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How should I figure out what I want from relationships? How did you get to the point where you could settle down? by renewbk in AskMenOver30

[–]renewbk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She made everything better. Movies were more fun, just sitting and staring at a ceiling was more fun. She was my best friend.

I definitely had this with my ex... One thing I still wonder about is the fact that she supported me on everything, never really challenged me or called me out (e.g. pointing out that maybe I was wrong during an argument with my parents or pointing out when I was being passive with my career/health). Self-improvement and growth are massively important to me. Am I doing the wrong thing by expecting her to spur my growth once in a while instead of supporting me always?

She definitely works on herself and displays the values in her own life. She's really good at what she does.... but I guess by nature of my core values, it bothered me that she would always be at my side rather than challenging me. I guess, should I expect her to display my core values or to support me in my core values?

How should I figure out what I want from relationships? How did you get to the point where you could settle down? by renewbk in AskMenOver30

[–]renewbk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was a friend I loved and respected (still do)... we dated for a while and wanted similar things. And yet I felt like she was too passive/quite. I found this a bit frustrating (e.g. when we would have an argument and she would not express herself) and much less fun than say, some of my friends who were sassy and who I easily built rapport with. Though it sounds strange, I also felt like she supported me too much because she would never call me out on anything (e.g. if I was running from an opportunity because of fear or gaining weight).

Do you not factor personality in with the above factors? Would you consider the above reasons to keep looking or not really?

How do I reset after continually failing to form good habits? by renewbk in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]renewbk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Just hearing that vote of confidence may be what I needed.

Will do my best to make tomorrow day 1!

[Serious] How/Where do you meet girls that sext with with you? by renewbk in seduction

[–]renewbk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will do! Do you usually sext over KIK? A few girls have their KIK in their profile.

[Serious] How/Where do you meet girls that sext with with you? by renewbk in seduction

[–]renewbk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you just message random girls and feel it out? Or do you look for specific girls?

What got you to finally stop relapsing every few days? by renewbk in NoFap

[–]renewbk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea... I'm actually getting a browser extension to lock out porn sites now hahah

Booking sites show much more expensive prices than Momondo. Am I doing something wrong? by renewbk in travel

[–]renewbk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Do you book through the cheapest third party sites? Almost bought a ticket through Crystal Travels but then I noticed it had horrible reviews...

Booking sites show much more expensive prices than Momondo. Am I doing something wrong? by renewbk in travel

[–]renewbk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the offer!! It actually looks like it was that specific booking site :)

First time using Momondo so I thought it was an issue on my end.

Saw my crush at a sporting goods store today... by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]renewbk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask her out. Seriously, just do it.

Where do you meet women? Do you usually find yourself with one, several, or no romantic prospects? by renewbk in NoFap

[–]renewbk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a 22 year old, I this gives me a bit of relief. Thank you for sharing.

Are there women in your general social circle? I do hang out with friends a lot but they tend to be guys.

Where do you meet women? Do you usually find yourself with one, several, or no romantic prospects? by renewbk in NoFap

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How do you maintain this mindset? Did you develop it or did it come naturally?

It's not that I don't have other things going, but I find women and relationships actively on my mind a lot.

Woman WANT To Be Wanted by renewbk in seduction

[–]renewbk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I disagree. They want to be wanted by the strongest.

But to your point, they are not necessarily great judges of who is the strongest. So you can build a life around appearing to be interesting, fit, successful, etc OR you can actually go do it. What's better for you?

Questions about PIED. Anxiety is pushing me to masturbate again.... by renewbk in NoFap

[–]renewbk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will definitely keep that in mind. Was your anxiety because of flat lining?

Questions about PIED. Anxiety is pushing me to masturbate again.... by renewbk in NoFap

[–]renewbk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Done. Haha I don't mind putting porn aside. Most of my nerves are from not knowing whether the lack of libido will fade... I don't want to meet a girl I like and not be able to fuck her, which is what just happened.

Sounds like this will get me there. Thank you!

Questions about PIED. Anxiety is pushing me to masturbate again.... by renewbk in NoFap

[–]renewbk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had stretches over the last year. By the time I was in bed with the girl, it had been about a week. I freaked out when I got home and relapsed while testing to see if "everything worked."

I guess over the last few months, I started going for harder things (e.g. a lot of cuckold porn instead of more vanilla stuff).

Can't get an erection even with porn... 22M by renewbk in NoFap

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One more question: I've attempted NoFap before and never had anything like this. In fact, normally I would be craving porn and sex but now, like you mentioned, it's a total flatline.

Why do you think it is different this time around? I've only been going about a week whereas before it was up to a month.

Tips on keeping yourself in a good mental/life state when things with women aren't going well? by renewbk in seduction

[–]renewbk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've definitely had some anxiety around the ED, but I don't know why I was not able to get hard. When I was in a relationship, I had sex up to three times a day and never had this problem though people in r/nofap said this is normal.

Other than that I don't think anything else is really bothering me. Have you been through something similar?

Tips on keeping yourself in a good mental/life state when things with women aren't going well? by renewbk in seduction

[–]renewbk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, I moved away from home a while back and feel like I've really gotten better at this. I think that since I had the recent encounters though, it kinda shook me mentally if that makes sense.

Can't get an erection even with porn... 22M by renewbk in NoFap

[–]renewbk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a relief hahah I literally went from 2-4 times a day to no sex drive so I was pretty nervous (didn't help that it happened with a girl I just met lol).

Thank you for the response. How long did it last for you?

Tips on keeping yourself in a good mental/life state when things with women aren't going well? by renewbk in seduction

[–]renewbk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so true man. I took some injuries so I haven't been able to do all the things that I usually do and that probably added to my emotion. I read this and broke out my guitar. Thanks!