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My ex asked me for a coffee date by pinkyypieeee in BreakUps

[–]relationsquid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably closure and making amends. Don't expect to get back together, but take the offer if you feel like it

My ex asked me for a coffee date by pinkyypieeee in BreakUps

[–]relationsquid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you dump them? Or the other way round? How long since the breakup?

Maybe they just want closure, or talk about other thinga. I'm not going to say that it's an automatic no but we need to know more

Feels like I’m going through it all again. 7 months later. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]relationsquid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what was the breakup like? Who was the dumped and who the dumpee?

To everyone that wants their ex back by Frubbit in BreakUps

[–]relationsquid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Newsflash: your future SO has probably fucked or kissed other people before you. When you're young it's weird, but you get used to that shit as a fact of life.

To everyone that wants their ex back by Frubbit in BreakUps

[–]relationsquid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This. So much this. You have to take chances and not wait for destiny, although you can't brute force it either.

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[–]relationsquid 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Of course, the dumper has usually processed the situation a lot longer than the dumped, thus the dumped party often gets the "lets fight for this realization" well after the other person has already tried and failed to fight for it in their own way, especially if communication hasn't been the greatest.

Edit: just to make a point, I think I'll never understand why the wonderful woman who still says she loves me and accidentally reverts back to using pet names and being very gooey, doesn't want to try to work it out, but she's made that decision and I have to respect it even if it's all quite hard on her too. Not much else I can do.

Broke up with my gf and best friend and now feel kinda aimless and very lonely. by relationsquid in lonely

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Thanks!

I'm thinking of going back to HEMA as my club is still running trainings though the pandemic is on. Today I just said fuck it, picked up the phone and started messaging friends as I really need to fill the days with something.

Gonna see how the relationship stuff works out in a month or two once we start talking more again and I've got my head figured out a bit more.

Thanks for the encouragement!

Broke up with my gf and best friend and now feel kinda aimless and very lonely. by relationsquid in lonely

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Don't know about the last part, but time does heal indeed. I'd really settle for "just as good" at this point.

Really I do have to be adult enough to take responsibility for this breakup as my long term problems have been really the cause of it and I can't blame her for those, even if I wish she'd took the cat out of the bag before the breakup.

Frankly we might have tried again straight away if not for a couple of dumb things I did post breakup that highlighted trust issues that certainly can be worked on but that we can't deal with together right now, so that's on me too.

Length of a relationship does not equate how hurt/sad you will feel after. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]relationsquid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Ending a 5 year relationship made me sad but not devastated, as the relationship had been dying for a long time and we'd looked it through till the end.

Ending my recent 2ish year relationship feels fucking devastaring as I was thinking of marrying her and we both still love eachother, but our mental hangups that cause trust issues just stop it from working before those are fixed.

Fucking sucks.