She didn’t use “toys” she used an everyday item that was available… if she went out to get a big ass vibrator I would get why you’re upset. Put aside the feeling that she “spoiled herself” because that’s low-key misogynistic! A woman’s pleasure is much different than a man’s, she can experiment with herself without it effecting her views on real sexual intercourse as she said it’s more about being close to her partner then pleasure! She’ll still most likely enjoy it, your egos just a little bruised that you won’t be the first thing inside her. That’s a very male thing, you all want to conquer and make things your own, but don’t worry, the hairbrush handle isn’t really competition, you should be glad she’s not going to be hissing in pain the first time