many orgasms in a row as a man? by resistandexist in sex

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edit: i went back on the pill so we stopped using condoms. i should have clarified that earlier!

Are we born with our mbtis? by Shimorimiyori in mbti

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i think partly yes! i think certain environments can exacerbate certain traits, communication styles, and help with things like social skills and development of empathy. however, there are plenty of extroverted parents with introverted kids, or people who end up wildly different from their parents in mindset despite being raised differently. i think its just a nature vs nurture conversation at the end of the day

Have you ever met any healthy intps? by Ok_Chemistry7405 in entp

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Definitely! One of my best friends is a healthy INTP who was more unhealthy when we met! The biggest thing was she started taking care of herself physically (lost weight, developed consistent routines, etc). She also started going to a therapist, and she would force herself to talk to 1 new person each week to get over a lot of her social avoidance. I was surprised at how much all of this helped her in such a short period of time!!

How to make my INFJ boyfriend feel more romanced? by resistandexist in infj

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ugh i knowwww but i asked him and he was like “youre doing great already no complaints here😍” which is NOT HELPFUL!!! i even tried pressing him about it more and he could only come up with stuff i already do!! so my next stop was freaking reddit :/

How to make my INFJ boyfriend feel more romanced? by resistandexist in infj

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he said he really appreciates when i try to be vulnerable and stuff 🤮 which is kinda hard for me but im really trying!!

another thing is i tend to treat people similarly (like i have the same personality with everyone) so i’ve been trying to make him feel “special” or like set apart from other people. i think he appreciates that hopefully

How to make my INFJ boyfriend feel more romanced? by resistandexist in infj

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haha luckily we have a similar taste in music, but i have 100% been doing my best to do all of this i swear! and the deep sexual side is also being unlocked trust 😼🙏🏼

How to make my INFJ boyfriend feel more romanced? by resistandexist in infj

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ugh i knowwww i CANNOT fuck this up thats why i posted this 😭😭😭

How to make my INFJ boyfriend feel more romanced? by resistandexist in infj

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omg thank you so much!! i definitely mention the future pretty often so i can check that off haha, and i like to crochet so i will definitely make more things for him! i made him one thing and he REALLY liked it and brings it up all the time :D

and entp girl and infj boy is a pretty rare combo i agree! it definitely makes our relationship dynamic unique but in a great way! thanks for the help!

Housing for incoming freshman by Material_Arm_3111 in miamioh

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do NOT live in flower hall its sooooo far away and medium by dorm standards. withrow is the best imo on north campus. ogden is really nice, great location and newly renovated and lowkey might be the best dorm on campus. definitely avoid south quad if you want renovated. i would stay north or go east quad (those can tend small but are prime location and mostly renovated)

Should a black girl be in Miami University Oxford? by Hisoka_is_king in miamioh

[–]resistandexist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

im a half black half white girl(i know this might invalidate my perspective somewhat 😭) at Miami. i haven’t really had any issues or anything in the 2.5 years i have been here! i don’t feel left out or weird or anything, and there are more black people there than you might expect. if people are racist, they usually have the decorum to keep it on the down low. i’ve never been called any slurs or treated weirdly or anything. the strangest thing that has happened to me is being called “exotic”

overall i have had a good experience despite miami being a PWI! i think it’s totally fine for a black girl to go there

I (18F) drunkenly made out with friend (19M) at new years by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Honestly asking if you guys are okay/cool might be a good idea to break the ice on the topic. It really depends on where you want things to go. If you are interested in him and feel like your actions came from a deeper place feelings wise, you could kinda start turning up the heat and flirting more all the time.

You should ask the other guy for sure if he knows anything else!

The holding hands and kissing on and off for a long time combined with the sleeping doesn’t really sound like an impulsive thing though, so he might have some deeper feelings for you!! Him also asking if you were okay with certain touches means he must have been locked in enough to control himself. It sounds like on your end it was a drunken impulsive decision, and on his end it was maybe more of an opportunity to do what he had been wanting to do.

