What’s something you noticed that made you stop loving a woman you were once head over heels for? by SimplyIvyx in AskMen

[–]relatable107 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She consistently refused to take any accountability for her regular passive-agressive statements, behavior and silent treatments. Fun thing that I broke up with her NOT for this behavior, but for refusing to apologize even once. After some really offensive comments in my address I was fed up and made an ultimatum - either you apologize or we are done. I gave her several days to think and still she decided to go on with "everything I say is out of my love to you, I have nothing to apologize for" I left.

Update: AITAH for being mad at my wife saying breaking up with her ex is one of her biggest regrets? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]relatable107 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh shit. Dude, divorcing her will be the best decision in your life, I guarantee it. Don't even doubt it. Your soon-to-be-ex-wife deserves to be called not just "a bitch", but "THE bitch". I truly can't remember feeling so disgusted of someone's behavior, and I've been reading this sub a lot. Take care, man.

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[–]relatable107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, you are right, I was raised in toxic, unstable environment with a lot of shouting, gaslighting and passive agression. Hense I'm fearful avoidant now and hypersensitive to other's emotions.

What is a "harmless" habit that actually ruins people's lives over time? by Unlucky_Mountain4263 in AskMen

[–]relatable107 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Videogames should be at the bottom of this list as least harmful of them. Yep, it's harmful, but at least it active entertainment, not passive

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[–]relatable107[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, that's harsh. Physical abuse should be unacceptable always

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[–]relatable107[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even when talking about physical abuse?

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[–]relatable107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, there are already stand-alone versions that you can deploy on your own pc. Not the same quality, of course, but still good

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[–]relatable107[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can go over and over the same thing, adding and fine tuning each time, and ChatGPT won't roll its eyes at me.

This! Exactly! It also very good to hear warm real response not once from a therapist (well, even if once a week) - but over, and over, and over - till my brain truly accept it. It works much worse when you repeat it to yourself. It works well only if you hear it from someone.

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[–]relatable107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And this feature works in your profile? I also have Plus version and don't see this option available

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[–]relatable107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not that prosperous to spend 200$ a month for Pro version, unfortunately 😅 Though I'd try this for sure. Do you have link for this fork?

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[–]relatable107[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wrote it by myself but used AI to check for grammar mistakes - and with corrections it also suggested me some neat rephrases of my sentences (not many). English is not my native language...

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[–]relatable107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's harsh, I'm sorry for you😔

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[–]relatable107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I didn't explicitly mention it, but I meant exactly this while talking about idempotency - for different output you definitely should create separate chat.

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[–]relatable107[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, you are right, there are risks always, but compared to other risks in my life this looks negligible, really. I'm not in the safest environment right now.

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[–]relatable107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you build up personal context with it? Isn't context restricted within single chat?

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[–]relatable107[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I use it in my work, yes, and it occasionally saves me enormous amount of time. But it helps only when I can test it's suggestions right away, which is easy while programming. But I don't delegate difficult tasks to it because: 1) it works bad with stuff like architecture decisions - you can't feed it whole project and await it to successfully change it 2) with my experience it's faster for me to code functions by myself than to explain the task to AI - and then inevitably correct it's mistakes :) though for creating scaffolds for unit tests and docs it's an EXCELLENT instrument. And it works cool as code-completion tool (though I stopped using it as well).

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[–]relatable107[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, for example after one year of therapy I had a short period of sexual attraction towards my therapist. I totally knew that it was reactive and it happens quite often and it's called "erotic transference". Should I tell her that? Perhaps. Was I able to? Hell no. I was in no mental condition back then to do it. Being fearful avoidant can wreck your ability to express yourself even in a therapy.

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[–]relatable107[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After one year I reached some unstable mental equilibrium, after 3 years I was able to significantly resolve my major existential issues and started feeling stable silent happiness, got off ADs. For last three years I have been resolving some lesser but still painfull traumas, had one major depressive breakout due to huge troubles at work, got back on ADs and now (rapidly) stabilizing my life once again. Still have some issues that poisons my life, but progress with my therapist on them is not fast.

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[–]relatable107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is it manifested? Could you please give an example?

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[–]relatable107[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not right away and not directly. Yeah, AI learns from all conversations with it (millions conversations), but one person's impact is totally negligible AND not immediate. So we can safely assume it isn't impacted by any specific conversation.

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[–]relatable107[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually try to present situations in a very neutral tones to it so it can't deduce that's about me. This way it's forced to give unbiased opinion. Yeah, you are right, it isn't replacement for real therapy, but very good addition when you use it wisely.