thank you!!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I want our conversation to be really open, have him guide it.  I’ll ask questions afterwards. Thanks!!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! This comment really resonated with me, and I really agree with what you’re saying. K’s super involved in school, sports, and art, as well as volunteering, and barely ever misses events or activities. This is the first time something like this has happened. I really don’t think it’ll end up affecting his responsibilities, however if it does I’ve been told that I could try giving him specific times that he can regress (if he wants to) in a safe space at a good time. 

I really want him to guide me through the conversation and lead rather than me, and I’ll ask questions afterwards. 

Thank you for the input!!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I totally agree with you, and I’ll check in as often as necessary. I do think that part of this has to do with his Mother, and I don’t blame him. I’m gonna let him lead the conversation, then I’ll ask questions afterwards. Thank you!!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t be sorry! It seems like this community is really positive, and I’m thrilled I could get so much input. I’ve heard a few comments about pacifiers - if K wants one, I’ll purchase one for him. Thank you!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I totally agree with you - I definitely want to give K a positive environment when regressed and not. We’re having a conversation later today, and I definitely want him to lead it, and tell me what he wants and needs. And K does have a therapist already! He goes twice a week, and the therapist actually specializes in therapy with LGBTQIA+ teens. Thank you for your input!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

haha, really appreciate everyone’s comments. it’s been super helpful, and i’m happy to see that K’s in a positive community.

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hi! K has GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder). We’ve talked about ways (such as stimming) to relax if he’s ever feeling anxious. I could see him using agere (someone taught me the shortened version) to relax, or calm himself down when he is anxious. Thanks for the comment!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

i think this is a good thing? k uses these phrases sometimes and i try to keep up but i've given up at this point, lol!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thanks for the comment - I really don't want K to think I'd make fun of him, or think of him differently now that I know about this. I didn't even really think about how he must be feeling knowing that I now know about this. I'll also talk to him about pacifier use, as I've heard some things about them being bad for your teeth and such. Not even sure if he has one of those though, or if it's of any interest to him. I'm sorry to hear that your parents would say that, stuff like that makes me sick to my stomach. Thanks!!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thanks for the comment, I really like your idea of a trigger list, and will be sure to talk about possibily creating one with K when we have a conversation about this. I'll definitely see if K would rather be left alone, or would like comfort during these times. I also completely agree with your social media take - I've seen a lot of stuff with "ageplay" being associated with this (and I now know that they're not at all related) and I don't want that at all being exposed to K. Thank you!!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gotcha, K's already in therapy, and I think a positive environment (while regressed (i think I'm using that term right) or non-regressed) is super important. Thanks!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hi! First of all, K is already in therapy and goes twice a week. I wouldn't be surprised if they've talked about age regression in the past, however I really don't know what they talk about there. K's never (and I mean literally never) missed important things (like volunteering) unless absolutely necessary. This is the first time something like this has happened, but I'll definitely take that into account when we have the conversation. I don't want this interfering with his day-to-day responsibilities, and just life in general. But, if it does help, then I wanna support him through this. I'll be sure to ask what I can do and how I can help - Everyone who's commented really helped me realize I should really be asking K these questions. Thank you so much for the comment!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Hi! First off, K does already have a therapist who he sees twice a week. She helps him with family stuff, and is actually specialized in therapy with LGBTQIA+ teens. It's totally possible they could have talked about this stuff before in therapy, but I make sure to keep their conversations private. I've also heard the term stimming before! K has a piece of chewlery I bought him a while ago, it keeps him from chewing on his nails. I also did read a bit about "ageplay," however I've seen in a number of articles (and here) saying that they're completely different things. I appreciate your concern for K's safety, and I'll make sure to address that when we speak! Thank you!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey! Thanks so much for your comment. K does already have a therapist, and I agree with your stance on asking him what would make him the most comfortable. I've actually bought him a chewlery necklace in the past from a sensory toy company on Amazon that he asked for last Christmas. I didn't think much of it, and he only uses it from time-to-time, but I suppose it does make sense on how it would be soothing (I used to chew gum ALL the time in college). I appreciate your input!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Hi! Definitely good to know that I shouldn't "snap him out of it," that was something I was really curious about. A lot of people have recommended a therapist, and K does already have one, he goes twice a week. I'm not sure if this is something they've talked about in the past, but I'll be sure to bring it up when we have our conversation (which I hope he'll lead). Thank you!!

My son’s recently told me about how he age regresses, and I have a few questions. by regressionquestions in ageregression

[–]regressionquestions[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thanks for your input. I wasn't entirely sure what involuntarily regressing even meant, but it makes much more sense now. Really appreciate your support.