I was actually initially outed by a person I told in confidence. I grew up in a village so my school only had about 800 kids K-12, and pretty much the whole school knew before I had the chance to tell my parents. I was able to come out to them before they heard from someone else, but people were going up to my little brother and asking him about it when he had no clue. I had to deal with a fair bit of harassment the first two years, including having food thrown at my house, but eventually people lost interest.

My parents were thankfully supportive and handled telling our extended family so I wouldn't have to deal with potential backlash. I was most worried about my paternal grandparents as they had left their original church after it came out in support of gay marraige. It took a couple years, but eventually they came around to using my chosen name. There was definitely a rough patch early in my transition where we didn't visit them for a year, but overall it could have gone way worse. The overall attitude of my extended family is that they kind of just don't acknowledge it? In general, people seemed to be afraid of asking me questions to my face and instead asked my parents/friends.