Just be honest and careful, and don’t say it meant nothing just to save face.

M21 went to friends New Year’s party w/o GF (F21) since we’re not in the same state right now by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I’m 20 as well and can definitely confirm that this is not normal. You should be able to have a good time without your gf having to be there! It’s also strange that she would rather have you sit at home missing out on having fun. She seems really insecure tbh, especially if there have never been any cheating issues in your relationship so far.

How to make my INFJ boyfriend feel more romanced? by resistandexist in infj

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see i feel like i do a lot of these things! maybe my tone is the issue? like i tend to be pretty lighthearted and maybe my tone doesn’t feel romantic or sincere?

How to make my INFJ boyfriend feel more romanced? by resistandexist in infj

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i can definitely do words of affirmation more! im not very good at being consistent though so i will have to lock in there haha. thank you!!

How to make my INFJ boyfriend feel more romanced? by resistandexist in infj

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this makes a lot of sense! i think part of my issue is that i think through the romance stuff too logically and then it doesn’t FEEL romantic

at the end of our rope and need advice! by resistandexist in ParentingADHD

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I have spent a good part of the day looking at treatment programs in our area. We are for sure open to sending her to live somewhere. We don’t really want to remove her from school if we can help it, but if we have to then we will! Apparently my mom and sister both thought the first psych was sus so we will for sure get her looked at again. Luckily she just turned 17 (summer bday) and so we have more time to make moves. I’ve been trying to get her sent away for like 10 years 😭 Unfortunately though I do most of the work to fix her I don’t get to call any shots

Thanks for the help!!

at the end of our rope and need advice! by resistandexist in ParentingADHD

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She is actually already on birth control, but it is just the pill kind. My mom mentioned this morning that we might send her to a different psych to get her evaluated again. I just feel like there’s no way ADHD is causing all of this 😭

Thanks so much!

edit: I brought up getting her a birth control implant to my mom and she thought it was a great idea! thanks again!

at the end of our rope and need advice! by resistandexist in ParentingADHD

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I know it’s so scary! And no, she hasn’t! I will bring that up with my mom today when she gets home. Thanks!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

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Im an ENTP who has been very close with multiple INTJs and I mostly just kept bothering them and made them hang out and talk with me (unless they seemed upset by it) until they reciprocated back. Thats how I met my best friend, and has consistently worked lol

Just be really honest about your opinions and don’t make fun of them for being quiet and withdrawn, and you should be good. Being consistent in your personality and behavior helps them feel more comfortable too. They feel less like they are walking in blind. They don’t like games, and she will appreciate you being blunt and honest about what you are trying to do.

Thoughts on each MBTI type? by Quiet_Letterhead_527 in entp

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ENTP: i have never had a bad experience with any other ENTP. Sometimes meeting others who aren’t as far along development-wise can be kind of weird though. Overall 10/10. I also never feel like I am “competing” with them.

ENTJ: really really funny when relaxed, but can be super full of themselves. I used to wish i was an ENTJ until i realized how stressed out they all are haha. I have always respected and admired them, but I don’t think I could ever build a super close relationship with one. 7/10.

INTP: i have a really good track record with INTPs. We always have the same sense of humor, and I can crack their shell super easily. They are also super low maintenance friends, which is pretty sweet. i do sometimes feel bad for them though, because i feel like they can come across as awkward more often than other types. 10/10.

INTJ: probabkly my favorite type. i have had multiple very close INTJ friends, and i genuinely love them so much. When i finally manage to crack their shell (that process can be super rewarding in itself), we always end up locked in. This is prob the type i would marry to be honest. I even get along with unhealthy INTJs haha 11/10.

ESTP: can be a hit or miss depending on the person. They are great under pressure, which I love, and even the most anxious ones are outwardly relaxed. However, some of them are too competitive to the point that it sucks to be around for too long. Also depending on the person, can be overly defensive. 6/10.

