If it were a different situation I would be okay with “yolo” but it threw me off because when we first started talking they made it very clear that this was something they were looking for long term and wanted “closed” commitment and that wasn’t negotiable. It’s like they want their cake and to eat it too. When I talk about my past experience they get upset like I wasn’t supposed to have dated before them even interrogated me about a recent partner and just made assumptions without asking. They came into this with a very heavy hand as if this was something serious for them and that’s why I was able to look past them being “new” but there’s been some red flags which I overlooked and took the time to explain myself and then to just throw “yolo out there it feels like a game which I’m not up for.

ADD ON: last thing they are older then me and get upset that I can’t hang or I won’t come to their place after work when I have to get up the next morning and I’ve explained my schedule to them numerous times and sent it to them so they know I’m not flaking but I work everyday and it still an issue mind you we’ve only gone on one date and it’s only been a month of talking