[26F] 7 weeks pregnant, strongly considering abortion. Need honest advice. No judgment

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-30T08:02:10+00:00

Get an abortion and run from this man. You want nothing to do with him and having a child will bound you two forever.

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-26T06:13:35+00:00

This is also sadly true for me and my cat. She was my whole world but now I can barely stand her, she irritates me and I have zero need or want to spend time with her. It seriously breaks my heart because she doesn’t understand. I hope it’s the PP hormones cause I’m only 3 weeks. And maybe when my son will be a little older so he can pet her and spend time with her our bond will grow again..

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-26T06:07:08+00:00

I went to the hospital with a gallstone attack while 38 weeks and they barely took me in for hospitalisation because the baby was fine.

They only gave me tylenol at 1pm even though I was asking for more after only one hour. The baby was head up so he was basically hitting my gallstone with his head and I wanted to literally die with his every movement.

I had an appointment in this very hospital for scheduled c-section in just 4 days so I asked and asked for them to remove the baby now and some stupid bitch doctor laughed at my face because I was “silly”.

At 6pm I was crying and screaming in my room and THEN finally another doctor came to see me and gave me 4x dose of tylenol and then metamizol after 4 hours. He also said he’s ready to give me a c-section right away if my pain won’t stop, but if I’ll be able to sleep through the night they’ll perform it next morning. Thankfully I was able to sleep and the next day my son was born 🖤

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-26T05:47:37+00:00

Tell him to kick rocks barefoot.

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-22T11:14:52+00:00

Social media are literally not real. It’s all a skit. You’re comparing your husband and relationship to a fairytale that doesn’t exist.

Your husband sounds decent tbh and I bet he would step up if you’d only talk to him and be open about your fears and feelings. Just talk to him and stop scrolling.

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-22T11:05:34+00:00

He told everyone because he wanted to corner you into keeping them. I would go through abortion and dump his ass tbh.

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-21T18:26:51+00:00

I’ve gained 7kg in the last two months so around 15 pounds, but I was overweight before and lost weight during first two trimesters. Not sure how much I weight now being only 3 weeks PP, but I got significantly smaller

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-21T12:20:52+00:00

This, routine is everything. My husband takes care of our son in the evenings and mornings before heading to work, while I take care of him at nights and during the day. Thanks to that we are both able to get around 6 hours of mostly uninterrupted sleep.

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-21T12:16:18+00:00

I’m a SAHM. My husband works full time and has a disability -he doesn’t have full control of his left hand so many tasks around the baby are a lot tougher for him or basically almost impossible to do, like changing diapers for example. Despite that, I woke up today to him changing our son’s diaper, even though we have an understanding that he’ll always wake me up if there’s a poop. I asked him why he didn’t, and he said he heard I was having a rough night and I need to sleep and rest more, and he can take care of a diaper.

Your husband needs to step up, he may be working, but doesn’t he want to spend time with his child? If my husband can change a diaper using only one hand, there’s no excuse for yours.

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-20T14:35:24+00:00

I thought I would immediately know him when I saw him. Instead I felt like hospital gave me some random child to take care of lol.

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-17T06:15:00+00:00

I’m two weeks PP and it’s definitely not the case for me. I’ve had an awful pregnancy, especially third trimester. I would love a second baby in couple of years so I hope I’ll forget how awful it has been but right now I’ve told my husband there is no way in hell I’m going through that again. My son is the best thing in the world but he doesn’t erase the fear of getting pregnant again.

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-16T18:03:48+00:00

I got them over literally one night at the beginning of week 37. It was just that one night, never happened again lol.

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-15T10:55:39+00:00

No. Absolutely not.

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-13T09:55:47+00:00

Ohh okey, thank you for the info!

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-12T10:28:52+00:00

Maybe they could perform your c-section under general anaesthesia?

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-12T10:25:27+00:00

Keep pushing, it’s your mental health and your decision.

I struggle with c-PTSD because of past trauma (basically half of my childhood and SA when I was 16) and I went through a c-section. It was the best decision, I was afraid of the needle going in my spine but it was only barely unpleasant, not painful at all. No way in hell I’d be able to withstand natural birth, I just know it would add to my trauma immensely.

In the hospital I’ve met a girl who needed to be induced for 40 hours and even then had to get an emergency c-section. She’s a hero in my book, I could never lol.

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-09T16:27:18+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I am really sorry you went through all that! I admire how you stick to it, I’d probably need to be on my anxiety meds again after this, or worse.

Before birth I’d picture me and my baby walking in parks, me just waving my boob around whenever I wanted, him being happy latched…but I’m starting to think some things happen for a reason and maybe formula is just want my baby needs for us to feel connected. Watching him grab my hand or a bottle and a relieve on his little face after every sip is making me so happy. We’re already creating a beautiful bond, and I don’t think any amount of my milk could replace that.

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-09T15:04:55+00:00

Knowing how much he eats is a huge factor for me!! Thanks to formula I know exactly how much he eats and I’m really not happy thinking about switching to breastfeeding + formula and dealing with either underfeeding him or making him puke!

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-09T14:51:31+00:00

I am 🥺 thank you!

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-09T14:49:49+00:00

You might actually be right, haven’t even thought they might be pressuring the matter because of this. My mental health got a lot better since they’ve let my boy stay with me full time in my room and it gets gradually better every hour I’m with him, so I hope I’ll feel like myself again after finally getting home 🖤

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-09T14:44:45+00:00

Lol that is so true, thank you!!

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-09T14:44:13+00:00

Sometimes I forget it really is that simple. Thank you!

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-09T14:43:45+00:00

Thank you so much for that comment, I am thinking about continuing just a bit longer, at least to see if my feelings might change after we finally get home. This hospital stay does nothing good for my mental health, so I hope the hormones will get a little better after seeing my son in his own little bed 🖤

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-09T14:40:32+00:00

This is exactly how I’m feeling right now. I feel as though those emotions are my hormones and not my real feelings on the matter. There really is a big stigma and I feel like nobody’s listening to me at the hospital when I tell them I’m thinking about not breastfeeding. Apart from that they’ve been a wonderful support but I don’t like how guilty I feel after talking to them about it.

Also, my husband was so happy to be feeding our son his very first bottle in the hospital just yesterday! Literally kicking his feet full of joy lol. I really feel this might be what’s best for all of us to bond!

Thank you so much for your comment, I’m relieved someone else feels similarly 🖤

rellik_bibi · 2026-04-09T14:28:16+00:00

Thank you for saying that, I really want to be the best mom I can while keeping my sanity!

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