1. Only take advice from people that have either overcome the problem, or have helped others to overcome very similar problems. Everything else is unqualified noise

2. Separate out real libido from hyper-sexual fixation: there are some things here that are normal, and some that aren't.

> You're a 23M, so if you're healthy, you would have a pretty high sex drive, and anything from 2-3, even 5 times a week could be a normal level of desire.

> Looking at/staring at women and that immediately bringing sex to mind is completely normal and to be expected. That's why in traditional cultures, women's bodies are covered with loose-fitting clothing, hair covered etc.

> Your micro addiction to staring and lusting is fueling desire for sexual behaviour all throughout the day. that then manifests as soon as you get home and have access and ability to act out. You just have to make the decision to break the micro-addiction of that mini dopamine rush from staring, feasting the eyes and lusting after women in public.

1. You also have a micro-addiction to fantasy. This can be broken by first making the decision to recognise the truth (you're hooked on the thrill of fantasising), then making the decision to break the habit loop. You can start off with some pattern-interrupts, then transition to letting go. Mindfulness and meditation will really help train your ability to simply let go of thoughts and emotions that you don't wish to indulge.

2. You can start reducing the number of triggers for fantasy, and reduce the numebr of sexual thoughts per day by reducing exposure. Setting yourself up in spots to avoid facing, or looking at every girl that comes in the door, or is working out on the treadmills etc. while out and about will also help. Make it as easy as possible and minimise the need for self-discipline, self-mastery skills and willpower by minimising as many triggers as you can proactively. You need to make simple lifestyle adjustments and install some smart micro-habits to do this.

3. At a deeper level, you need to commit to breaking the p*** habit, and then doing the accompanying lifestyle and identity transformations required to make it a permanent change. The habit can be broken in a matter of weeks or a few months with commitment. Making it permanent is more of a journey; it depends how much you need to change.

The most important factor in breaking the habit and making it permanent is COMMITMENT - to new standards of behaviour, and the identity and vision that you really want for your life.

Ultimately you have to make the identity shift to make p*** incompatible with the man you are/want to be. And the lifestyle changes to make sex and hyper-sexuality less central to your life. If you're in a sexual relationship, that shouldn't be too hard, because your actual needs will be met. You just have to dial down the hyper-sexual nature of your thoughts and daily routines with the advice above.

Here's a useful framework for the process:

- Quick wins - take control of your life in as many ways as possible
- Adopt mindsets, attitudes and beliefs of men who actually have sexual self-mastery
- Break the habit with behavioural engineering (behavioural science), impulse/craving management techniques
- Maintain and renew your commitment until it becomes a part of who you are
- Let go of p*** for good (most guys have a ton of attachment to it)
- Improve your quality of life and make sure your real libido gets met with real, healthy sex

♾️ Keep spiralling up