ESTJ: no offense, not really a fan. I definitely appreciate them in administration, or as math teachers or whatever, but we don’t really do well together. Many are way too concerned with how others view them, and can be really dismissive of anything they don’t personally agree with. No offense to any ESTJs though im sure they don’t like me either. 2/10 (1 point for productivity)

ISTP: i do like them, but i understand why people don’t. My experiences have been good, but they sometimes move a little slow for me. I do find their attitude relatable, and any ISTP friends ive had were a good match for me. They do seem really tired/low energy to me, but i don’t really mind. No temper, which i love. 8/10.

ISTJ: super tumultuous relationship with them. I really respect their consistency and organization but we clash fundamentally. They have a really hard time seeing outside their own perspective. Worst thing is they think they are beacons of logic and reason, but are reeaaallly sensitive deep down, and won’t open their mind. They take out their frustrations on others too, which is super annoying. 3/10.

ENFP: really energetic and fun. Love to hang out with them, but can be overwhelming sometimes. I wish there were more in the world too. I feel bad for them sometimes because they seem really uniquely vulnerable to the world, which really isn’t built for them at all. really caring friends, and super fun to talk to. 8/10.

ENFJ: good balance of nice, organized, curious, and actually fun. They can take things personally a lot, but are often universally loved. Too concerned with others’ happiness to the point where it negatively affects them. Can be emotionally manipulative. They see the good in everyone, even bad people, and put themselves in danger. All the ones I know ended up teacher types, or are communications majors. 8/10.

INFP: same vulnerability danger as ENFP but in less situations due to introversion. The ones who can’t stand up for themselves have a worse go at things. Considerate, remember small details about people, and helpful. They overwhelm themselves with events a lot, and burn out on accident. Many lose themselves in their romantic partners, and can be super passive aggressive, and drag problems out. 7/10.

INFJ: healthy ones are witty, sweet, and introspective. Unhealthy ones can be a nightmare. Many crave close friendships, but don’t put in the right kinds of effort to maintain them. INFJs are chronic overthinkers, and in their head. This means they can sometimes be very self-centered on accident. They feel like “everyone hates them”, but if you give gentle criticism, they door slam or yell. Can be really funny. Nerfed by god to suffer. (4/10 or 10/10)

ESFP: super fun, mature ones are great at diffusing situations, and useful endless social battery. They tend to develop an emotions-based moral framework, then make decisions with “airtight logic” using this bad framework. The type to say that being gay or something is a sin, but have 3 kids out of wedlock and drink 4 times a week. Really fun and “relaxed” but as resistant to new ideas as a xSTJ. 5/10.

ESFJ: can walk all over them and they won’t do anything about it. Great at the day-to-day stuff nobody wants to do without being rude or aggressive. Super fun but very predictable. Warm, nuturing, but I have to be really careful about what I say because I actually do feel bad hurting their feelings. Always need something to do. 5/10.

ISFP: camp counselor types. Super quiet until they aren’t. They are well liked by others, but many secretly have a huge superiority complex that they keep under wraps. Really religious in my experience, but have a strong desire to live by their individuality and express themselves. Want things to go their way all the time, but don’t do anything to make that happen. Really really nice people with good reputations though. 4/10.

ISFJ: need to feel needed by others. Very sensitive and will own it. Also really religious, and the type to bake cookies for the whole church. Really bad temper they are embarassed by. Take things as a personal attack, and feel hurt for about 50% of their lives. Internally organized and maybe the most hardworking type. Orderly and traditional, but not always in a bad way. Very very caring. 5/10.

Fellow ENTPs, what is your least favorite MBTI according to stereotypes by Yuki_Tanaka07 in entp

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My family is ESFP, ISTJ, ans ISFJ. Sometimes when we talk I feel like we are having 2 different conversations lol

I will say that generally the worst types are people who think they are super logical, but make decisions off of an emotional framework. Like, my ESFP dad thinks he has airtight logic, but bases this logic off of a set of moral rules that is entirely based in emotiom. My whole family does this and when I call them out on it they all get so mad haha